When the whole network is keen to be a "Liu Qihong girl", I hope that more fathers can become "Liu Qihong-style fathers". Author | Miao Miao Mom
Who is the most popular during the epidemic period is Liu Qihong, the new "National Fitness Coach".
He created a miracle that social software soared 50 million fans in two weeks, and set off a national sports frenzy.
The self-created "Compendium of Materia Medica" shuttlecock exercises, from the elderly in their 80s to children of several years old, and even firefighters, plateau warriors, and square cabins... They're all jumping along.
Even CCTV and people's dailys went down to look for him Lianmai, as if they had found the traffic password.
There are so many fitness bloggers on the whole network, why is Liu Ruihong so hot?
Some netizens said that because they really love the atmosphere of the live broadcast room:
Liu Ruihong is like a perfect coach in front, always energetically shouting slogans to inspire everyone:
“come on！ Move, don't give up!"
"The extra flesh on the waist clicks off, and I want the mermaid vest line!"
His wife Vivi is in the back like a rookie:
Early on, I was tired and grinned, screamed bitterly, and gave up expression management, but still tried to keep up with the rhythm.
Sometimes, the mother-in-law and the three children will also appear together, and the whole family and thousands of netizens will suffer from the "torture" of Liu Qihong's love.
Everyone strives to be a "Liu Qihong Girl", not only because of his professionalism and enthusiasm, but also because of his envy of such a harmonious and happy family atmosphere, as well as for his husband, son-in-law, father... Affirmation of every family role.
The deeper you look at Liu Qihong, the more you can find the charm in him.
And Liu Qihong has undoubtedly achieved the top match of a mature man: hard body, soft temper, able to raise children, and able to protect his wife.
Dad was stiff
Only the daughter has a sense of security, and the son has a sense of value
Liu has a son and two daughters.
Some netizens once joked:
"Liu Ruihong worked hard to train a body of tendon meat, probably to prevent thieves and thieves and son-in-law."
I have to say that dad has a strong figure and can indeed give children a huge sense of security.
When Liu Qihong's youngest daughter Shanshan was learning to swim, no matter how much her mother encouraged her and how her sister persuaded, she did not dare to go into the water, crying and shouting "I am afraid."
It wasn't until Her father reached out to protect her that she bravely swam into the water:
"Because Dad's muscles are bigger, I can do it."
Liu Qihong's "hard body board" is more reflected in his thinking.
In the "Where Did Daddy Go" program, the eldest daughter, Little Puff, is particularly loved because of her good and cute personality.
Especially Hmmm, who always couldn't help but kiss her as soon as he saw her.
In the evening, little puff told her father about it and stressed that Hum had kissed her because she liked her.
Liu Qihong was shocked, but he still held back his emotions and gently told his daughter:
"If everyone likes you and comes to kiss you, it will hurt you!"
"If this continues, Dad will be jealous and worried."
"Next time you're going to tell him you're going to kiss me, with my dad's consent, okay?"
Dad's words made Puff look at the matter again.
When she later met a boy who wanted to kiss her again, she learned to say no:
"Dad said, people can't kiss me indiscriminately."
The family has a daughter, and the most feared thing is that she will not be unladylike and hurt.
Tell your daughter what is your own safety bottom line, so that your daughter will not put herself in danger, will not give others the opportunity to hurt herself, and can she live rationally and soberly.
Bottom-line education is the best protection and deepest love of fathers for their daughters.
In the face of his son Yu En, Liu Qihong also has his own principles and persistence.
Yu Eun once asked his father for money and wanted to help the homeless people he met on the street.
Liu Ruihong refused:
"Money is not earned by you, and real help is through your own efforts."
Therefore, when Yu Eun knew that long hair could be donated to children with cancer, he did not hesitate to choose to grow hair.
It's easy to decide, it's hard to stick to.
Long hair is not only a troublesome shampoo, exercise, and maintenance.
But as a boy, he would be subjected to strange glances and ridicule because of his long hair wherever he went.
Even when traveling abroad, they will be kicked out of the men's toilet.
At one point, Yu En was so sad that he wanted to give up, and Liu Qihong felt bad in his heart, but he still encouraged his son to persevere, telling him that there would be different gains in the future.
Three years later, Yu Eun helped a child undergoing chemotherapy at the "100 Donation Campaign".
At this moment, he understood his father's bitter heart:
To be a loving person, you must first make yourself strong before you have the ability to help others.
The father is the needle of the sea god in the child's life, casting the main bone of the child's life.
As Fromm says in The Art of Love, Mom represents nature, earth and the sea, our homeland, and Dad represents the world of thought: law, order, and discipline.
Dad stands up so that while protecting the child, he can deeply implant the bottom line, rule awareness and sense of responsibility into the child's heart through large and small things in daily life.
The father has a soft temper, and the child has a good personality
We often say that a good-natured mother is a good blessing for a family.
But in fact, a good-natured father is the biggest treasure of a family.
The Research Association of the University of Cambridge in the United Kingdom has conducted an experiment on the relationship between heredity and personality.
The results show that:
"The intellect of the child is greatly influenced by the mother, while the personality is greatly influenced by the father.
Fathers who have a gentle temper and love to praise their children will teach their children to be more confident, optimistic, and stronger. ”
Liu Ruihong is undoubtedly such a father.
Once, in the show, during the selection of houses, puffs smoked a small island house far away from the sea.
