The writer Balzac said in his novel "Aunt Becky": Men do all kinds of despicable, cowardly, and sinful things for fun; as if they were born like this.
Men are very mean, and many men don't really love a woman, but in order to get something in this woman, money or body, they can pretend to be affectionate in front of this woman and love her very much.
The reason why many women are always hurt by men in their relationships is because they don't figure out whether men are sincere or fake. Obviously men pretend to like her, but she feels that men really love her, and they don't hesitate to give everything for men, how can they not be hurt?
The tragic ending in a woman's relationship is partly self-inflicted. Women should exercise their own fire-eyed golden eye to recognize a man's true or false intentions. Don't be deceived, the fact that a man doesn't even do these three things shows that he's just pretending to like you.
01. You quarrel, men will not take the initiative to admit mistakes
Men and women have been together for a long time, and it is inevitable that quarrels will produce contradictions.
Men who pretend to love you may be able to show tenderness and sweetness in front of you usually, but when it comes to quarrels, they will break their defenses. Because the other party is pretending to like you, he will think that he doesn't like you, and with you, he has put up with too much.
Therefore, when arguing with you, the other party will feel that they must argue with you, and it is impossible to bow to you and admit mistakes, so that the other party's psychology will be balanced. Some guys pretend to like you, and just once you fight, he will propose to break up.
Li Yong said that in my love dictionary, reasoning means that men should take the initiative to admit their mistakes. Confessing a mistake is not love, a lifetime of non-stop confession, do not fight and do not justify, but also from the heart to feel not wronged, this is the real love.
Celebrities still understand this truth, to their beloved women to admit mistakes, this is the real love, ordinary ordinary men how can not be clear? In the final analysis, when a man argues with you, he knows that you will feel sad and sad because of this, but he is not willing to take the initiative to bow to you and admit his mistakes, that is, he does not like you or does not like you so much.
02. You are sick and men don't care about you with actions
Hornie, a gender expert, has said that when a person loves another person, it is actually very obvious that they want to express their love and want the other person to know their love. So, they will try to be nice to each other.
Illness is your most vulnerable time, men know that at this time you need the most care and care, how he will not behave well in front of you. Buy you medicine, take care of you personally or send you to the doctor so that you can see his love for you?
Men who pretend to like you may have a slight word of concern, forget it afterwards, and some even bother to say the words of concern. This kind of man also really doesn't like you, so he can't understand your pain from the heart and care about you in action.
03. Men never bother to think about your future
The man who really loves you will want to spend a lifetime with you, not just try to have a temporary love affair with you.
The man who pretends to love you, you will find that maybe he will also take you into his circle and meet his friends and parents. But whenever you talk about your future, the other person will always change the subject with you, or say something like that.
To put it bluntly, a man who never bothered to think about your future, when you got married and had children, where to settle down, etc., shows that you are not the woman that the man really loves and wants to be responsible for a lifetime.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: Love for a person, life is equivalent to doing most of the right things. We always envy the women in our lives who have wonderful love and marriage.
In fact, in my opinion, sometimes the reason why these women have men who love them very much is not necessarily how smart they are than us, or they know how to run a love marriage.
Many times, they are just like Zhang Xiaoxian said, just love the right man. In love, they do most of the right things, and they naturally manage their feelings and are more comfortable.
If a woman wants to harvest the happiness of love, she still has to have a wise eye after all, and she must know how to filter out those men who pretend to love you in the early stage, and leave those who are sincere to you around.
In this way, in the later stage, not only can part of the hurt from the feelings be avoided, but also the woman's payment to the right man is also easier to harvest the corresponding return and happiness from love.