Seeing people's hearts over time, this is also the truth of raising children.
As the saying goes, there is no filial piety in a long-term bed, even if the biological parents are sick in bed, the children will lose patience after a long time, and the negative energy is full of complaints.
In the face of such a situation, what can parents do except endure and chill? Why can I face my child without reservation, but I can't change my child's heart to heart?
The voice of the post-60s aunt: After a serious illness, I found that the happiness index of selfish parents in their later years was higher
Nowadays, the post-60s aunts have reached the time of enjoying their old age, three generations of the same house is not a fool's dream, and the age of 60+ has witnessed the growth of 2 generations.
Moreover, according to today's maintenance methods and mentality, even the post-60s aunt looks refreshed, even more than many young people' spirits.
However, the aging of organs is still inevitable, just like the machine that has been working for more than 60 years, more or less there are places that need to be repaired, coupled with sometimes overwork, it is not uncommon to go in and out of the hospital.
Sensible old people can endure and endure, and they cannot get the care of their children
As an old man, he has struggled for his children all his life, and has dedicated all his youth and money to his children, they have long been accustomed to serving children, as long as they can still walk and move, they will not cause trouble to children.
Moreover, such old people have become the norm in society, as if it is a conventional thing, the old people are to understand things, for the sake of children, not only can not trouble children, but also squeeze out their last bit of value.
In this way, these old people do not have any time to enjoy life, even after the children have established a family, the grandchildren also need to manage themselves, even if they were alone, but now they have to continue to dedicate themselves.
However, sensible elderly people are often unhappy. Because they have lost themselves. Even if you are unwell, you grit your teeth and insist because you don't want to bother your child, until finally you can't hold on, and the disease breaks out.
When such a situation occurs, you must also accept the complaints of the children, complain that they ignore their bodies, complain that they are strong, and even complain that they cannot help themselves but need to take care of themselves.
Selfish parents, though much reviled, are happy
Compared to those sensible parents, there are also some parents who are very selfish. In daily life, I will satisfy my own needs, what I want to eat, what I want to buy.
Although this timely and happy way of life does not violate any regulations, it invisibly violates the moral regulations of society. Selfish old people will even be poked in the spine.
Moreover, they will also maximize the realization of self-worth, since they have worked hard to raise children, then they have the right to dominate them, and it is not difficult for a strong person to make demands.
After all, children will make the promise of "you grow up with me, I will accompany you to grow old", so if you don't use it, won't you live up to the children's kindness?
Therefore, as long as the parents have a little discomfort, they will immediately ask to go to the hospital, get treatment at the first time, and care about their physical health.
Supporting parents is easier said than done
Their own behavior subtly affects children
When parents treat their parents, children will also look at them one by one. If you always see your parents treat your grandparents well, you will make the same choice when your parents get older.
Because their parents are their best teachers, their behavior has left a very deep impression on their minds, that is, the norm of their actions.
Moreover, with such a behavioral reference, even if parents no longer guide their children to honor their parents too much, they will be impressed and return their parents with their own practical actions.
Middle-aged people are stressed from all directions
To the age of the old and the young is the biggest test in life, child support and support for the elderly are all need energy and economy, if the work is not satisfactory, how to meet the requirements of everyone?
Moreover, at this age, you also have to bear the torment from work, even if you have suffered more grievances at work, you can't easily leave, because you already don't have the courage and time to start again. Looking at the money is the last word.
Today's Topic:
Are the elders in your family a sensible type, or a selfish type? What type of parent do you prefer? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!