In the process of everyone's growth, psychologically they may have experienced different degrees of trauma, some people can heal themselves, but some people have to accompany it for a lifetime.
As parents, we all hope that our children can grow up smoothly and safely and healthily in their lives, so in the process of parenting, it can be described as unusually attentive, and all aspects must be taken into account.
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However, even if parents are careful, sometimes they still ignore their psychological problems, after all, the human heart is not like other things, which can be seen through at a glance.
Today's children, more and more psychological problems?
Studies have found that the incidence of depression in primary school students aged 10 to 13 (grades 4-6) in mainland China is 23.2%, and in middle school students, it is about 40%.
Psychological experts believe that at present, there are more and more psychological problems in adolescents, and a large part of them are not detected by parents in time, and eventually evolve from mild anxiety to more serious depression.
According to expert analysis: most of the children now are only children who have lived in independent apartments since childhood, they lack the company of brothers and sisters, coupled with the fact that parents are usually busy with work, the time for parent-child communication is shortened.
This also leads to children's own sense of loneliness, their daily life is to contact with learning, with electronic products, trapped in an acre and a third of the land, with little contact with the outside world, and then become sensitive to themselves, eager to care and companionship, and have a distinct personality, there is a tendency to social fear.
In addition, today's social process is relatively fast, and the pressure on adolescents is also relatively heavy, so if their emotional baggage does not have a suitable cathartic channel, it will often make children feel breathless, and over time, psychological trauma is also prone to trauma.
At this time, parents should detect the child's abnormality in time -
The following signs appear to warn the child of psychological trauma
1. Excessive vigilance, degenerative behavior
When children have psychological trauma and exceed the psychological tolerance range, they often trigger self-defense mechanisms, their spirit will be highly nervous, often amplifying a small thing, and two extreme emotions appear: one is excessive extroversion, suddenly shouting; the other is to close themselves and be numb to the things around them.
In addition, psychological pressure, if not eliminated in time, there will also be "discomfort" in physiology, such as daily behavior degradation to a young age, obviously can already speak but do not say and so on.
2, disobedience to discipline, too emotional
If the child who was originally obedient and sensible suddenly began to be obedient and rebellious, did not obey discipline, and became angry at every turn, the emotional ups and downs were obvious. It may be that there are "things" hidden in their hearts, and they may have left psychological trauma because of some stimuli.
In the view of psychologists, the sudden change of a person's temperament is mostly inseparable from psychological pressure. The more intense the stress, the more pronounced the emotional rebound will be.
3. Inability to establish and maintain good relationships with the people around you
Psychology believes that relationships are emotional connections, and deep emotions are inseparable from attachment relationships.
Born as human beings, we will establish attachment relationships with others, whether it is unforgettable friendship, unswerving love, or precious family affection, it belongs to the category of attachment relationship.
Psychologically traumatized people, often relatively closed in their hearts, it is difficult to have deep friendships with outsiders, therefore, they are often unable to establish and maintain a good relationship with the people around them, whenever others express friendship with themselves, issued to "further" communication, will habitually avoid, quickly cut off this relationship.
Therefore, if parents find that their children are not social and it is difficult to communicate, they need to be vigilant about their psychological condition.
What should parents do?
1, do not put too much pressure on the child, especially when the child's ability to resist pressure is relatively weak. You have to allow a person to have the right to weakness, in the vast world, the main personality of people is diverse, everyone has a different ability to digest and absorb pressure, and when children can't do it, they don't have to force it.
2, communicate with children more, especially when you feel that their emotions are not right, do not take it as a pretense, take your child to scatter your mind, or play some interesting games to relieve stress, if you can't figure it out, you can also seek help from a psychologist.
3, after calming the child's emotions, we must try to understand why they have psychological pressure, because of the pressure of schoolwork, being bullied and ridiculed by classmates, or because the parents did not say the right thing. After clarifying the reasons, then prescribe the right medicine, and finally encourage children to bravely face difficulties within the scope of psychological endurance, rather than blindly avoiding.
【Write at the end】
All in all, let's not underestimate the importance of mental health, which can be the last straw that crushes the camel. In recent years, I often hear about some juvenile accidents, behind which are because small things accumulate, but they are not understood, and finally do stupid things, which is really regrettable.
Teenagers are cornered, may be really cornered!