Dad took her to the island for a long time, tired and hungry, only to learn that because the tide was low, the boat would not be able to leave for them to move in for a few hours.
Puff is sad and lost, but Liu Ruihong is optimistic and encourages her:
"The place where we stayed was great because it was your choice.
Do you know what it's called? It's called Lucky Stone (the key to the room that Puff chose), so that one is Lucky House. ”
Infected by her father's emotions, Puff became happy again, feeling that the originally dilapidated house had been given the meaning of luck.
There is a saying that tantrums are instinctive, and not losing tantrums is a skill.
In the face of life's unhappiness, Liu Qihong can always tolerate the child's shortcomings, find the bright side of life, and drive the child to persist together.
When the children had to complete the task of turning the crab shell independently, the other children were quickly completed, and only the little puff did not succeed.
Just as she was about to give up, her father encouraged her:
"You try again, try again, okay?"
"You see, they're all eating seafood fried rice noodles, don't you like it?"
"It's too heavy, isn't it?"
"You just turned it very well!"
"Almost finished baby..."
However, the next few challenges were still not smooth, and after watching the children who were happy to eat breakfast next to them, Little Puff said that it was not fun at all.
But Liu Ruihong still did not choose to help, but continued to patiently say to The Little Puff:
"It's not fun, it's not fun, then it's a challenge.
Sometimes, the challenge doesn't have to be fun, but puffs you have to do your best to do it, okay? ”
Some netizens said that after watching Liu Qihong's education, they understood why The little puff was so sensible and cute.
When she cooks, she will tell his father not to burn;
Will know jasper is hungry, divide his only egg in half;
Will accept all the unbearable of the moment, while comforting other children, raising her iconic crescent smile;
……
A good-natured father can really determine a child's attitude towards the world.
The father is gentle and kind, and the child can learn how to be friendly with others.
The father is patient and tolerant, and the child can learn how to let others please him.
Fathers are tough and brave, and children can learn to rise up in adversity and take control of their own lives.
Being able to have a good-natured father will be the luckiest thing in a child's life.
A father with high emotional intelligence is the cornerstone of family harmony
In the family system, fathers, mothers and children together form a stable triangle relationship. Among them, the attitude of fathers to mothers also plays a crucial role.
Liu once boasted in an interview as Vivi's solid backing, and everything about the children listened to his wife.
But in fact, because Vivi is easy to be soft-hearted, Liu Qihong advocates persistence, so they will inevitably have differences of opinion.
But Liu Ruihong would never dismantle his wife's desk in front of his children, and all things would be discussed with his wife in private, and his wife would come forward to educate.
As Professor Li Meijin said: "To manage children, you only need to have a voice." ”
The parents' educational philosophy is the same, so that the child can see the truth of the facts in helplessness and help him grow better.
But if you do not dismantle the stage≠ do not participate, Liu Qihong is in the family, is the backing of the whole family, but also the buffer belt of the mother-child relationship.
He will take the initiative to mediate the conflict between the mother and the child, and will also explain the mother's good intentions to the children when they do not understand.
Let the parent-child relationship in the family form a stable triangle to support the space for the free growth of children, which is also an extremely important role for fathers in the family system.
Over the years, Liu Qihong and Vivi have loved each other and supported each other together, even in the most difficult times.
At the beginning, Liu Ruihong failed to start a business, and even had no money to take the bus when it was most difficult.
Everyone was not optimistic about him, only Vivi still supported his musical dream, without half a word of complaint.
After giving birth, Vivi had her uterus removed. The devastation of childbearing and the growth of age made her figure gradually lose shape and begin to doubt herself.
Liu Qihong did not perfunctory lover's emotions, took the initiative to become her personal trainer, helped her heal and recover, and let her regain her self-confidence.
And this is also his original intention to start the fitness live broadcast.
Initially, Vivi would introduce herself by saying:
"I am Liu Qihong's wife, little puff's mother."
Liu Ruihong will always correct her:
"You are not who you are, you are yourself, say your own name."
Later, there were always some discordant voices in the live broadcast room laughing at Vivi, and Liu Ruihong would also stand up for the first time:
"You can't say that about her."
He has stated several times in public:
"Marrying Vivi is the most correct and courageous decision I've ever made."
When children will be jealous because their parents are too affectionate, Liu Ruihong will also tell the children:
"Of course you are my baby, but when you grow up, you will be separated from your parents and find your lover for the rest of your life."
Dad and Mom are going to be together for a lifetime. ”
I remembered a sentence from Professor Peng Huaizhen of Tunghai University in Taiwan:
"The best gift a father can give to his child is to love his mother."
If there is anything that can benefit a child the most for a lifetime, it must be that the father loves the mother, and the mother loves the whole family.
I've heard the saying that a man really becomes mature from the moment he becomes a father.
What is a mature father? It is:
When children are pessimistic and evasive, and their mistakes are wrong, you are the one who straightens their waist, gives them a sense of security, and straightens out their growth path.
When children fail and make mistakes, you are the one who tolerates their shortcomings, gives them positive hints, and supports them to move forward.
The status of father is a lifelong profession that has more influence on children than 100 teachers.
A father with a bottom line, willing to accompany, educated, and loving his wife will use strong fatherly love to hold up a piece of heaven for his child and let his child have a gorgeous life, which is the greatest happiness of his child's life.
Click "Like it", may you and I both become parents who support each other with their other half, make progress together, and finally achieve children.