A second-married woman and an elderly married woman, which one does the man marry?
In the past, many men would not hesitate to choose the latter, because at that time, many people felt that no matter how bad the leftover woman was, it was better than the woman who was married twice.
However, the answer to this question today may be different from what many people think, and now many men would rather choose a second marriage woman than find an older young woman.
In the past, many people valued the first time, and now although many people also value it, many people can already look at it rationally, and in the eyes of many people, the older leftover women can't marry out, and their own conditions or personality are somewhat problematic.
There is a 35-year-old female high school student, good looking job is OK, in the public institution salary is not high but the problem, the family big city hukou two suites.
Before various reasons have not been married, now older family every day to urge marriage, some time ago the family introduced her to a very good man, but the age is 3 years younger than their own, but divorced without children.
I wanted to get to know each other well, but the other party not only had little patience, but also recently found a second-married woman to talk to, and heard that the two were also preparing to get married at the end of the year.
She felt that this man had no sincerity at all, but if she behaved well, the two might become friends, and now there was really no vision to pick a second marriage.
That woman is nowhere near herself but younger than herself, and she really doesn't understand what men really think now.
How could an elderly young woman with favorable conditions in all aspects lose to a second-married woman?
For the man, 35 years old is already among the elderly mothers, even if the two can get married immediately, it will take a year or two to have children.
Whether or not you can have children at that time, and how the quality of having children, this is something that needs to be faced, and the elderly leftover women are generally difficult to get along with, and people who have been with them should be able to understand.
Although these words are more difficult to hear, like a sharp blade that pierces the hearts of many people, the words are not rough, and the reality is the same.
In fact, before meeting the right person, there is nothing wrong with choosing not to marry for the time being, but as long as it is not strong enough to break away from society, you cannot escape the fate of being selected and compared.
It is said that the marriage market, since it is a market, there must be certain economic rules, and there is also competition.
Now in addition to young girls, there are many young second-married women who are not very old, and even older but very low-condition women.
The recent data of a group of post-00s marriages is already obvious, a total of more than 10,000 married, only 22 men, so so many post-00s are obviously married to men older than themselves.
So now many older leftover women are facing a situation of being attacked on their stomachs and backs, just like the woman above, who is obviously very good but wants to hesitate, and as a result, she is preempted by a second-married woman.
Even if the conditions of the second marriage woman are a little worse, but the other party has no requirements at all, and even takes the initiative to cater to men, the two sides compare many men naturally choose the second marriage woman.
Moreover, the older leftover women are not only attacked by the belly and back, but many men have a generally bad impression of the older leftover women, and they feel that the older leftover women are too realistic.
It feels like with them, marriage is like a simple transaction, as long as your conditions are enough, then you can get married immediately, and the conditions are not free to talk about.
Men are not willing to enter into marriage with a woman with a mouth full of conditions, for many men, is there a condition for me to find a young unscented?
And older leftover women often see through the routine of love and pursuit, and the standards for men are originally high, although they are old, but they are immature in their hearts.
Many second-married women do not have high requirements for men, and after experiencing a failed marriage, they will cherish the happy life in the future, which is easy to be accepted by men and easier to get along with in the future.
There are always people who say that the older leftover women are left behind because they are too good, which is actually a fig leaf.
It's like everyone goes to a big table together, which dish do you see is delicious, and it will be left behind in the end? Basically, it was divided up by everyone as soon as it was on the table.
The older leftover women are left, most of them are not high or low, not willing to wait for so many years, so they lower themselves and seek perfection.
What dishes in the market are good, they must have been sold out long ago, and there is a bit of a problem with how much can be left.
Some smart bosses will buy at a discount, exchange dishes for money and then say, while some bosses are dead and do not reduce the price, typical of the price without market, and finally can only rot in the hand, thrown into the trash can.
There is no intention to create anxiety for the elderly leftover women, because the real anxiety is not created by others, but by their own choice, Xiaobian just takes everyone to see some reality.
Now the little girl after 00 has begun to get married, the little girl has an innate advantage, and the second married woman also has a great advantage because of her diligence and pragmatism.
If you don't see the reality early, you will fall into an extremely embarrassing situation in the future, you are indeed excellent, but the people who can choose are more and more ordinary, and they will get worse and worse every year.