Wen | Cheats Jun
Becoming a "freelancer" should be an ideal, even a dream, for many people.
Think about it, you don't have to spend an hour or two squeezing the bus subway to work, and you don't have to fight with colleagues in the company. Being able to be your own boss, free time office space, others can go out to see the flowers in a daze when they are busy, it is a beautiful thing to think!
Bao Mom, in particular, is eager to become a freelancer. Because its biggest temptation is that you can juggle work and bring a baby.
After all, for the mother who needs to bring a baby, it is too difficult to find a job with a suitable time and not to delay the baby. If you can work from home, that's great.
But there is a mother who easily realized her ideals and became a freelancer, but regretted it in a year: I would rather take a car to work!
Why?
◆ Bao Mom after a year of freelancing: I have had enough of this kind of day
This mom is a friend of mine, because our two children are the same age, so they often communicate with each other.
Last spring, I was envious when I heard her say that she had applied through the company to work from home for a long time and realize her dream of freelancing. Who doesn't have a dream of "freelance"!
Unexpectedly, only a year later, she complained to me that she regretted it. I think it's better to go to work normally.
As a result, her attitude has taken a big turn, mainly the following two points:
1. Family attitude: It is all your business to have children at home
This friend of mine, when working at the company, was mainly helped by her mother-in-law to take the baby.
When she returned home, although the work content was the same, the task of taking the baby was slowly transferred to her.
At first, the mother-in-law just let her look at the child when she was cooking, and slowly, the child cried and the mother-in-law would say, "Go to your mother." Watching the child cry, can she ignore it?
Later, it was also her business to hang out with the baby. Because the child named her to go. And the mother-in-law also said that work can be done while the child is asleep. But the child only sleeps for an hour or two during the day, which is not enough for her work!
So she could only stay up late at night when the child was asleep.
She tried to communicate with her mother-in-law, saying that she was not idle at home, but her mother-in-law did not understand, thinking that you were already at home, you could not take the baby?
My husband didn't understand either. The child was sick and stumbling, and her family all came to her for accountability.
Although she is working, because she stays at home, she is still treated as a full-time mother, even if she has a salary every month.
2. Work and life are entangled and tiresome
The biggest benefit of freelancing is that working hours and occasions can be switched freely, but this is also its biggest drawback, because it can lead to work-life entanglement.
Just imagine, if you work in the company, the time after work is all your own, which is equivalent to isolating yourself from work after returning home, and you can live a life that is completely your own.
But freelancing is different, it requires you to stay "online" at all times. You are spending time with your baby at night, and you have to get into work immediately at any time, even on weekends or holidays.
If it is a more trivial work content, it will require you to keep working at any time and anywhere, and it is no different from the 007 state of "standby" 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
This is vividly reflected in another of my girlfriends who have done community operations.
She thought that working from home could accompany her children well, but the nature of her work required her to always be online and answer questions from everyone in the group at any time. This has led to her whether she is making complementary food for the baby, taking the baby out to play, or reading at night before going to bed, she has to stare at the mobile phone anytime and anywhere.
The moment that broke her most was when the child was crying and shouting for her mother over there, but she was busy with the "ding-ding" WeChat prompt tone. The children here are crying badly, and the friends over there are still complaining about the slow response.
Working and having a baby? It's a lose-lose.
◆ How can I be a relatively free "freelancer"?
Seeing this, maybe there will be a mother who will say, Well, my freelancing dream is shattered.
Not really.
With the identity of a mother, the first thing to consider is the need to bring a baby.
If there is a serious conflict between taking a baby and work, then even if you work from home, you must think twice before accepting. This will solve the problem of conflicting work and baby-bearing.
If the child has not yet gone to kindergarten, it is mainly with a baby.
Second, we must arrange the time reasonably. Depending on the nature of the work, try to choose the most efficient time periods. For example, at five or six o'clock in the morning when the child is still sleeping, at 9:00 pm when the child is already asleep, and during the day when the child is asleep.
When it is time to take the child, take the child wholeheartedly and do not think about work. When working, try to use the family or their own tricks (such as when the child is asleep, or when the child is fascinated by reading and playing) to get rid of the child's interference and improve work efficiency, so as to win more freedom for yourself.
Do you aspire to freelancing? Do you think it's easy to achieve or hard to achieve? 】
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