Educating children requires wisdom and rationality, and parents need serious thinking and careful exploration to find the most suitable education method for children. In family education, parents must think clearly about these 3 problems, which have a very important impact on a family's education style.
1. Are parents who give in to their children really loving their children?
Many experts advocate happy education and educate children with love. In the past, parents in the family had the final say, but now it is completely reversed, and the family has become the child's decision.
Parents educate their children happily when they are young, respect their children in everything, and the things that children are unwilling to do are absolutely not forced, and excessive democracy has led to such a result, the child is willful and arrogant, and does not obey the discipline of the parents. Democratic consciousness must be cultivated slowly, and being too anxious and too fast will only encourage children's willfulness.
And talk about democracy for children also wait until the child's cognitive level is close to that of adults, parents can communicate rationally with their children, then talk about democracy with children to let children understand that democracy is not easy to come by, and children will know to cherish.
2. Is it good for parents to blindly encourage their children?
Parents praising their children at the right time in the right way will make their children more confident.
However, praise can not be excessive, children who grow up completely in praise, when they grow up, can not accept setbacks, and encountering a little difficulty in society will make them become sluggish.
Loving children is not to use false lies to build a beautiful world for children, parents should tell their children that this society is cruel, let children make psychological preparations for the difficulties they will encounter in the future, and cultivate children's courage to face difficulties and solve difficulties.
3. Why is it useless for some parents to say more?
Why do parents never listen to what their children say? Because the words spoken by parents are only instilled in the children.
When the child finds that only he needs to abide by these rules, and the adult can do what he likes unscrupulously, the child will be unbalanced in his heart and will no longer be willing to accept the discipline of his parents.
Parents want their children to become what kind of person, they should be what kind of people, this is the power of words and deeds, parents do not want their children to play mobile phones all day, they should not play mobile phones at home all day.
Parents who set an example for their children are more convincing to their children.
Visionary parents know that process matters more than results. With a good process, it is easier to have a good result.
Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parents must correctly exercise their right to supervise and guide. I hope that every parent can become a listener, companion and spurr for their children, so that children can take fewer detours on the road to becoming a talent.