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As the saying goes, "Home and everything is good." "When the family is harmonious, everything will prosper and the blessings will come from themselves." If you want to have a harmonious family, you must deal with family relations, especially for women, once married, they have their own small family, connecting the two big families of in-laws and mothers-in-law.
Whether or not you can handle the relationship with your in-laws is related to the happiness of a woman's marriage. Therefore, it is particularly important to be a woman with high emotional intelligence and handle all aspects of the relationship, especially the relationship with the in-laws.
Getting along with your in-laws is a science. Some women get along well with their in-laws, win the love of their in-laws and mother-in-law, and treat themselves as their own daughters; while some women do not handle the relationship well, which is very easy to cause unnecessary contradictions and disputes, making their situation worrisome.
A wise woman who knows how to deal with the world. Some things should not be managed and will not be managed, otherwise they will make each other dissatisfied. Some things can only stay out of the matter, let the parties themselves to resolve, if do not know the weight, do not know the depth, hard to insert a hand, not only can not help, but also provoke the incident, and eventually form a situation of water and fire, is not conducive to the harmony of the whole family.
Learning to be a woman with high emotional intelligence, not interfering in the following three things in the in-laws, is a kind of wisdom.
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Do not interfere in the in-laws' money affairs
The financial power of the in-laws is generally in the hands of the in-laws themselves, if there is money and money, you must not interfere in the matter, and do your own things in peace and order.
If you do find that there are signs of crisis, or if you have any good opinions or suggestions, you should also pay attention to proportions, point to it, do not investigate deeply, or even make claims, manage money, and make your in-laws resentful.
The in-laws will grow old, their management of money will slowly relax, and they think that one day it will be passed on to future generations. But before it is passed on, it is always managed for a period of time.
During this period, as a daughter-in-law, you should do your own good, don't worry about it, don't interfere, show how smart you are, but you should calm down, sort out the family's connections, deal with the trivial affairs of the family, take care of your own family at the same time.
As a junior, learn more from your in-laws. As people who have come here, they must have a very rich life experience. It is necessary to grasp the balance, not deliberately disturb, nor indifferent, learn lessons from it in a timely manner, learn financial knowledge, get along with your family in harmony, and be at peace with each other.
When you are familiar with each other, harmonious, and the time is ripe, the in-laws are naturally willing to entrust some money to you, you must be patient, but also have a sense of responsibility, more importantly, in the love of the same time to grasp the fire, grasp the measure, good at handling things, in order to make people feel at ease.
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Do not interfere in the contradictions of the in-laws
There will always be different opinions between people, and every family has a difficult scripture. Women with high emotional intelligence will not intervene in the contradictions between their in-laws' brothers and sisters, nor will they participate in disputes between them, maintain a rational and sober mind, and be diligent and thrifty.
Brothers and sisters in-law are related by blood, and they break the flesh and bones and connect the tendons. Even if they are noisy, in the end, what cannot be separated is the blood thicker than water affection between them.
And themselves, as the daughter-in-law who married the primeval, have always been the "outsiders" in their eyes. Therefore, we must know how to be self-sustaining, do not participate in the contradictions between them without authorization, and let ourselves become the target of public criticism. Don't get too close to one of them and express your opinions at will, hurting the harmony between them.
In addition, regarding the contradictions between the in-laws, if they are indeed very serious, women with high emotional intelligence will persuade their lovers more, and everything is based on the principle of "peace is precious", which can be properly tolerated, do not get angry at will, and let the contradictions accumulate deeper and deeper.
To be a virtuous wife, not to add fuel to the fire, but also to know how to put out the fire properly, only in this way can we reduce the misfortunes of the family, increase the vitality and vitality of the family, and bring good luck.
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Do not interfere in the affairs of in-laws' relatives and friends
You must know that the relatives and friends of the in-laws are the connections of the in-laws after all, and you should not interfere in the relationship between them. When you encounter things that need help, you don't always want to reach out and help, once, twice, help more, they will always push you when they encounter trouble, without any gratitude, always feel that it is deserved.
There is always a balance between people, and if you don't understand the situation and intervene at will, you will only end up begging for help. Borrowing, helping, courtesy, etc. between in-laws' relatives and friends also follows this principle.
The human relations between them will always have their own habits and balances, before you have a deep understanding, do not intervene at will, break the balance, let people be overwhelmed, but to carefully observe, grasp the weight, and handle things harmoniously, in order to live a good life in the in-laws' home.
You must know that your small family is always the core of the family, you must pay more attention to your lover and children, do not interfere in the affairs of your in-laws' relatives and friends, but ask questions that have nothing to do with yourself, do not discuss the character of others, in order to manage your own life and live your own life.
In life, we must be good at handling interpersonal relationships. Be a woman with high emotional intelligence, know how to grasp herself, do not interfere in the above three things of the in-laws, and deal with the relationship with the in-laws, so as to make her life more smooth and satisfactory.
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