On the afternoon of March 21, the China Eastern Airlines passenger plane crashed, with 132 people on the flight, and no survivors were found.
Without any psychological preparation, the family members faced the sudden parting of life and death, and their inner grief could not be experienced by others.
When crying and griefing, psychological crises and emotional crises are also prone to occur, which is an acute psychological trauma.
Psychological trauma is not relieved for a long time, which is easy to induce mental illness or leave post-traumatic stress disorder. It takes many years for the light to come out, and the heavy one carries this wound for the rest of his life.
If someone around them suffers a sudden loss, in addition to receiving professional psychological intervention, the appropriate companionship and support of relatives can also give them great strength to face all this and get better quickly.
So how can we help the lost?
In psychology, in the face of catastrophic psychological trauma, the following physical and mental symptoms may occur:
Physical symptoms: unstable mind, trembling cramps, chest tightness, heart blockage, nausea and diarrhea, difficulty sleeping, unable to swallow, the body will become very tired and weak, severe cases can not even walk and faint.
Psychological symptoms: anxiety, nervousness, irritability, self-blame, sometimes repeated dreams of traumatic events, sad memories repeatedly invaded.
Sometimes numbness, dissociative memory loss, and inability to touch the sad heart.
In the short term, it is difficult for people to get out of the grief mood, and they need to give themselves a period of time to heal slowly.
If the physical and mental reactions that are too strong persist, after more than six months, it is traumatic stress disorder and requires medication and psychological intervention.
What should you do if someone close to you experiences a sudden loss?
The appropriate handling is:
1
Accompany them with empathy, encourage them to talk about their pain, and give care, response, and care.
It can be accompanying him to cry silently, accompanying him to express anger and protest, accompanying him to tell his inner regrets and guilt, and accompanying him to recall the past of his deceased relatives.
2
Don't stop their emotions, don't persuade them to get better.
We need to understand that no matter what you say at this time, there is no way to reduce the pain in their hearts.
It is necessary to prevent them from wrapping up the pain and turning it into a scar in the heart that cannot be touched, which is more difficult to heal.
3
You can give physical support, hug him, pat him on the shoulder, hold your hands and tell him that we are all in this together.
For people who are lonely, sad and helpless, and in pain, support and understanding can open up their deep pain and make each other's hearts have a deep connection.
Therefore, giving him firm and warm companionship is the best help to accompany them to accept reality and go through this difficult life journey.
We also want to tell him and more that disasters are accidental and that our society is still normal and stable.
Disasters are relentless, and there is compassion in the world, so that everyone is heart-to-heart and accompanies them with love to get through this predicament.
Zheng Qijuan
Lead Consultant
I heard about it, the chief counselor of the psychological counseling center
Member of the Professional Committee of Psychological Counselors of Guangdong Mental Health Association
National Marriage Counselor
National Family Education Instructor
Child Counselor
Senior hypnotist
Spiritual healer
Psychological consultant of the "Rights Protection Service Station" of the Guangdong Provincial Women's Federation
Member of Guangdong Psychological Society
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Specially invited psychological consultant of the emotional column of Guangzhou Radio Station
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