Last night my wife used a calculator to calculate the amount of money my daughter received this year, who expected her to finish the calculation. He was so angry that his face turned purple and his whole body trembled, and then he shouted to me in a hoarse voice: Why use my mother's money to subsidize your relatives, and what is even more funny is that our poor people send welfare to the rich.
Hearing my wife's complaints and reprimands, I was dumbfounded.
My hometown lives in a remote and barren mountain village in northwest Hubei, 73 kilometers from the city. Last year, affected by the epidemic, I could not return to my hometown, and this year I drove my wife and daughter to visit the old relatives of both parents one by one.
Both of us worked in a car modification factory in the city, and the efficiency of the factory was average, and we were ordinary wage earners, but in the eyes of my relatives in my hometown, we were regarded as rich people. We have a daughter who is in her second year of junior high school, and in addition to the annual family expenses and the cost of her daughter's schooling, there is very little money that can be accumulated.
My family's relatives all live in the countryside and are very numerous, my father has 2 uncles, 3 aunts and 1 uncle, and my mother has 3 aunts and 2 uncles.
A few years ago, when I went to this relative's house, I brought two bottles of liquor and two kinds of fruits to the elders, and then gave a red envelope to the children at home, usually 10 yuan, 20 yuan, and 50 yuan the year before.
Over the years, some of my cousins, cousins, and cousins went out to work in the south when they were idle, some stayed in the countryside to grow shiitake mushrooms, and some pigs. At least the annual net income of each household is 70,000 to 80,000 yuan, and the current economic conditions are simply different from the past. Some have built new western-style buildings, some have added cars at home, and some have bought commercial houses in the city...
At the beginning of the third year of this year, I took my daughter to give my elders a New Year's greeting, and I gave the elders 1 barrel of oil (95 yuan a barrel) to each family, but they took the initiative to give my daughter a red envelope of 300 yuan. I can't get cheap with others, and I can't afford to lose this person even if I love face!
That is, if someone gives my daughter 300 yuan, I must give someone else's child 300 yuan. It is like this, my elders give my daughter a share of the pressure money for each son, but if his son has several children, I have to give a few red envelopes. (For example, my uncle's family has three sons and a total of 5 grandchildren, so my daughter only received 900 yuan of pressure money, but she had to give him 5 grandchildren 1500 yuan.)
In this way, my daughter received a total of 5400 yuan from 18 families, but my 11 elders have a total of 33 grandchildren (granddaughters), and I have to give 9900 yuan. In this way, the money was lost by 4500 yuan.
I went back to my hometown for a few days to visit relatives, spent 230 yuan to refuel the car, bought 11 barrels of oil for my elders, spent a total of 1045 yuan, and then calculated the loss of 4500 yuan of pressure money, so a total of 5775 yuan was spent.
My wife's mother-in-law lives in the city, my parents-in-law are retired cadres on the railway, and my brother-in-law works in the field and has not yet started a family. When my family gave my parents-in-law a New Year's greeting in the second year of junior high school, my mother-in-law and brother-in-law each gave my daughter a red envelope of 3,000 yuan.
No wonder my wife was very angry and said that her mother's family gave my daughter 6,000 yuan of pressure money, all of which were subsidized to my relatives, and in the end, only 225 yuan was left. Last night we summed up the reason for the loss, my family only has 1 child, other people have very few children, usually 2 children, and even my old cousin has 3 children.
My wife also said: Last year, the efficiency of the factory was not good, we only saved 10,000 yuan a year, and this time we used more than half of our savings when we returned to our hometown for the New Year. It is true that the poor go to their relatives and become poorer and poorer, if you press the old money and then give it so crazy, we will not be able to go to your relatives in the future.
I am also a person who wants to be face-saving, but my family's economic conditions are indeed limited. Let's talk about it, in the future, if a family has two or three children, how should I give the old age money? #Emotion#
Spring Festival as the most important festival in every country, when we visit relatives and friends, contact feelings, there are juniors to the elders to pay the New Year, while the elders to the juniors to press the old age money. In folk culture, pressing the old money means to bless peace, but also to wish children good health and good luck in the new year.
Some people live in cities but their actual income level is not as good as in rural areas, so for some people who are often poor in ability and face. If you only have one child and someone else's family has two or three children, you will definitely be unable to make ends meet.
After giving it out, you will settle the account by yourself, and you will appear particularly anxious and entangled. Don't press 300 yuan for children! I can't hang on to my face, give it! His wallet suffered, giving the last wallet cleaner than his face, and even a year of saving savings.
I think someone else gives you $300 for your child, and no matter how many children you have, you have to give $300 to each child. After all, this is only once a year, and last year's low income does not mean that the next year will be the same.
Conclusion: You can't be a person who is preoccupied, and what should be spent must be spent.
