"What a vest line girl, a peach buttocks girl, now I only do Liu Qihong girl." I believe that netizens are no strangers to this ridiculous remark. In other words, on who is the hottest in the network industry today, it is really Liu Qihong! Liu Qihong, who was isolated at home in Shanghai, relied on the online live broadcast of fat burning gymnastics with his wife for five days a week, and quickly went out of the circle and became the top blogger in the live broadcast industry.
If it were not for this live broadcast, I believe that many people would be unfamiliar with the three words "Liu Qihong". But in fact, Liu Qihong is a person with a lot of life experience. Before the explosion, he had debuted for more than 20 years, worked as an actor and singer, formed a band, and did a clothing business, and it was not easy to achieve today's achievements! And Liu Qihong is still an excellent husband, and it is not too much to describe it as a spoiled wife demon. Therefore, just when Liu Qihong was on fire, many female netizens exclaimed that they envied his wife. However, compared to his status as a "fitness trainer" and a "good husband", I pay more attention to his parenting experience. I have to say that in today's era when the "father role" is missing, Liu Qihong's approach is really worthy of praise and learning. 01. Take on family responsibilities, don't do invisible dad once saw a public welfare film called "ATM Dad". In the public welfare film, in the hearts of young children, the father has become a cash machine, and the little girl has fantasized countless times that the father can accompany her to play games and do homework... But in the end none of this worked out. At the end of the public welfare film, these few heartfelt words were left: childhood is only once, Dad, accompany me.
Countless parents are envious of other people's children, and countless children are also envious of other people's fathers, and Liu Qihong is someone else's father. In the "Where Does Daddy Go" program, Liu Ruihong and his daughter Xiao Puff cooperate with tacit understanding, even if they encounter difficulties, they will easily handle it. Netizens bluntly said that Liu Qihong's ability to take a baby is really fantastic, and it is worth learning from all fathers. When participating in the show, although the little puff is only 4 years old, she is not afraid of hardship, not only well-behaved but also warm-hearted, will express her emotions very accurately, which really makes netizens envious. If you think that Liu Ruihong just brought a small puff, it is a big mistake, because the other two children he also brought very well. Why is Liu Ruihong, who is busy with his career, so good at taking a baby?
Actually, the answer is simple. From the moment the child was born, he knew the importance of father to the child's growth, so he was determined not to be an invisible father. Many parents always say that they are very busy and do not have time to take their children. Liu Qihong did not agree with this, he said: "As long as you want to do it, you must be able to do it, with a baby does not have to be a lot of time, but there must be quality." In order to accompany the children, Liu Qihong resolutely abandoned the gym and worked out at home while taking the baby. Under his influence, the child also liked fitness and did a good job.
Not only that, every holiday, Liu Ruihong will try to take the children to explore nature, contact people and things, cherish every day with the children, and try to achieve high-quality companionship. In life, many fathers do not realize the importance of their own family education. As everyone knows, their own careful companionship will be an extremely valuable asset in the process of children's growth, as the psychologist Fromm said: "Fathers are the ones who educate children and point out the way to the world." In other words, the meaning of fatherly love for the child is extraordinary, even more irreversible, and even determines and affects the child's life.
Excellent fathers, no matter how busy, will take time to accompany their children, such as Liang Qichao, although she is particularly busy, she has never ignored and cared about the growth of each child. The children are studying outside, and Liang Qichao often communicates with them in the form of letters, not only to understand their studies in a timely manner, but also to put forward his own rational suggestions on every major life event of the children. Liang Qichao is a model of a good father. In those letters, he once confessed affectionately to his children: "You must know that your father is the most emotional person, and for your love, twelve points of enthusiasm..." It is precisely because he is not an invisible father, so under Liang Qichao's education, his nine children have become elites in different fields.
There is a saying in "Poor Dad Rich Dad": "The so-called success is to have time to take care of their children." In this world, any professional role can be replaced, but the role of parent is irreplaceable. But in many families, the role of the father has been diluted, and even many fathers neglect to accompany their children and unconsciously become "hand-throwing treasurers". In fact, the companionship of the father plays a vital role in the parent-child relationship and the growth of the child. Therefore, a truly responsible father will always pay attention to the growth of his child. Of course, in family education, in addition to the parent-child relationship, whether the parent-child relationship is harmonious will also have a great impact on the growth of the child. 02. First be a good partner, and then do a good job of parents Family therapy expert Satia once said: "Husband and wife are the architects of the family, and the family that the parents love is like a warm nest, giving the child enough security." Liu Qihong knows the importance of this point, he feels that if you want to be a good parent, you must first be a good partner, in short, a good family education is that father loves mother. Many parents feel that the relationship between them is good and will not affect their children. But in fact, the mode of getting along between parents will directly affect the child's cognition of intimate relationships.
