Your attitude towards things determines your life's encounters. We can't control what happens to us, but we can try to choose our own reaction mode, and among the different reaction methods, find the one that can make everyone lose the least, which requires a high degree of wisdom. Ms. Zhang Defen, a well-known personal growth writer, said: "A person's aura and attitude towards things also roughly determine what kind of things will happen to him and how this thing will develop. ”
(Well-known personal growth writer Ms. Zhang Defen)
Your aura and attitude determine the path you want to take. So, at the key points in life, please pay attention to your own choices. At every key point in life, we especially need to pay attention to our own choices. The so-called key point is usually "when life falls".
Teacher Zhang Defen said: "When the safety blanket under your feet is suddenly taken away, this is a critical moment in life, and your reactions have repeatedly influenced the pattern and layout of your life after that. In the face of these events, it is very important to be loyal to yourself and brave to bear them. ”
In addition, it is also very important whether the energy processing the event is positive or negative. Many people face the moment when their own interests are damaged, the other party is the bad guy and the enemy, never looking in the direction of "win-win coexistence", then the result can only be as you wish the lose-lose situation.
Teacher Zhang Defen said: "When we see clearly that the difficulties in our lives may all come from this, we will be willing to truly see what we really want and take responsibility for our actions." In this way, not only will the external environment change accordingly, but we will also be more neutral inside, which is growth! ”
From a well-known news anchor to study abroad after graduation, to a well-known foreign company In the Asia-Pacific region executives, to a personal growth writer, her 20-year-old, 30-year-old, 40-year-old, so far, Zhang Defen has been growing in change, happy to explore the unknown herself tirelessly.
She said: "Constantly walking outward, the more people and things you meet, it is possible to really meet yourself." Constantly walking inward, talking to yourself, and understanding yourself more and more, in order to get along with yourself better. But no matter whether the things encountered are good or bad, while accepting, while changing, while moving forward, in order to go to the playground that really belongs to you, find your own amusement project. ”
Zhang Defen has also suffered from childhood trauma, marriage changes, children's long journeys and other inescapable pain, and now jumps out of the game of being enslaved by others, emotions, and the outside world, and realizes the true transformation and growth of the self. She said: "I am very grateful for the frustrated past. If it weren't for the setbacks in my intimate relationships, I don't know how proud I would be now, where I would fly with self-righteousness. It was those sadness and loss that made me meet the unknown self and live out the depth I wanted to show. ”
Teacher Zhang Defen said that life is a process of seeing oneself, seeing heaven and earth, and seeing sentient beings. With hard work that is loyal to oneself and self-responsible, life can blossom into beautiful flowers and then harvest abundant fruits. May every woman continue to grow, become better herself, and live out herself.