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With the increasing divorce rate in the mainland, single-parent families have become a common phenomenon.
In the era of bringing babies according to law, how should single-parent families bring babies in order to let their children grow up healthily has become an important educational topic.
In fact, in ancient and modern China and abroad, there are many cases in which single-parent families have cultivated their children to become talents.
In Chinese history, Yue Fei, Fan Zhongyan, Ouyang Xiu and other famous generals all came from single-parent families.
Therefore, as long as parents actively use the correct educational concepts and educational methods, even if it is a single-parent family, it can still educate their children to become talents and become the pillars of the country.
First, seek the wealth of the family,
Not as good as poetry book heirlooms
Fan Zhongyan's father died when he was two years old, and the Fan family expelled him and his mother Xie Guanyin from the house.
Xie Guanyin took Xiao Zhongyan as her husband Fan Yong to guard filial piety for three years in the Suzhou Mantra Bowl Nunnery.
In these three years, Xie Guanyin taught his son to read and write by hand, and when he could not afford to buy pen and ink, he used a branch to teach him to write on the ground;
Later, she taught him the Changshan war drum beat that her father had passed on to her in his early years, and taught him to use dirt blocks to swing the "Changshan Snake Array".
It was Xie Guanyin's good preschool education that laid a rare boy's work for Fan Zhongyan's profound literary skills and outstanding military skills in the future.
At the end of the period of filial piety, Xie Guanyin took Xiao Zhongyan to marry Zhu Wenhan, who was a talented person.
Zhu Wenhan and Xie Guanyin attached great importance to the education of Xiao Zhongyan, and sent the four-year-old to the Taiping Xingguo Temple on the shore of Dongting Lake, where sima Daoren, who was highly respected by virtue, was enlightened to study.
Since then, Xiao Zhongyun's path to study has become smoother and smoother under the planning of his mother and stepfather.
In the third year of the Song Dynasty, Xie Guanyin, who came from a business family, wanted Fan Zhong to change his studies to business.
A month later, Fan Zhongyan, because he was not accustomed to the hypocrisy and treachery of businessmen, returned and asked his mother to let him continue his studies.
After his stepfather Zhu Wenhan learned about it, he praised Fan Zhongyan's persistence one after another.
In this way, with the support and encouragement of his mother and stepfather, Fan Zhongyan was able to continue his studies, familiarize himself with the sages, and eventually become an outstanding thinker, politician and writer of the Northern Song Dynasty.
From the growth history of Fan Zhongyan, it can be seen that in addition to advanced educational methods, Fan's mother's strength and wisdom gave him strong spiritual support for the childhood loss of his father.
This made him "rarely have great ambitions, and every time he takes the world as his own responsibility, he reads with anger, or drowsiness at night, and he eats with water; he does not give food, and he reads with porridge." Every generous man who speaks of the affairs of the world, regardless of himself." (Commentary of Ouyang Xiu in the Song Dynasty)
Similarly, in choosing the remarriage partner, Fan Mu had a unique vision and chose Zhu Wenhan, who was upright and highly cultivated.
Zhu Wenhan admired Fan Zhongyan very much, and together with Fan Mu provided him with a more rigorous and orthodox education.
All these have laid a solid foundation for his future success.
Second, teach carefully,
Live even more wonderfully
In modern times, successful examples of single-parent families raising babies also abound.
Elon Musk, one of today's most prominent tech tycoons, also grew up in a single-parent family, and he has publicly stated that his success comes from his mother's nurturing and influence on him.
His mother, May Musk, who raised three children herself after her divorce at the age of 31, is a very vigorous mother, and the divorce and the baby alone did not bring her down, but made her stronger.
Not only did she get a master's degree and a dietitian license, but she also started a career in nutrition consulting while juggling as a model.
She has raised three children with assets of more than 100 million, what are the cultivation secrets?
May was born into an adventurous family, which made Mayy very confident and brave.
May attaches great importance to the children's posture and posture, and always keeps them straight to ensure the health of the spine.
She spends a lot of time developing good behavior habits and mannerisms in her children.