In family life, if parents often quarrel, it is difficult for children to feel love, let alone how to love. In order to create a "loving" family environment for children, Liu Qihong and his wife Wang Wanfei never skimp on reaching their love for each other in front of their children, and even call each other their own treasures. Occasionally, when the children jealously said that they were the baby of their parents, Liu Ruihong would patiently tell the children: "Of course, you are our baby, but father and mother are going to walk hand in hand for a lifetime." When you grow up, you will also have your own lover, separated from your parents and go down with him. "It is precisely because of the harmonious relationship between parents that Liu's children will develop a good personality and have the ability to love others and enjoy being loved." On the contrary, if the parents are cold, the child's personality will most likely be melancholy. Actor Huang Xuan once revealed in the show that his original family was not happy. The feelings of Huang Xuan's parents are very bad, the two personally often quarrel, and the young Huang Xuan can't see love from them, but also feels the warmth of the family. Therefore, when he grew up, Huang Xuan, even if he was a big star, was still introverted, sensitive, and even somewhat inferior.
Psychology guru Jung said: "The worst influence of parents on their children is to make their children feel that they are not living a good life." Indeed, if parents are like enemies between each other, the small is insulting, the big is moving, it will cause great psychological trauma to the child, and it may not be repaired for a lifetime." In addition, smart parents, in addition to knowing how to manage the relationship between husband and wife, will also pay attention to the impact of their own words on their children, such as encouraging their children. 03. Smart parents will be their children's praise teachers In family education, smart parents will be children's praise teachers, not bad evaluators, they will give their children encouragement and support, so that the child's heart is full of confidence. Liu Ruihong is like this. Liu's son, Yu En, is the spokesperson for the Cancer Hope Foundation, for which he participated in the "100 People Donation Campaign" and left long hair. At first, everyone did not understand Yu'en's behavior of long hair, and later Liu Lihong said on social platforms that the reason why Yu'en would grow long hair was to make his hair into a wig and donate it to children with cancer.
Liu Qihong also said that the child encountered many misunderstandings in the process of growing long hair, and even some classmates discriminated against him, making him almost unable to stick to it. Although the outside world has mixed praise, Liu Qihong and his wife have encouraged their son and let him stick to his original intention and pass on his love. It is precisely because of the encouragement and support of her parents that Yu Eun has successfully grown her long hair and drawn a perfect end to her public welfare. Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parental encouragement is indispensable. If you blindly deny and suppress the child, it will inevitably leave a huge shadow in the child's heart, just like there is a saying on the Internet: "The bad evaluation of parents, like a tight curse, firmly encloses the child in the cave of inferiority, and even pushes the child into the abyss." In terms of encouraging children, not only Liu Qihong, Huang Lei's wife Sun Li has also done a very good job.
When Huang Duoduo was 9 years old, Sun Li posted photos of her daughter's ear piercings and praised her daughter's courage. He also shared a variety of SELF-made DIY achievements and praised the children's hands-on ability. At the age of 13. Duoduo began to dye purple hair, dressed somewhat mature, and changed 3 hair colors in a short period of time, if other parents are estimated to have begun to preach, but Sun Li is still encouraging. In addition to these small details of Aimei's life, Sun Li often takes her daughter to the big magazine to take photos and supports Duoduo with her own actions.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong once mentioned the imprinting effect: "If parents always have a bad evaluation of their children, the child will despair, and once they get despair, they will repeat despair; if they get pain, they will repeat pain; if they get denial, they will repeat denial." If parents do not know how to encourage their children, it is easy to produce a "printing effect", which will become a shadow that will linger in the child's life. 04. It is true that raising children is a long and arduous process, and it is not an easy task to be a wise parent, but as parents, we have the responsibility and obligation to become the best example for children. When they are young, give enough companionship and care, create a loving and warm family environment for them, and give enough encouragement and support when they are questioned. Only in this way will the child grow from a seedling to a towering tree, and can have the correct three views, the mentality of sunshine and the self-confidence of the character. About the author: Lin Zishu, a newspaper reporter, a media journal writer, a daily expert, I have a pen to take you to the red dust.