Text: Zheng Shaoyuan May my words warm you
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Teacher Tu Lei, an emotional expert, once said such a sentence in a column:
People who marry only for money and material things feel disgusting; people who marry only for love feel stupid.
Marrying someone without marrying a phoenix man is the idea of many girls now. Phoenix man originally relied on his own efforts to get into a good university, and found a stable job, and actively worked hard.
This should have been a good candidate for marriage, but the terrible thing about phoenix men is that they think highly of themselves because of their achievements. Especially after marriage, the machismo they embody and the infinite eccentricity of in-laws when there are contradictions make girls retreat.
Especially girls with better families, they will generally help phoenix men. But the Phoenix Man and his family will not be grateful to the woman's family for this, they will only feel that this is the way it should be. The resources and property of the woman's family will also be regarded as their own, and even some in-laws will feel that the woman is not worthy of her son no matter what, arrogant and conceited, and finally such a marriage must not be sustainable.
Therefore, many women will be chilled by the man's attitude, no matter how deep the feelings for this man, they must choose to stop the loss. Hurt by a man who loves deeply, this taste, is really unbearable. It is better to accept the reality and not to be wrong again. Fall in love with someone you shouldn't love, and that's it.
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Some people say that women should never marry a foolish man when they marry someone. Because in this kind of man's heart, the wife can never be compared to his mother. Because of this, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be difficult to say.
Wen Qi has a deep understanding of this, she married a foolish filial piety man, the married life has not been very good, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also very tense. And her husband Xiao Zhen only knows that he is blindly partial to his mother and will not deal with the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which makes Wen Qi even more chilled.
In fact, the problem in Wen Qi's marriage is not only the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also the problem between husband and wife. It's just that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the main contradiction, which covers up these. The main problem in marriage is the lack of Responsibility of Xiao Zhen.
Xiao Zhen is a foolish filial piety man, but also a phoenix man. Because of this, Wen Qi's married life with him is simply inexhaustible.
When Wen Qi first married Xiao Zhen, she was opposed by almost everyone. However, Wen Qi did not listen to the persuasion of the people around her at all, and resolutely decided to marry Xiao Zhen. And now divorced, Wen Qi actually regrets her choice in her heart.
Three years ago, Wen Qi and Xiao Zhen got married, and everyone around them was not optimistic. Because their love is very much in line with the dog blood element in film and television works.
Wen Qi is a rich woman, and Xiao Zhenzhong is a phoenix man. The plot of the phoenix man stepping on the rich woman to the throne and finally not being able to die well is the usual bridge section in the TV series or story.
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Wen Qi's family is well-off, her parents are both university teachers, and she belongs to the Shuxiang Mendi. Wen Qi is an only child, so her parents love her very much, but never spoil her, her parents pay great attention to her growth, so from childhood to adulthood, Wen Qi's personality is very cheerful and strong.
Since Wen Qi became an adult, her parents have never interfered in her life or interfered with her thoughts. As long as she wanted to do it, her parents never stopped her, just gave advice. Therefore, Wen Qi has developed an independent personality and is very good among her peers.
The reason why Wen Qi likes Xiao Zhen is honestly because of her appearance. Wen Qi is a member of the Appearance Association, and her first criterion for finding a boyfriend is to be handsome. And Xiao Zhen just met this requirement.
Therefore, Wen Qi liked Xiao Zhen, plus Xiao Zhen was very good at pleasing girls, often coaxing Wen Qi to be very happy, and it didn't take long for her to fall.
However, this relationship was not optimistic about the people around him from the beginning, especially Wen Qi's parents and friends, who felt that this relationship was inappropriate. Because the two people are not in the right place.
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Xiao Zhen's hometown is in a remote rural area, his parents are farmers, there are four brothers and sisters in the family, because there are many children, so the family has always been very poor.
Xiao Zhen is the smartest child in the family, and his academic performance has always been very good from childhood to adulthood, becoming the only college student in the village, which is the pride of the whole family.
After graduating from college, Xiao Zhen entered a company, he was willing to endure hardships, very self-motivated, strong working ability, and was very appreciated by leaders.
Wen Qi just appreciates Xiao Zhen's advantages and thinks that he is very mature and different from men of the same age, so she likes him. But for this son-in-law, Wen Qi's parents are not very satisfied.
