A good teacher may be able to influence a child for three or five years, but a good parent is enough to change a child's life.
Don't think that the child's good or bad is the teacher's problem, parents first teach the child well, the teacher can be the icing on the cake.
No matter how good the teacher is, no matter how good the school, for the child, the position of the parent can not be replaced.
People's Daily once published an article telling parents:
Educating your children well is not only the matter of teachers, but also the most important cause in your life.
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Parents are responsible, children are outstanding
In "Strange Story", Yan Rujing once said something that makes people remember deeply:
Parents are the only audience members of the first half of a child's life, and children are the only audience members of their parents' second half of life.
Growing up, parents and children are each other's most important companions.
However, many parents are often afraid of trouble, trying to save trouble, handing over their children to school and pushing problems to teachers.
Teachers are only preachers and solve problems, who can teach knowledge but cannot cultivate habits, and who can preach reason but cannot train personality.
Good habits, interest in reading, strong will, noble personality, and long-term happiness are what children must have in their growth.
These need parents to help their children at home to develop a little bit.
Don't wait until the child has a problem, wait until the teacher reflects the situation, and wait until the child is drifting away from you, and then regret it.
Educating children, the most feared thing is to "try to save trouble", let alone "afraid of trouble".
The more important things in the world are, the more troublesome and labor-intensive they are.
Parents should work harder and work harder than their children in order to exchange your "not afraid of trouble" for their children's "real excellence".
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Parents are strict and children are self-disciplined
Education is fair, and almost all the enviable "other people's children" are bought by parents with real efforts and tireless patience.
When parents put the education of their children in the first place, the children's life can leave no regrets.
Just like Yang Chenyu, the college entrance examination double subject full score, breaking the record of the highest score since the resumption of the college entrance examination in Guangxi.
His excellence is inseparable from his mother's strict education from beginning to end.
When her son was very young, she taught him to develop habits by hand and stared at him all the time.
Afraid of disturbing her children, she put down her mobile phone, gave up entertainment, and focused all her attention on her son.
"The process of supervision is painful, but when the shape is finalized, the road ahead is easy."
Every "other person's child" is the result of "other people's parents" sacrificing countless entertainment, rest, and dedication to companionship and strict education.
Without the strictness and efforts of parents, there will be no self-discipline and self-motivation of children.
Parents should be bitter before sweet, but also let the child first bitter and then sweet.
Sometimes if you "force" your child to do so, you will know how good your child is.
Parents are strict is not a bad thing, and the growth of children needs the sunshine of praise, but also the rain and dew of criticism.
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Parents discipline, children excellent
Ancient records say: "Shun ploughed the land, the cattle did not walk the road, and Shun whipped himself and did not blame the cattle." ”
The cattle are not good at ploughing the land, so why should Shun whip himself instead of whipping the cattle?
Because the cow is not going right, it is the man who has not guided it well, and he himself does not know, but the man knows how to guide it.
From this: children do not obey, the responsibility lies with the parents, and excellent children must be disciplined.
Every child will go through a more or less wayward stage in the process of growing up.
But the younger the child, the stronger the plasticity, the parents teach him the rules, he knows the advance and retreat, the parents teach him kindness, he understands human feelings, the parents teach him etiquette, he knows the general body.
For the child's problem, the parents do not compromise, do not cover up, do not condone, the child will not become naughty, willful, and tricky.
Educating children can not do what they want, let alone delay again and again, once the "expiration date" has passed, parents have become insignificant to children.
Today you discipline your child strictly, and tomorrow he will have the ability to achieve his ideals.
The true love of parents for their children is that I love you, but I will never indulge you.
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Parents set an example and children benefit
Minister of Education Chen Baosheng said:
For children to do it, parents must first do it;
What children do not want to do, parents cannot do in the first place.
Parents who love to learn will not raise children who hate learning, parents who never learn, and will not raise children who are active and self-motivated.
Confucius said, "His body is upright, although he does not obey." His body is not righteous, although he orders but does not obey. ”
If parents always "keep their hands on the machine", they have silently conveyed to their children: I think playing with mobile phones is more important than learning.
Parents who are addicted to mobile phones not only set a bad example for their children, but also destroy the good learning atmosphere of the family and give their children an excuse not to learn.
Children are natural masters of imitation, good at imitating their parents' every move, whether it is the good side or the bad side.
Educating children, if you educate with actions, children will follow suit, and if you educate with empty words, it will only lead to quarrels.
Instead of telling the child a big truth, it is better to set a good example for the child and influence the child with his own actions.
When children are young, what they see from their parents is role models and what they learn is independence.
When he grows up, he will also take the initiative to pursue his ideals and find his own happiness.
Teaching by example and leading by example is the most meaningful way to educate.
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Parents work hard, children are motivated
It is often said that today's education needs to "fight daddy".
What exactly is the fight?
Fighting for family? Fight for status? Or do you fight for a job or a degree?
No, the real competition between children is the parents' educational concept.
Zhu Tengqiang, 49 years old, successfully passed the judicial examination in the year of destiny and was on the hot search.
The reason why he took this "world's first exam" was only to chat with his daughter who studied law.
Zhu Tengqiang's daughter is a senior student at the Law School of Zhongnan University of Economics and Law, and in order to have a common topic with her daughter, he decided to study on his own to take the judicial examination.
Seeing that her father worked so hard, her daughter was also full of confidence in the legal examination.
At present, she has gone to Peking University to pursue a master's degree in law.
What is even more admirable is that the Zhu family is a bully, and Zhu's mother's computer major has crossed the CPA.
Few children are born genius, parents are also the first time to become parents, in this journey of love, only mutual achievement, in order to continue to grow.
In the process of accompanying their children to learn, parents also need to make continuous progress, strive to keep up with the pace of their children, and be a good guide for their children.
Truly far-sighted parents know how to invest in themselves and grow up with their children.