After reading these stories, I realized that only such a family can cultivate excellent daughters
A child grows up and does not show up
A lot depends on her parents' education and influence on her
The original family determines the happiness and life pattern of the girl's life
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Seeing that it was almost the New Year, I bought a ticket early and rushed back to my hometown with my daughter who was on vacation
When my relatives and friends knew that I had returned, a room full of people gathered every day to see us
On this day, everyone talked about their children's schooling together
When I said that my daughter's final exam results were OK, it was that my math score was not ideal
When I turned around and tried to make up for the child, my cousin said
"Girls always have to get married, don't force children so much, no matter how good it is to study, you will get married and have children in the future, almost got it"
"I think that compared to mathematics, you still teach your children to do housework, otherwise you will be rejected by your in-laws in the future."
Listening to my cousin's words, I was really angry, so I unceremoniously scolded him
"Of course, it is useful to study well, you see some girls who have not gone to school, and when they grow up, they can only cook and have babies in the countryside."
But when I went to school, it was different, just like my uncle's daughter
After graduating with a doctorate, he now stays directly in school as a professor and often gives lectures."
Unexpectedly, after my cousin listened, he retorted to me very dismissively
"It's not that she's strong, it's her fate!" What a family the Uncle's family is! Rich and powerful, she can do without trying."
Indeed, behind a good girl
There must be a good family support, but this kind of support is by no means the surface of what the cousin said
It should be a kind of spiritual support
01
The parents' support is love and care
There's a very famous "Mills Study" on the Internet.
It is about 142 women, from the age of 21 to the age of 72, along the way of life trends and life records
And this study also shows that those girls who grow up to be outstanding and independent
Most of them have received deep care and careful care from their parents
And received a good education from an early age
Thinking like a cousin is undoubtedly setting limits on girls
Such parents often do not pay too much attention to the future of girls, so children will gradually become inferior
Get by, and nothing will happen in the end
Good parents should understand that girls are the same, as long as we cultivate carefully, children will be able to exert great energy
I once saw such a story online
In Handan City, Hebei Province, a poor and ordinary family has two children, a man and a woman
Their parents, however, did not give up the cultivation of their daughters because of the limitations of gender and poverty
Although they are not very literate, they have high expectations for both children
From childhood to adulthood, whether it is an older brother or a younger sister, it is the same in the eyes of parents
They also told them that they must study well so that they can get ahead
In this way, the girl finishes elementary school, goes to junior high school, finishes junior high school, and goes to high school
Her parents have never been like the locals, thinking that she simply recognizes two words and will marry someone in the future
Rather, it is to strive to create a good learning environment for her, to support her and encourage him all the time, even when she is regressing in high school
Parents did not give up
In the end, the girl was admitted to peking university graduate school as she wished, and stood on the stage of "Super Speaker"
Became the overall champion of the show
Now this girl named Liu Yuanyuan is 31 years old
This year, she also had her own startup, and her life can be said to be at the tip of the pyramid
Behind all the success, it is inseparable from her parents' love and care for her, as well as trust and support
Remember, if you want your girl to grow up to be outstanding, you must give her enough love and affirmation!
02
Parents' support is freedom and respect
I don't know if you have noticed such a phenomenon
In many families where mothers are stronger, children are often weaker and tend to be out of work when they grow up
In the famous "Mills Study", some participants who have failed in life have also admitted that their mothers are capable
But he liked dictatorship too much, so he lived under the control of his mother from an early age
As a result, he became less and less confident, and even eventually became the appearance of his most hated mother
In contrast, those who have successfully lived their lives have said so
It is the cultivation of their mothers and the guidance of their fathers that have put them on the road to success
Among them, the father's self-confidence is a big reason
Susan Wojcicki, known as the "mother of Google," has also publicly shared her upbringing
Growing up, she said, her mother, the famous educator Esther Wojcicki, respected her very much
Never acting arbitrarily, when they were young, their sisters had to make up their own minds about what to do, and their mother would only give advice
Help them recognize their inner interests, but never jump to conclusions on their behalf
It is precisely because of this education of their mothers that their sisters are very good when they grow up
And such a mother, the famous actor Jia Ling also has one
Jia Ling's personality was very lively and mischievous when she was a child, and she often jumped up and down like a boy
As a result, he once wore out his pants, but his mother was not angry, but instead patched up various cute cartoon patches in the worn places
Jia Ling's grades were not good, and her mother did not force her
Jia Ling wants to be a comedian, and her mother silently supports her
In short, no matter what the situation, or what she wants to do, her mother will respect her
In the end, Jia Ling really became a household name and a big star and director
Remember, sometimes excessive manipulation only makes a child cringe
And letting go will allow children to show their fists and find their own future
03
Parents' support is an example and a guide
In life, many dads like to use work as an excuse to avoid parenting responsibilities
Especially for girls, I always feel that they need their mothers more
In fact, such a thinking can be said to be a big mistake
Many times, fathers have a decisive influence on the growth of their daughters
A long time ago, I watched an interview with Olympic champion Deng Yaping
When the host asked her, "Who was the first Bó Lè in your career?" ”
Deng Yaping said proudly
"My Father"
In fact, Deng Yaping has indeed been inseparable from her father's companionship and affirmation along the way
When she was more than two years old, it was her father who took her to the provincial team to watch the ball, and since then she has been associated with table tennis
At the age of 5, it was her father who practiced with her every day, so that she could continue to improve and stick to her dreams
At the age of 13, she won the national championship in one fell swoop, and it was also her father who taught her at this time
"You have to be humble and keep working hard"
Along the way, whether it is life or career, Deng Yaping has handled it very well
Behind all this, it is inseparable from the guidance of the father
Indeed, many times, compared to mothers
Fathers are more likely to point out the direction to their children and play a role in guiding their children forward
Like those successful participants in the Mills study, say so
"Thanks to my father, it was with his example and guidance that I saw a broader world and a richer life."
As fathers, we must play our part in raising our daughters
Use your every move to open up a different picture of life for your daughter
04
There is such a sentence circulating on the Internet
You raise a boy, you just have to educate him
But raising a girl means influencing the future of three generations
As a parent, for the cultivation of girls, we must work harder and work harder
Parents with real high emotional intelligence should know how to respect their children, lead their children, and create unlimited possibilities for their children's future
Instead of using gender to imprison her
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