But Wen Qi couldn't help it, and finally had to agree. Xiao Zhen's family did not have money to buy a house, so after the two of them got married, they lived in the house that Wen Qi bought before marriage.
When they first got married, the relationship between the two people was not bad. However, after more than half a year of marriage, Xiao Zhen took it upon himself to take over his mother, saying that he wanted to fulfill his filial piety. Although Wen Qi was uncomfortable with this, Xiao Zhen couldn't say anything about putting a top hat on herself.
But what Wen Qi did not expect was that the arrival of her mother-in-law made her life begin to become hot.
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The arrival of the mother-in-law broke Wen Qi's peaceful life, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law accumulated a lot of contradictions because of their living habits and different consumption concepts. Wen Qi's mother-in-law is a typical rural woman, living habits are very different from Wen Qi, the mother-in-law is very frugal, do not flush the toilet, have to wait for several people to finish flushing together; on weekdays, they also go outside to pick up the rags, piled up all over the house. Wen Qi couldn't stand it at all.
The contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law broke out, the mother-in-law accused Wen Qi of spending money indiscriminately, and Wen Qi accused the mother-in-law of being too lenient. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled.
In the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Xiao Zhen's approach made Wen Qi very cold.
Xiao Zhen blindly tolerated his mother, and always complained that Wen Qi did not respect his mother, and asked Wen Qi to respect her mother-in-law more in the future. However, the mother-in-law often deliberately made it difficult for Wen Qi, but Xiao Zhen ignored it.
Xiao Zhen's words that often hang on his lips are: That's my mother, you marry me is your mother, you have to be as filial to her as I am. Whatever she does you should be inclusive. In the face of this foolish filial piety man, Wen Qi was simply speechless.
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That time, the mother-in-law began to insult Wenqi because Wenqi bought a dress, saying that she was a loser woman, and her son's family would be destroyed by her sooner or later. Wen Qi was very irritable in her heart, so she quarreled with her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law directly exploded her temper, and was even more annoyed, scolding Wen Qi from the door to the door, saying that she was disobedient and filial piety, and such a daughter-in-law could not bear it any longer, so she should leave her and pick a daughter-in-law for her son again. Such an excellent talent as his son, what kind of woman can't find it, how to pick such an uninteresting person, saying that she doesn't want her to enter the house again.
When Xiao Zhen returned and learned what had happened, he even scolded her indiscriminately, and his mother-in-law breathed a tone, which also said that women should not make waves, they should be safe and stable at home. Not only that, but he also said: "You go back to your mother's house first, and my mother will pick you up again."
Wen Qi felt that she loved the wrong person, it turned out that in the eyes of men, she was such a role, happy, she could stay in his home, unhappy, she could just throw out. She just said, "Okay, I'll go.". Then he packed up all his things and took them back to his mother's house, gambling and never coming back.
Xiao Zhen was just doing things at first, and he also knew that Wen Qi was the best marriage partner, with a family lineage, appearance and progressive thoughts, and was a good girl. However, in order to discourage the mother, it was necessary to frustrate the girl's vigor. He was waiting for Wen Qi to come back and apologize, and he waited for more than two weeks, and he didn't see her back.
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Xiao Zhen thought to himself, Wen Qi does not understand things, and his father-in-law and mother-in-law do not care to teach it, and whoever bumps into his mother-in-law's daughter-in-law will not apologize. Originally, his heart was already panicked, and he had dragged on for more than a month, and there was no news of Wen Qi, before he decided to go to Wen Qi's mother's house to see.
After arriving at Wen Qi's mother's house, Xiao Zhen was stupid, and he found that his wife was with a man, and the home was pasted with big red happy words. And that man was more handsome than him, richer than him, Wen Qi's hair was small, and he always liked her, but Wen Qi didn't understand it at that time. Now that I figured out who was the one who loved her the most. The other party does not dislike that she has been married and has children, and still regards her as a treasure, so she is willing to put on the wedding dress for love again and be a bride again.
And knowing that Wen Qi was about to remarry, Xiao Zhen was dumbfounded on the spot, he did not expect that Wen Qi would really divorce himself, he begged Wen Qi bitterly, but Wen Qi had already made up his mind to divorce him.
In fact, the door is really important for marriage, two people have similar family backgrounds, common hobbies and ideas will be the same, and there will be no contradictions caused by material things. Therefore, I would like to advise everyone here that when choosing a mate, we must pay attention to this factor.
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