Children are a book, from childhood to adolescence, from adolescence to youth, parents are turning back page after page, but it is very difficult to really understand it. Parents often exclaim that the older the child, the less they understand him. But parents, have you really gotten to know your children? Have you paid attention to your child's voice? How should I pay attention to my child's voice?
First, it is best not to grow up yourself
Every child likes lively and humorous parents, in front of the child, we should be parents, should also be children, but also play and make trouble, so that the child will treat you as a friend without saying anything, why do many children like some make-up teachers, it is because they are like children from the inside out, so that children can not like these big children full of humor? Will the child not confide in them?
Second, understand the fun, know how to change the pattern to communicate with the child
Positive conversation is also possible, but this communication is often deepened by parents into preaching, and the result will only make the child think that you are long-winded, that you are annoying, and that the older child is especially older. Therefore, tell them more stories, talk about opinions, and discuss current affairs, and subtly influence his thinking.
There is another way to communicate, that is, to read a book with the child, take a notebook each, and write down the feeling and understanding of reading the book, this feeling of mutual learning is also very good.
Third, look at your children head-on
Sometimes you will encounter a situation where the child talks about his understanding and opinion to the mother about something, and his face is focused, while the parents are careless. At this time, what will the child's heart think? Adults have a need to be respected by others, so children don't need respect?
In daily life, we must first stand in the child's position, put yourself in the child's place to experience the child's true feelings, more understanding of the child, less of the child's reprimand, only in this way, can we strengthen the communication between parents and children, create a relaxed atmosphere for the growth of children, you can enter the child's spiritual world, become the child's spiritual mentor.
Fourth, be your child's best friend
A mother often says to her child: You and your mother are the best friends, your joy, forgiveness, sorrow, and happiness all affect your mother's heart, you are happy, your mother is happy, and when you encounter something unpleasant, your mother will be more sad than you. No matter what difficult or difficult things you encounter, your mother will give you ideas, discuss solutions with you, and will never scold you for what you have done. Therefore, the child trusts her very much and is willing to tell her the truth and say nothing.
Education should not only be concerned with how he studies, but ignore the psychological and ideological education. It is the root of the tragedy that emphasizes the light of thought.