Perfect partner: The same divorce, but Chen Shan Sun Lei these two points, is Wu Min Lin Qingkun can not be compared
No matter how noisy the husband and wife are, there are two words that cannot be easily said, that is, "divorce".
Some people always say divorce very casually, and they scare their other half with divorce at every turn, but this practice is wrong. Because once you hurt the other one, the fake divorce you are talking about becomes real, and it is impossible to get it back.
Those who don't casually mention divorce can't easily say those two words.
In "Perfect Partner", two couples filed for divorce at the same time, Lin Qingkun and Wu Min were proposed by the woman, and Sun Lei and Chen Shan were proposed by the man. Netizens think that Wu Min and Sun Lei are crazy, especially the latter, how dare he or how to mention these two words with a face, it should be Chen Shanti to mention.
Although the two families are divorcing, in fact, the two advantages of Chen Shan and Sun Lei are incomparable to Wu Min and Lin Qingkun.
First, know how to communicate and trust each other
The most important thing between husband and wife is communication and trust, and marriages without trust are prone to problems, and the same is true for love. Communication is even more important, whether it's for couples, lovers, friends or family.
However, Lin Qingkun and Wu Min did not have each other, they both felt that the other party was sorry for themselves, and there were people outside. When Lin Qingkun learned that Wu Min was buying things outside, his first reaction was that his wife had cheated on him and made a home outside with other men, otherwise why would she buy those things.
This is the consequence of non-communication and a manifestation of distrust. If Lin Qingkun had communicated with his wife and understood what she was thinking every day, there would have been no misunderstandings of one kind or another.
In the final analysis, it is the disaster of not communicating, and if the husband and wife do not communicate for a long time, they do not know each other's ideas, so it is easy to cause misunderstandings and cause suspicion.
Chen Shan and Sun Lei are different, they will communicate in time if they have problems. In this regard, Chen Shan did better, sun Lei was a little worse, but always stronger than Lin Qingkun and Wu Min.
If Chen Shan is unhappy, she will directly say it, and the current problem will be solved immediately. Understanding that communication misunderstandings will be reduced, and each other will trust each other, even if jealous, but still trust their lovers.
When Wu Min and Lin Qingkun questioned Chen Shan and Sun Lei at the same time, their approach was to believe unconditionally, because they had been together for twenty years, they knew each other's personalities, so no matter what others said and no matter how sour their hearts were, they believed that their lovers would not do anything out of the ordinary.
If every couple knows how to communicate and absolutely trusts each other, then they will have a very happy and happy life! Of course, the premise is that the person is trustworthy and that he or she is willing to communicate.
Second, know how to reflect
The way couples get along: In addition to knowing how to communicate and trust each other, it is also important to know how to reflect on yourself.
The two quarrel and quarrel, but sometimes they still have to know how to reflect on themselves, think about whether they have done anything wrong in this marriage and this quarrel. If it is true that you have done something wrong, you must apologize and not win or lose.
Maybe you'll win, but there's a good chance you'll lose the guy who's full of you. Chen Shan and Sun Lei did this better than Lin Qingkun and Wu Min.
Sun Lei's hurried words can kill people's popularity, but then he will reflect on himself saying the wrong thing and making his daughter-in-law unhappy. So he would sincerely apologize and say why he said that at the time.
As the saying goes: reach out and don't hit the smiley face person, see her husband apologize so sincerely, Chen Shan can't think about it, and she also feels that there is a problem with the way she handles things. Both people are aware of their problems, and as long as one bows their heads, then the problem is solved.
But Lin Qingkun and Wu Min felt that there was something wrong with each other and never reflected on themselves.
Women feel that men only know how to earn money and care about their careers, and never take this family and themselves seriously. And Lin Qingkun felt that his wife was making unreasonable trouble, he had given Wu Min and his son the best conditions, but she was still making unreasonable trouble.
In short, two people feel that it is each other's problem, feel that the other party is cheating, but in fact, they still love each other, otherwise they will not be jealous of each other. To put it bluntly, the reason why they have such and such problems is actually caused by non-communication, because they do not know what the other party thinks and wants.