"You know what? There is no longer passion between us. "I was surprised when I heard my friend say this.
In the impression, their feelings have always been good, and they will be present in the circle of friends of each festival.
From my friends' accounts, I can understand the situation they encountered at this moment.
"It seems that after falling in love, life is suddenly flat, except for eating and watching movies, there is nothing to do." 」
Love is like the Mobius ring, we are like an ant on the Möbius ring, never escape the arrival of the dull period.
When you are young, you will feel that the flat period is a terrible thing. But in fact, this is not the case.
Because "bland" never means "separate."
In reality, there are still many desirable loves, and they are still good together after the bland period and talk about a sustainable love.
To this end, we interviewed four couples to see what special cheats they used to "keep" their love.
@Vivid: Do you know the "blind box of love"?
My boyfriend and I spent our fourth year together, and it can be said that it was from the beginning of the year to the end of the year. Both of us are workaholics, working overtime until late at night is a common thing, and the only warm storage is to snuggle up in bed and brush mobile phones. Going out on a date on the weekend? Those who don't exist are basically lying at home. Once the boyfriend couldn't help but tease: "We are like an elderly couple." I smiled back at him at the moment" Isn't that the end of every relationship? That being said, when I thought about this paragraph before going to bed, I couldn't help but sigh in my heart: Ben is a young and beautiful age, why is love so lifeless?
Until that time, after I won the blind box hidden model, my boyfriend casually said, "I haven't seen you so happy on a date." I was stunned. Yeah, why can a little blind box make people so happy? Is it because of that unknown that fascinates? So can love also refer to this similar way to regain passion? After that, I designed a blind box game for our love. Find a few pieces of white paper to cut a dozen notes, and then write down their wishes and what they want to do together. Agree to draw once a week to realize the plan on the note. Like a blind box, you never know what a surprise is until you open it, and the content is unlimited, from dinner menus, dating methods and even DOI methods: "Today is at home watching True Love Supreme!" "This lego you've always wanted, happy weekend..." "Go buy a new couple of lovers cups"
It is undeniable that when there is more unknown and randomness in love, each other's hormones will be secreted rapidly, and it feels like having a fresh lover. So, since there is no way to prevent the arrival of blandness, you may as well make each other more interesting.
@Yunsheng: "Listen together" is not just a song
I talked to my current girlfriend for 2 years and 3/4 of the time was spent off-site.
Like most people, I was worried about long-distance relationships at first.
The days when we don't meet each other seem to be no different from being single. Invisible and untouchable text connections on the Internet make it difficult for people to truly enjoy love.
One day I took the bus home from work, and the song of the sunset car was played in the headphones, watching the sunset outside the car dyed crimson.
I really wanted to share my ease and relaxation with her at the moment, and I felt that it was too barren to share by words.
Later, I didn't know what I clicked on, but I found that my avatar and another person's avatar appeared in an interface, and the headphones were not playing songs from my playlist.
I was a little surprised, and a little curious, a search on the Internet to know that this is a function of netease cloud - listen together.
After that, I seemed to have discovered a new continent, and "listening together" became a small secret for me and my girlfriend to maintain a relationship.
It's a bit like the feeling of "my headphones are half of you" in the student days, although the physical distance is not together, but as long as you put on the headphones and listen to the same song, the other party seems to be next to you.
I also built a playlist of our shared songs, and the name is her nickname:
The song list of "Little Xinxin" has changed from a few songs at the beginning to hundreds of songs now.
Not only can we understand each other's current emotions from the songs they are listening to, but sometimes something interesting happens:
"So you confessed to me that you copied the lyrics of my jinji, only you can conquer my time."
"What is this called plagiarism, this is called reasonable application, sunset car yyds hahahahaha."
2160.6 kilometers apart, listening to songs together for 300 hours, 3 minutes and 3 seconds, the same frequency, shared time, so that each minute has each other's presence.
@Hanner: To be in love is to blow more rainbow farts, my boyfriend and I don't seem to have a so-called bland period, because he is really good at it.
Usually he praises me all kinds of praise, and always thinks that I am the best-looking and loveliest existence in the world.
Don't misunderstand me, I have nothing to do with the word "beauty". From childhood to adulthood, in the area of appearance, the most advanced evaluation I received was only "gentle" and "attractive".
But girls, who don't want to look better.
For so many years, even my best friend didn't know that I actually had a deep facial anxiety. Usually, I almost don't post selfies in the circle of friends, and even if I send them, they will quickly hide.
Maybe in essence, I still don't have confidence in myself.
But it was such a mediocre me that seemed to turn into a sparkling presence in my boyfriend's mouth:
"Po, how do you cook it will be so delicious"
"Bao, you dress like this very nice eh, today's style is not the same as usual."
"Bao, don't look at the vibrato, your current figure is quite good."
Even if he is in a bad mood and quarrels occasionally, he always has the magic of bringing bad things back to life.
"Don't talk to me, I'm angry" "Okay, beauty. ”
You see, can this fight still be noisy?
Friends say that after being with my current boyfriend, my whole person has opened up a lot more than before, and I am more confident and confident than the naked eye.
Girls are more and more adorable, but don't forget that boys also need praise and encouragement.
I have now learned to be anti-guest-oriented, and I can't help but blow a rainbow fart at him, but I am embarrassed by him.
Falling in love, isn't it to discover each other's shining points in life?
@Anxi: PPT can also be used for emotional review
My boyfriend is a proper straight science man who often wonders. In this relationship, I often felt like A fist on cotton.
For example, every time the two of us had a fight, I would deliberately reply to his message late. But he never noticed that I was angry.
Sometimes looking at his merits, I console myself: no one is perfect, and if it is not romantic, it is not romantic.
But in the current period, because of the urgent project cycle, he pigeon and my 2nd anniversary, the grievances that had accumulated for a long time completely broke out at that time.
Everyone understands the truth, but emotions are ignored for a long time, and they will be tired.
I came home late that night, and when I entered the door, I found the house pitch black, only the projection was lit.
I was a little stunned at the door, looking at the curtain, the big screen reflected the PPT cover page: Huang X apology report.
Then slides slowly played through.
The slides are not only an apology for the incident, but also a review of past quarrels and future plans for feelings.
The last page reads: Mr. Huang solemnly apologized to Ms. Zhang, and this heavyweight mistake will not be made again in the future.
When the PPT was finished, he walked up to me, holding the anniversary gift that had been prepared for a long time, and sincerely apologized, "I am stupid, so I did PPT, forgive me okay?" ”
Looking at the clumsy him, the anger also subsided for the most part.
Later, I asked him, how did he think of apologizing with PPT? He said that when I was chasing "Love Is Delicious" before, I commented that this way was very solemn, and if I were a party, I would definitely forgive.
It is false to say that you are not moved.
Following the good effect of apologizing PPT, this elm head seems to have suddenly opened its mind, and every time there is a quarrel, it also begins to use PPT for emotional review.
We will also have a battle on his PowerPoint content.
The feelings are better, perhaps because we have found a way to make each other comfortable.
In these stories, what can be seen is:
Love, activated again.
Not every relationship can't escape the dead cycle of bland periods and quarrels, but they often need to "recharge" their love and inject a little fresh oxygen.
The above tips may not be suitable for everyone.
After all, feelings still have to rely on their own slowly accumulate experience and summarize the methodology suitable for each other.
As the saying goes: True love is not that there are never cracks, but that there are cracks that are full of cracks but do not collapse.
Remember to look for your own love pass password.