# The importance of good communication #
As the child grows up, the mind matures little by little. The growth rate of children is amazing, and parents often lament, "A small person can say such a thing."
Parents are also increasingly feeling that simple commands are not a better way to communicate with their children.
If the family communication is not smooth, it will affect the child's mental health, so parents should learn to establish good communication with their children.
In addition to using some communication skills, it is more important to use your own emotional intelligence, take the communication with the child seriously, read the child's heart, and it is not so difficult to communicate.
#01 Know and understand children
Allow yourself to first enter the child's heart, stand in his position to understand his experience, voice, emotions, hobbies and difficulties encountered, but also affirm their strengths.
Learn to be a good listener, so that children are more willing to open up and speak freely with their parents.
#2 Allow the child to explain
Partial listening is dark, and listening is bright, and you can't listen to the accusations of one party, and you must allow the child to explain it himself.
Parents remain neutral and objectively evaluate whether their children are doing wrong and why they are doing wrong.
#3 Choose the right time
Don't criticize your child when he gets up, before going to bed, when he eats, or when he is sick, as this will directly affect his physical and mental health.
It is best to sit down with the child and communicate calmly, parents can make requests to the child, and the child can also give advice to the parents.
#4 Adopt a kind attitude
Criticizing children ≠ scolding children, parents can not vent their emotions to their children, they should point out mistakes concisely and concisely, and then educate. Don't turn over old accounts without moving, let the child resist admitting mistakes, and disobey discipline.
#5 Respect and trust children
In the family, you can often hear such words as "children understand something", "Adults talk children don't interject", "Go, bring the book", "Write homework quickly"...
If parents use this tone of contempt and command to communicate with their children, how can they talk about respect and trust? How can a child be willing to communicate with an "adult" who does not respect and trust him?
In addition, it is easier to hear their voices than to have a serious discussion.
British educator Spencer said: "What are children thinking? What kind of problems are you facing? The child's inner world is like a box full of secrets. ”
In order to truly understand the psychology of children and find an education method suitable for children, parents need to work hard to communicate with children.
When entering the child's inner world, parents and children can get along more harmoniously.
Get along well with your parents, and your child won't need to rebel.
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