There is a saying in the "Augmented Sage Text": "Raise children to prevent old age, and Jigu to prevent hunger." ”
However, with the development of the times, more and more elderly people are fully capable of "self-support", and even help the younger generation.
But even if a person is strong, he cannot stop the pace of time, block life, old age, illness and death. In the final analysis, even if the ability is strong and the person is self-reliant, the older he is, the more vulnerable he is.
In the third year of Wu Ge's marriage, her father died unexpectedly, and she had only been giving birth to the child for less than three months. Wu Ge was so sad that he returned to his milk, and the whole person became depressed.
Wu Ge's mother, Aunt Zhang, while busy with her husband's affairs, comforted her daughter. Wu Ge knew that his mother at this time actually needed more comfort than himself, so he took his mother to his side.
Fast forward a few months, Wu Ge's maternity leave was over, aunt Zhang saw that her daughter and son-in-law were overstretched in living expenses in order to take care of the child's aunt, so she offered to stay and take care of her little grandson.
This care is 6 or 7 years, during which Aunt Zhang not only does not want a penny for her children, but also takes the living expenses of buying vegetables, buying gifts for her little grandson, and going out to play.
Not only in terms of money, but also in life, Aunt Zhang also takes good care of her daughter, son-in-law, and little grandson. Daughters and sons-in-law can always eat a steaming dinner after work, and Aunt Zhang also changes the pattern to increase nutrition for the little grandson.
It can be said that after the death of her wife, Aunt Zhang was single-mindedly in the home of her daughter and son-in-law, sincerely thinking about their small family.
If life can go on like this, everyone will be happy. It's just a pity that life has no ifs.
Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet: "When grief comes, it does not come alone, but in groups." ”
Two people live a life where there is no tongue touching teeth, Wu Ge and her husband are no exception, every time the little couple argues Aunt Zhang sees, she is really anxious.
But Aunt Zhang knew that if she interfered in the affairs between the little couple, it would only make the family relationship worse, so she put up with it every time.
Just this time, the daughter and son-in-law quarreled over the child's problem, and during the dispute, the son-in-law hit the child twice in the mouth, when the child was hospitalized and dripped and had just been discharged from the hospital, and coughed badly.
This next aunt Zhang really couldn't stand it and pulled the child in front of her. Having said that, if you have something to say, raise your hand and hit anyone who is a father.
The son-in-law was angry, directly shouting at Aunt Zhang: "My child, I am willing to manage as much as I want, others can't control it, you protect it is the harm to the child." ”
The two sides argued, the language came and went, neither could convince the other, and the farce ended in the cries of the children. Although the quarrel was over, it planted a knot in the hearts of both parties.
When the son-in-law came home from work, he went straight into the bedroom, closed the door and did not come out. When I saw Aunt Zhang, I also didn't speak coldly.
I originally thought that this kind of cross-brow cold day would naturally slowly improve with time, but in the blink of an eye, more than two months had passed, and the son-in-law did not talk to Aunt Zhang.
This heart is easy to get sick, and Aunt Zhang is really sick.
After Aunt Zhang fell ill, her daughter stayed up with her for three nights, and she couldn't stand it, so her daughter consulted with her husband and asked him to go to a substitute class.
However, the son-in-law's answer made Aunt Zhang shudder. Originally, Aunt Zhang's daughter Wu Ge still wanted to hide it, but gradually, Aunt Zhang also knew that the son-in-law would most likely not give herself a pension.
At that time, the son-in-law's original words were: "I can manage the child, so that you have time to go to the hospital to take care of it, and I have done my best." ”
Wu Ge also proposed to hire a nurse, and the son-in-law replied: "Ten days and half a month can be, the days are long, the number of times is more, we know the economic situation of our family, you weigh it yourself." ”
Wu Ge was heartbroken because of the gap between her mother and her husband, and she didn't know how to be good in the middle, so she could only cross the difficulties in front of her first.
Gradually, with a mustard heart, it is difficult for Wu Ge and her husband's feelings to return to the past. Sometimes Wu Ge wants to snuggle up with her husband like before. But every time he could remember his cold attitude towards his mother, it was cold in the blink of an eye.
After Wu Ge's mother was discharged from the hospital, she could take care of herself, but instead of helping the small family as hard as before, she returned to her old house to live and began to save money, all based on her physical condition first.
Every weekend, Wu Ge will take her son to see her grandmother, Aunt Zhang no longer buys clothes and toys for her grandson in large bags, but only prepares simple meals, and her daughter buys fruits and supplements and no longer chases after more money as before.
The son-in-law no longer came to the door, and when he came, he only stood downstairs, waiting for Wu Ge to take his son downstairs. The warmth of the family once seems to be too long ago.
The TV series "Heavenly Path" has put forward such a view: raising children to prevent aging, parents are the natural creditors of children, even if they earn when they encounter filial piety, they will lose a lot when they encounter a jerk. Raising children and preventing old age, this nation will live bent over, unable to lift its head, and always circle in a vicious circle.
We do not advocate that the elderly eat their children and do nothing to wait for the "pension". It is not recommended that children abandon the elderly and ignore them, and their cold faces are relatively "nibbling on the old".
The best relationship is for older people to work hard when they are young and save a financial security for their old age. Younger people are diligent and can live a good life on their own. The elders give care to the younger generations, and the younger generations give the elderly peace of mind.
For the son-in-law or daughter-in-law, it is good that the other party is willing to give himself a pension, but if the other party is unwilling, he cannot force it. Of course, leave some chips for yourself, and you can live better in your later years.
In the middle and late years, we must know how to care more about our own body and strive to save our own pension money, which is far more secure than who to rely on for the elderly.
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