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"Happy education" has always been the focus of parents' debate, watching many children run between various make-up classes for their grades at a young age, and seeing cases of light lives due to high learning pressure...
Parents began to "for the good of the child" as the starting point, support happy education, and there are many so-called "experts" to support, so a large number of parents rushed into the "happy education", do not know that there is not enough understanding but let education fall into the abyss of misunderstanding.
Happiness is a vague concept and proposition, we see that Western children go to school and learn easily and happily, but Chinese students' learning is always heavy and stressful, but it ignores that education is based on national conditions and develops.
Parents blindly worship happy education, and I don't know how many children have been delayed.
Quality education ≠ happy education, not without giving children pressure on quality education, in order to let everyone better understand this sentence, the following to analyze in detail the three major "scams" of happy education.
Myth 1: Happy education is the annoyance of no scores and nothing to learn
The misconception that "learning is hard" has affected many generations, and some children have been indoctrinated by their parents before they go to school, so children have the initial feeling of boredom.
Therefore, parents and children should think that not learning is the real happiness education, but is this really the case with happiness education in the West?
At a conference in San Francisco in 1995, Brzezinski proposed the "nipple music theory", which basically said that giving a crying baby a pacifier would quiet him down, in the same way that the poor could enjoy the cheapest pleasure at the lowest cost.
This theory soon worked, many Americans can buy fried chicken burger cokes for a dollar to make themselves happy, and then nestle in the comfort of home, without thinking about refusing to work hard, in fact, they just block the truth, so Americans are like this? Of course not!
The "nipple music theory" only applies to the poor, and the real elite people are equally serious, and their requirements for their children are even worse than those of tiger mothers and eagle fathers, and their children also have to learn from early to late, and even take lawyers, doctors, and financiers as their goals from a young age.
The difference is that only a very small number of families in the United States can afford tutoring, while Chinese parents prefer to save money for their children's cram schools.
Therefore, happy education is really not about learning nothing, but guiding and developing children based on interest, exercising various abilities, so that they can learn in a faster and easier way.
Myth two: Giving a child freedom is equivalent to letting him do whatever he wants
A mother held high the banner of "free nature" and complained to the Guangdong Provincial Museum, because her child ran and jumped in the museum, and was reminded and stopped by the staff, and the mother believed that the child needed to release her nature, and running in the stadium was free.
Presumably, this mother has also been brainwashed by the wrong "happiness education", there is never absolute freedom in the world, and all freedom is relative. Especially in modern society, the premise of freedom is to abide by the general rules of society, and the freedom to "overstep the rules" will inevitably be punished.
Giving children freedom and releasing children's nature is actually reminding parents to respect the child's growth law, rather than aiding and abetting abuse, allowing children to develop bad habits, and parents who enter this misunderstanding are easy to raise "bear children".
Myth three: Democracy means abandonment
Many Western families in film and television dramas advocate democracy, the most common plot is that when children do not want to do something, parents will easily allow their children to give up, and many Chinese parents have begun to follow suit, but film and television dramas show only one side, and in the real democratic family does not mean giving up.
Liu Huan and his wife pursued a happy education for their only daughter and advocated democracy, although their daughter had a good musical talent, but because her daughter was unwilling to practice, Liu Huan was very "democratic" not to let her daughter practice.
When talking about her daughter's education again many years later, Liu Huan also regretted that "it might have been good to force her to practice at that time."
You can't let your child learn because math is too difficult to learn, and if you are too tired to practice, you can casually promise your child not to learn, but to stimulate your child's interest in mathematical learning, which is the real role and meaning of parent education.
In fact, many parents should really push again when faced with a child who has given up.
Because when children's minds are not mature enough, they cannot fully understand the different consequences of perseverance and abandonment and the impact on their own lives, and there are many young people around us who "regret not being at the beginning", if parents can insist on it at that time, maybe the result will be different.
Many things in life have certain difficulties and challenges, and the parents' supervision is to let the child overcome the difficulties rather than let the child become a wasted person with no rules and no merit.
Write at the end
Parents should recognize that happiness education is essentially the sublimation and progress of educational methods and ways, rather than changing the purpose of education, so that children can harvest knowledge and feel happy in the process of receiving education, rather than letting children only know the pursuit of happiness and empty-handed.