Some time ago, a Screenshot of a WeChat chat caused a hot discussion among netizens: the girl's mother came to the kindergarten to pick up the child from school, and found that a little boy pulled his own girl and kissed it...
The little boy's mother thinks that the little girl's mother is too sensitive, and kissing it only expresses that she likes to play with each other. Moreover, children have the freedom to make friends, and adults should not restrict it.
The mother of the little girl believes that sex education should be conscious from an early age, which is a matter that needs to be paid attention to, and should not let her own children kiss the little girl casually.
As soon as the screenshot of the chat was sent, a discussion was sparked on the Internet about how children should also pay attention to gender.
Most netizens are supportive of the little girl's mother, as the hot netizens said: we will only teach girls to protect themselves, but never tell boys not to hurt others.
How parents treat their children's kisses and hugs will affect their life
I remember in "Where Daddy Went", Hum kissed the little puff. The practice of Du Jiang and Liu Qihong, the two fathers, has also been praised by netizens for five stars.
When Du Jiang saw that his son had kissed the little puff, he was first amused, and then he stopped his son from asking, "Hey, what are you doing?" Your relatives' family must first obtain their consent, right? Then he asked puff, "Are you angry?" After the little puff said not to be angry, she turned to her son and said: "Next time, don't kiss others suddenly like this, before you kiss others, you have to ask me if I can kiss you."
The two then high-fived the agreement to indicate that they remembered.
In the evening, Du Jiang told Liu Qihong about this matter, and Xiao Chofu also told Liu Qihong that he was kissed by Hum. After hearing her daughter say, "Hum likes me a lot before kissing me," Liu Said: "But if everyone likes you, do you want everyone to kiss you?" That's what Daddy will worry about." Then teach the daughter that if she encounters this situation next time, she will say to the other party: "If you want to kiss me, I will get my father's consent, and I can't let other people kiss you casually." Little Puff nodded as if she understood.
After the program aired, the voice on the network went like this:
@ Don't know what to call a screen name : Hmmm so cute, Du Jiang education is also very right, very good!
@ Meat-eating rib mushroom cool : Du Jiang's education is very good, timely stop and correct the child's misconduct, and go to the girl's understanding. The little puffs are so cute that they foul
@Cathy Lin-Cui: The little puffs are too cute, and The father of The baby is also so warm ~ ~ ~ If the baby is a daughter, it is indeed necessary to worry more about the heart, to establish the baby's gender concept early, to avoid being hurt!
In the face of kissing and hugging between children, parents can guide them in this way
If your baby is the one who actively loves, you can tell the child: whether it is holding hands or kissing, you must seek the consent of others in advance, which is a sign of respect for others. If you like to make friends with her, just hold hands. If you kiss, you will get sick with bacteria, so you can't play together. Try a guide like this and don't be in a hurry.
If your baby is the one who is kissed, you can tell the child: the next time a child kisses you, you must firmly refuse and tell the other party not to kiss indiscriminately. Mom said that kissing is not suitable between small children.
In fact, the feelings of children are very innocent, younger children have not been able to express their love for their peers in words, they will use kissing and hugging and other actions to express their love, which is conducive to the development of children's emotional communication skills and interpersonal relationships. TA love the mother will kiss, like to play with the children will also kiss a mouthful, we do not have to be too harsh but also can not show indifference, over time the child will think that this behavior has been approved by the parents to further strengthen, which is not conducive to the development of the child's mental health.
Face the taboo of "kissing" calmly
What do you do when you're watching TV with your child and encountering kissing shots? Sha Yi shared this trouble before, as soon as he saw the kissing scene, he asked his son Angie to pour water, and angie did not dry up the burden several times, and asked: "Dad, are you thirsty as soon as you see others kissing?" ”
Most families start to have people go to the toilet at this time, some people look for things, just don't watch TV, or change channels to blindfold children.
But in fact, such a move is not a long-term solution, and the more you cover up your child's curiosity, the greater it becomes. Instead of deliberately avoiding, it is better to slowly explain to the child with scientific positive guidance: kissing is a way to express love between adults who love each other, such as parents and mothers, and children are not suitable. After all, in today's information technology, children are receptive to various cultures far faster than we can imagine. When parents still think that their children are still young and do not know anything, children have long known from the Internet about sex, violence, rights, etc., as parents we should always observe the growth of children's cognition.
Gender education for children begins at the age of 3
Simply put, gender education is about letting babies know if they are boys or girls. The baby from the age of 3, there is a gender differentiation, at this time we must intentionally cultivate the baby's sense of judgment, may be from the simple hair length and short clothing characteristics. Children's understanding of gender does not rely on the teachings of their parents, but on the ears of life.
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Dress in detail
As soon as the baby is born, choose blue clothes with car or robot patterns for the boys, and pink, love or flower patterns for the girls. Now many parents find it fun, maybe wearing skirts for boys, cutting boys' hairstyles for girls, and changing their normal attire. These behaviors are unscientific. In the long run, it is likely to form feminine boys and masculine girls, and these children may be rejected and isolated by their partners in the process of growing up, which is not conducive to children's mental health. Therefore, when parents dress their children, they should have obvious gender characteristics.
It's not that boys can't wear pink, and girls aren't unable to wear blue, but more gender-appropriate clothing and colors will guide children to be gender-correct in the future.
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Baby and who bathes
Dad takes her son to bathe and mom takes daughter to bathe. This is the earliest enlightenment education for babies to understand the human body and gender, and we can also use the intuitive scene of bathing to tell the baby which places are not allowed to be seen and touched.
When a child provides a sexually-related problem, ask parents to respond positively to the child's question. There is no need to hide or reprimand and blame, the child is just curious, you answer him, he is not curious.
At the same time, in the matter of taking the child to the bathroom or swimming, Teacher Xiao Chen suggested that the father should take the son and the mother take the daughter. Because physically and psychologically, 3-year-olds begin to enter the "self-aware" area, and the negative effects that parents may have when they take their children into the restroom or bathroom of the opposite sex. And any normal person is not willing to expose his body unconditionally to the opposite sex, even if this "strange vision" comes only from a child.
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Learn to say "no"
Regarding private parts, parents should clearly tell their children not to touch them casually! Except for the family members who helped bathe, change clothes, and take a bath, no one else could see or touch it. When you meet someone you don't know, even if someone you know tries to touch your body, you have to say no out loud!
Parents should improve their children's sexual safety education capabilities and implement them in the details of parents' parenting of their children in life.
Tell the child that there are differences in gender, but that men and women are equal
Having your child understand the difference between boys and girls and identify with their gender is the first step. But to tell him more:
It's not what boys should be, girls should be, gender stereotypes are equally undesirable, and everyone is equal.
Boys' strength does not bring superiority, and boys should not be ashamed to cry; girls love beauty, but girls who love martial arts must also be supported and encouraged.
Hopefully every child will understand: I understand the difference between boys and girls, but I respect it.
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