After the children developed good behavior habits, she began to actively support them in developing their own interests.
The eldest son, Elon, was interested in books, machinery, and computers, and May bought him his first computer when he was 12 years old.
The second son, Kimbar, loved to cook as a child, and May admired him very much and supported him in opening his own restaurant.
Her daughter, Toska, has been fascinated by theatre, dance, acting and music since she was a child, and she is also a strong supporter. Later, with her support, her daughter opened her own entertainment company, producing and directing films herself.
May always dressed up to attend the premiere of her daughter's film and walk the red carpet with her daughter.
May always gives timely spiritual support and encouragement when the child is in need. When they want to hear advice, she gives constructive advice.
It is this democratic and positive approach to education that allows children to find ways to succeed in their own world of interest.
This is how she educates her children, and she leads by example. While she worked hard, she bravely took on the burden of caring for her three children.
In order to pull her three children up alone, she worked five jobs at the same time at most.
The children were also touched and inspired by her independent and never-give-up spirit, and eventually achieved their own achievements.
Therefore, the education problem of single-parent families is actually not so terrible.
Little Fan Zhongyun grew up in a remarried family and can still be famous in history.
As a single mother, May can still work hard to get her children to a very high level in their field.
Third, the lack of family,
Don't lack virtue if you lack anything
There is nothing difficult in the world, but I am afraid of those who have a heart.
As long as parents follow the laws of education, cultivate children from the direction of righteousness, goodness and morality, and pay attention to children's interests and talents, they can make children physically and mentally healthy and live a brilliant life.
1
Cultivate a sound personality in children
Single-parent families should pay close attention to the spiritual growth of children, create a good, positive and true family environment for children, encourage children to participate in the reunion of two large families, and let children fully feel the warmth of large families.
At the same time, tell more inspirational stories to children, so that they can hear in various excellent qualities such as loyalty to the country, inspirational talent, unity and fraternity, etc., so as to cultivate children's feelings of home and country, so that children can establish lofty ambitions from an early age.
Actively take children to participate in various club activities to increase their knowledge; in their spare time, take their children to hike outdoors, breathe fresh air, feel the birds and flowers by immersing themselves in the beautiful scenery of nature, so that children understand the beauty of life and love life from an early age.
Pay close attention to children's interests, focus on cultivating children's areas of interest, so that they can find the direction of their future careers in their interests, and cultivate children's concentration and perseverance.
2
Use classics to guide children to establish lofty ambitions
Take your children to recite classics together, such as the Dedao Jing, Zhou Yi, the Yellow Emperor's Inner Classic, the Yellow Emperor's Four Classics, etc.,
There are also "De Xie Disciple Rules", "Thousand Character Text", "Aphorism Lianbi" and so on. To recite the sage scriptures is to actually receive the teachings of the sages.
Long-term recitation can enable children to establish a correct outlook on life, values, and worldview. The concrete embodiment is to produce five major effects: the virtue effect, the wisdom effect, the wisdom effect, the Kang effect, and the beauty effect.
Let the edification effect of "rule by doing nothing" in the classics lead children to establish a big pattern view and a big wisdom view. In the process of recitation, the child's shortcomings will also be subtly corrected, so as to achieve the effect of the transformation of righteousness and goodness.
3
The "new family" repairs equanimity
Parents in single-parent families should be carefully selected when choosing a stepfather or stepmother for their children, and must choose a person who is honest, kind, and egalitarian.
Just like Fan Zhongyun's talent, it is inseparable from the cultivation of a reasonable stepfather.
After forming a new family, we must pay attention to the physical and mental adjustment of the child, develop the habit of communicating with the child in time, and attach importance to the cultivation of parent-child feelings.
In short, raising children is a technical work, and single-parent families should pay more attention to ways and methods.
In the process of education, single parents should strive to achieve "dual use", not only to pay close attention to the cultivation of children's internal morality, but also to cultivate some of the children's external character, so that children can better adapt to society in the future and grow into people who are beneficial to society and are happy and happy.
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Author: Zou Huilin Editor: Yue E Deming An Illustration: Xiu Wei Mei Editor: Tomorrow