In people's lives, there will always be an unforgettable love, this love may be the first time we have fallen in love, or it may be the first time we have fallen in love very carefully.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"If I don't love you, I won't miss you, I won't be jealous of the opposite sex around you, I won't lose my self-confidence and fighting spirit, I won't be miserable, if I can not love you, how good it would be." 」
As a talented girl, Zhang Xiaoxian once said such words for love, which shows that girls will have a love dream in their hearts, but sometimes, this dream makes us unable to wake up, and in the dream, we are not happy and happy.
So sometimes girls must know how to stop losses in time and know how to put down a man.
Pushkin said:
"Everything is temporary, everything will fade. Everything that has passed away will become a good memory. ”
Be sure to understand that many things are short-lived, just like a glass of milk, all have a shelf life, and when the shelf life is over, you can throw it away, and drinking it will be bad.
And the way a woman discovers a man is to become realistic.
01. Talk about money
Many girls and men will not talk about money when they talk about objects, at least girls who really love each other will never talk to this man about money.
I see a lot of women around me talking to men, but also spend money on this man, the first time I talk about the object also spent money on my boyfriend, every time I eat, I will take the initiative to pay my boyfriend.
But in the end, I got very little in return, and even I got betrayal.
Some feelings are worthless in front of money, once I also wanted my boyfriend to invite me to dinner, because it was my birthday, I didn't think that my boyfriend was angry with me, at that moment I found that in front of money, people's feelings are particularly fragile.
Someone sent a circle of friends saying:
"In the face of money, human nature, morality, conscience, affection, love, all seem so cheap and worthless."
After I found that our feelings were worthless in front of money, I understood the meaning of my friend's circle of friends, and I also understood my friend's mood at that time.
When you find out that you are talking to this man about money, but this man feels that money is important, you will slowly let go of this man.
Because you find that in this man's mind, you are not as important as your own 100 yuan, and men are sometimes reluctant to spend 100 yuan on you.
When you are refused to spend money by men again and again, you will find that in fact, you are nothing in the other person's mind, and you will slowly become more realistic.
02. Talk about giving
Feelings are the common efforts of two people, if in this relationship, this woman has been paying, but this man will never pay for this woman without moving, then women must also become realistic, when you pay for this man, you must also let this man pay for you.
Shakespeare said:
"Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, not a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." 」
There are some men who just say some rhetoric, and many women just talk about love with their ears, and feel that what the man says is particularly good, then this man is a good man, in fact, sometimes you have to see what this man has done for you and how much he has paid for you.
When a woman and a man are together, when the woman begins to pay attention, the woman actually becomes more powerful, because the woman understands: how much I pay for you, you should give me how much, feelings are originally equal.
Women are no longer stupid, just pay for each other, just listen to some sweet words of the other party, and then they do a lot of things for each other.
Some girls spend a lot of thought and money for this man, but in the end, they have lost both money, and one person silently shed tears.
Once I heard a lawyer say something like this:
There was a girl who transferred her house to her boyfriend, but soon after the house was transferred, the boyfriend disappeared.
After the girl's parents got sick, the boyfriend did not come to see, and finally blocked the girl's phone, and the girl had no way to come to the lawyer for help.
At that moment, I found out that there were still such terrible men in the world, but this was a real person.
Therefore, when girls pay each other, don't pay without asking for returns, when this man is not good for you, you must let this man return your efforts, so that you don't talk about feelings anymore, just talk about some pay.
03. Talk about getting married
When men and women are together, many women always feel that as long as the other party loves themselves enough, then don't talk about getting married, because the other party will definitely marry their own, such an idea is particularly naïve, when you have this kind of thinking, you just blindly give each other.
When a man and a woman are together, the woman must explain the marriage to the man, and consider the bride price to consider the house and the car, and also consider the life after having children.
Some women like a particularly poor man, but this man not only can't give this woman love, but also can't give this woman material satisfaction, but the woman is hanged on a tree.
When you are betrayed by this man, you can't let go of this man, you just don't show up.
It is inconvenient at this time, and realistically, considering the current situation after the two of you are married, you will find that the state after the two of you are married is not what you want.
So at this time, you will slowly put down the other party, after all, the good job is not as good as the marriage.
Many women regret it after they are married, but it is too late to regret it, and before they marry, they have to consider everything and come after marrying.
Fora says:
"Keep your eyes open before you get married. Close one eye after marriage. ”
So sometimes women have to be realistic before they get married, even if the man loves you enough, but you have to be realistic, you don't want to hurt the man, but you have to take into account some material things, you have to take into account the nature of the man.
If this man can't give you something material, and this man is very bad in nature and will betray you, then such a man, even if you love each other very much, even if the other party pours you ecstasy soup, you have to struggle to wake up.
Because after being with this man, the harm is your life, and the two of you are now breaking up and wasting only one or two years of your youth, harming your whole life, and it is not worth the loss.
Girls can long for sweet love, but do not lose their sobriety in love, we do not want to harm a person, but we do not always pay silently to a person, our pay should also pay attention to returns, our pay should also pay attention to sincerity.