My son has always been my pride, and it has been very worry-free since he was a child, especially in his studies, and he is a proper child of other people's families.
After graduating from 985 School, he signed into a large factory with an annual salary of about 300,000 yuan. Having such a starting point just after graduation made me unique.
What's even more face-saving is that he found a local girl as his wife, who has good looks, good figure and good temperament.
When I first came to my house, everyone who saw it thought that a star had come here to film.
This satisfied the vanity of my wife and me, and the first time my daughter-in-law came to the door, I gave her 10,001, which means one in a million. She was not polite at all and accepted it.
After talking to his son for less than two years, the two entered into marriage.
Three years after they got married, I began to gradually notice the gap between my life with my wife and my in-laws.
After my wife and I retired, we did not enjoy our old age like other colleagues, but found a suitable unit to continue to make money, thinking that we would earn more for our son and make him more confident in his future life.
Call them 8,000 on time every month to make pocket money. In order to save money, we divide a piece of tofu into two meals, and usually others don't go to invite guests at all, and they are not afraid to pay back.
I haven't bought another piece of clothing since they got married, and my wife quit smoking for decades, ostensibly for the sake of her own health, but in fact, I know that it is to save more money for my son.
We both have the traditional concept of "the family is the country, we have to fight for our son, so that he can sit more stable".
has this obsession, wears the stars and the moon, and works hard.
On the other hand, my in-laws, square dancing, traveling, running around and playing. The clothes on his body are all famous brands, and he looks like he is not worried about money at all, and the circle of friends often sends photos of the old couple going to travel, and they are full of energy, and they are getting younger and younger.
In this process, if you think about it carefully, my son has never expressed the meaning of not letting us do it, nor has he said anything that feels sorry for us, and he takes it for granted. On the contrary, sometimes when he talks about his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he always praises his father-in-law and mother-in-law for living.
It's not like me and his dad, who quarrel over money at every turn! made the atmosphere at home very depressing, and he didn't want to stay!
He never wanted to think that the reason why we care so much about money is because of him.
And the reason why his father-in-law and mother-in-law live so easily and happily is also because of him.
My wife and I have always held the idea that suffering is a blessing, and we didn't care about these things with him, and the negative emotions generated by the comparison were all digested by ourselves.
But what has happened in the past period of time, I don't think I can stop thinking about it.
In mid-April, my daughter-in-law celebrated her birthday. The private room booked in the hotel that day was all familiar relatives and friends, and his father and mother also came.
Before eating, she took out a gold necklace from her pocket and hung it around her mother's neck.
said: "Thank her mother for bringing her into this world and giving birth to her" to her father bought the latest Apple mobile phone, and the three of them also took a photo sweetly, and my son took a photo!
My wife and I stared at each other! Heart, tumbling like a pan of oil.
How cheap are our two old men, from the beginning of preparing for their marriage, we have contributed money and efforts, and most of our life savings have bought them a house.
As a result, they rarely took the initiative to celebrate our birthdays, and every time we called them in advance.
Every time I come, I don't even buy fruit and milk, so I just come with empty paws. I don't help to do anything here I wipe my mouth after eating, just like completing a task.
"And all this is tacitly acquiesced and even allowed by our precious son, whom we regard as proud!"
Talking to my wife afterwards, we were both quite disappointed at that time. I felt like a failure and raised a son who didn't know how to be grateful.
I finally insisted on the birthday party, and when I was paying, my son said that the money in his card was not enough, so let me pay it.
I didn't hesitate to refuse.
He pulled my face with me for several days, and my daughter-in-law didn't look very happy.
My wife, like every time, paid special attention to the attitude of her son and daughter-in-law, and told me to let them a little bit, just this one son, and I won't point at him or anyone in the future.
Now that the yin and yang are declining, the daughter-in-law has been offended again, so if one day they are needed, won't the daughter-in-law get in the way?
He had all sorts of worries. But this time, I was quite stable, insisting on my choice, and the money was not paid to them in the end.
Soon after, it was May Day, and my son and daughter-in-law drove their father-in-law and mother-in-law out to play, but they didn't call us.
The daughter-in-law was like a demonstration, and posted a lot of photos in the circle of friends along the way.
I really think that she is so ignorant! And that's what my wife and I are used to.
I used to be good to them 100 times, but if it was bad once, it became zero.
And then they were upset! Just hit us in this way.
In the past, I would have turned a blind eye and not seen them in general.
But this time, my wife and I unanimously decided to stop the 8,000 yuan that we gave them every month.
So on the 5th of this month, we didn't pay them as usual.
As a result, the two of us have taken turns to get close to us since last night, and my son asked us what we had for dinner? The daughter-in-law said: "She bought us tourist souvenirs and thought about sending them to us in the next two days."
I know that they are not well-intentioned, they are just worried about our 8,000 yuan!
Tell them directly: "I won't give them any more financial support in the future, because my wife and I don't want to go to work anymore because my wife's health doesn't allow it."
The son was anxious when he heard this, grabbed the microphone and said, "They are preparing to get pregnant this year and want a child, so that we can hold our grandson earlier!" If we don't support them, they won't be able to give birth to this grandson! "
It's really shocking to have a son like this!
The wife's hands trembled angrily and scolded her son: "We can't even count on you now, can we still count on our grandson?"
Then we hung up the phone. We know the consequences of falling out with them, but we're willing to take it.
All relationships go both ways, and if it's just our parents' shaved head and hot head, so that he gets used to taking it for granted, and never considers our feelings, then this kind of effort is meaningless.
What is the difference between having such children and not having them?