There are a lot of people around us who have been single all the time, and this person may never talk about an object, or he may have only talked about one object, and then he has never talked about an object again.
When I was studying, I often had a crush on other people, but I couldn't say it because I thought that schooling was the most important thing.
At that time, I felt that this was a sin, I felt that I should not do this, my mood had not been able to calm down, it was difficult for no one to love, and I felt particularly lonely.
When I grew up, I found that I could live well alone, I could stay single continuously, and I wasn't in a hurry to find someone.
A person's state of mind can change, there are some people who are consistently single, many people think that there is something wrong with this person, in fact, it is just a personal choice.
However, a person who remains single can only illustrate one problem:
The person hasn't found the right person and therefore feels good about a person, or the person has been emotionally hurt, or it's possible that the person he likes doesn't like himself.
01.
Whether it is a man or a woman, he may have loved someone in this life. This person is the most loved person in his life, but in the end the two people are separated, which is also a great harm to himself.
Once I went outside to stamp, suddenly found that there is a person in the unit single, this person has been 40 years old, but not yet married, people are particularly handsome, the ability to do things is also very strong, treat people very well.
At that time, there was a person in the unit who was very gossipy and took the initiative to tell me the story of this person: the reason why this person was single to 40 years old was because he was in love with a girl that year, and the two people talked about love for eight years.
But he was dumped by the girl, and since then, this person no longer believes in love, so he has become a great leader in his career, with special efforts.
But whenever we talk about this eight-year love object, the leader will still be unhappy, still depressed, not put down, and there is still the other party's phone in the address book, but it has never been called.
Guo Jingming said:
"Some people will always be engraved in their memories, even if they forget his voice, forget his smile, forget his face, but whenever they think of him, the feeling will never change." 」
Some people are always hidden in our memories, but we don't want to bother each other anymore, maybe the other party's phone has always been there, but never greeted the other party, not even a message has been sent.
Sometimes there is a certain setback in the relationship, and people will have such a change.
02.
Some people have talked about the object once and found that in fact, talking about the object also needs to pay a price.
Just like a girl, at the beginning, she especially longed to fall in love, but when she fell in love, she found special trouble, and when a person walked up to you, you felt your heart pounding.
But when a person leaves you, you are particularly sad. When girls experience this kind of heartbeat and sadness, they will face life plainly.
Girls will find that when you get the warm embrace of the other party, you still have to pay something, at least you will pay the tears.
Someone said:
"When love comes, of course, it is also happy. But this happiness is to be given, and it is also necessary to learn to accept disappointment, pain and parting, and from then on, life is no longer pure. ”
So after talking about love, you will find that you are no longer so simple, of course, some people are particularly lucky, this kind of person has only talked about love once in his life, and once succeeded.
Such a person's attitude towards love is often simple and cute, and he feels that everyone in the world is a good person, and he will be immersed in happiness all his life.
But most people are not so lucky, talking about the object again and again, and in the end it is still a person, so in the end, this person does not want to find another object, and thinks that a person is actually quite good.
Some people may feel that they have a problem, but they understand that they have failed emotionally, only they are the most hurtful, and others are just matching you and others to talk to.
But the hurt you suffer in this relationship is often something you need to bear yourself, and no one can erase the hurt in your mind.
03.
Some people are standing in front of you, but the other party does not love you, so we continue to be single and wait for each other.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"The most distant distance in the world is not the distance between life and death, not the difference between heaven and earth, but I stand in front of you, and you don't know that I love you." 」
Nowadays, this society is making great progress and transportation is relatively developed, as long as you like a person, as long as you are willing to meet this person, you set off during the day, and you may have seen each other at night.
But some people are right in front of your eyes, but the other party doesn't like you, and it has no relationship between seeing and not seeing.
Some people are good at hanging on a tree, and have always liked each other specially, so they will never associate with other people, but the person you like does not like you, so you have been waiting, and you have been single.
Therefore, I advise those who hang themselves on a tree, in fact, sometimes it is best to open a little, where there is no grass at the end of the world, why should I love a flower. Sometimes let go of others, but also let go of yourself, give yourself more roads, in order to find a more suitable person.
If a person makes you wait for three years, four years, then, when you wait until the tenth year, the other party will certainly not be by your side, so it is said to stop the loss in time early, because the other party has wasted a lot of your youth.
Then in the future life, you must find someone who can love you, and don't waste too much on this person.
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When a person wants to talk about someone, first of all, you must have a good image to make others think that you are a good person, and you will also bring good and happiness to others after you are with others.
So it doesn't matter if you're still single and haven't found the right guy, or if you've been hurt in your relationship before.
As long as you shape yourself well, one day, someone will appear in front of your eyes, and you will no longer be alone in this world.
"Love is not a refuge, and if you want to go in and take refuge, you will be driven out."
So we have to have our own ability to be able to take care of the people around us, if you just drag others down all the time, one day, others will also feel the pressure and may also think of running away from you.
When thinking about love, you should also consider the long term, you think about being with this person, then you must consider your life after marriage, after marriage, only two people work together, the family will get better and better.
If there is only one person making money outside, this pressure is very large, so you must also have the ability to help each other.