Someone once said: "A good marriage, whether it is a man or a woman, has an unshirkable responsibility." ”
Compared with the love that breaks up when it is not appropriate, the "breakup" of marriage requires thinking before and after multiple considerations, in other words, marriage is not a child's play.
Therefore, in this marriage journey that needs to move forward together and share hardships, no matter which party, in fact, they need to share responsibility, that is, to fight for their own small family, but if one side of the small family of two people is working hard, the other party loses the responsibility and just enjoys, then this marriage cannot go to the end.
Somewhere in Zhejiang, a couple had a conflict.
The cause is that the husband works hard all day outside, and all the hard money earned every month is used to repay the car loan and mortgage, but the wife seems to be unable to see the husband's hardships, and she does not know how to hurt the husband, spending money lavishly all day, the husband's monthly salary is only a few thousand, and the wife buys a high-end cosmetics at any time more than 2,000.
At the beginning of the two couples, the husband did not participate too much, after all, everyone is an individual, with their own values, etc., but it seems that it is the husband's "indulgence" that makes the wife more and more fearless, even to the point of "you should work hard to earn money, and I only use beautiful flowers on the line".
Some people may think that it is right for men to earn money to support their families, and it is understandable that women are "provided" like canaries, but in fact, such marriages are most likely impossible to go to the end.
After all, in the long run, the party who is desperately trying to earn money will become tired, whether it is physical or mentally full of tiredness, and the party who only knows how to enjoy and does not know how to share the burden of the family will also be abandoned.
The reason why men and women choose to marry is not to sink into each other, or to drag each other down, but to support each other and move towards a better future together.
But obviously, this is not the case for this couple in Zhejiang, the values of the two are different, the understanding of marriage is also different, the wife thinks that she is right, the wrong is all the husband who has nothing to do, and the husband who is working hard to support the family, thinking about the monthly magic mortgage and car loan, and then looking at the wife who spends a lot of money, it is difficult not to have resentment in his heart.
Of course, if the economic situation of the two belongs to the top of the pyramid, or the middle and upper, perhaps the husband will only hide his dissatisfaction in his heart, but the fact is that the economic situation of the two is not much better, and there is basically nothing left after paying off the car loan and the mortgage every month, plus some daily expenses, zero and zero are always added together, and the economy is basically just flat.
In addition, the two also have to raise a child, as we all know, today's childcare costs are getting higher and higher, and some people even joke that if there is no mine in the family, I am afraid that I will not be able to raise a child at all.
But perhaps because the pressure to earn money is all on the husband, and the wife who is a full-time wife does not have this pressure to earn money, so she does not move in spending money, of course, it is also possible that more and more people say that the full-time wife is also very tired, not only need to take care of a home, but also need to sweep the floor, cook, therefore, the wife spends her husband's money, without hesitation.
There is nothing to criticize about full-time wives spending their husbands' money, after all, the marriage structure of one person outside the main body and one person inside the main body makes the full-time wives have no financial resources at all, but this does not mean that the wives can spend money lavishly.
Itself, it is not easy for the husband to earn money outside, and he does not earn much, and every month the family still has to pay off the mortgage, car loan and education fees and daily expenses for the children, but the wife still ignores the many times of advance consumption, buys a lot of bags, cosmetics, etc. beyond the family economy, compared with the husband who is eager to use a dollar as two dollars but is thrifty.
Slowly, the contradiction between the two couples arose, and later, at the juncture when a mortgage was about to expire, the husband was overwhelmed, while the wife was a "don't care about yourself and hang high" attitude, and once again spent more than 2,000 to buy a set of cosmetics.
For a while, the anger that had accumulated in his heart was finally unbearable, and the husband smashed all the cosmetics on his wife's makeup table on the ground.
For this reason, the two quarreled, the wife thinks that the husband is incompetent, and does not let her spend money to buy what she likes, and the husband really can't stand the wife who spends money all day, thinking that if the wife is a little more restrained, the monthly mortgage, car loan, etc. will not make him so worried, in addition, the husband also thinks that the wife does not understand his hardships at all.
Subsequently, the wife ran away from home in a negative mood, and the husband who was angry did not bow his head as before, and later, perhaps recognizing the mistake, or perhaps thinking it through, the wife took the initiative to bow to the husband, and stated that she would restrain her consumption in the future, and would also try to understand the husband's difficulty.
There was such a sentence on the Internet: "Marriage needs mutual support, don't leave anyone alone to go forward alone, without each other's love and understanding, no one can survive the desert storm." ”
In fact, marriage itself is not unfortunate, but there may be unhappiness between husband and wife, and the source of unhappiness between husband and wife is "one party is silently paying, the other party is standing by", the key to opening the door to marital happiness is in the hands of two couples who go hand in hand, just like a husband and wife tug-of-war game, what is needed is for two people to work together, to make a difference, to think together, only in this way, can always embrace happiness.
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