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In life, when children enter puberty, in addition to personality rebellion, many people will also worry their parents in behavior.
The traditional concept makes it difficult for many parents to talk about sex education, so that children can easily be hurt when they behave out of line during adolescence.
In order to prevent children from going the wrong way, many parents of girls are groping for ways to communicate and educate their daughters.
It is a good thing that parents attach importance to their children's adolescent sex education, but if the concept is contrary to the concept of marriage and childbearing in the new era, it will be rejected by the child.
Not long ago, a mother on the Internet posted a communication experience with her daughter, and her concept of education has also aroused the attention and complaints of many netizens.
"Chastity is the best dowry for a girl," the mother said to her adolescent daughter in case the child went the wrong way
The mother said that her daughter had just entered high school this year, and with the arrival of adolescence, she found that her daughter was more and more fond of dressing, not only buying a lot of new clothes, but also using cosmetics.
With intuition, the mother suspected that her daughter had early love behavior at school, but suffering from no evidence, and in order to maintain her daughter's dignity, she did not directly say it, but chose an opportunity to be alone and shared some life experience and emotional views with her daughter.
During the chat, the mother borrowed a sentence from Bai Wanqing, a Shanghai mediator: Chastity is the best dowry that a woman gives to her in-laws!
The mother frankly told her daughter that youth is beautiful, and the opposite sex attraction is also very normal, but as a girl, you must not have out-of-line behavior, otherwise you will lose the initiative in the future when talking about marriage and marriage, and even be disliked by the future in-laws.
The mother originally thought that her own education would bring a warning to her daughter, but she did not expect that the other party would dislike her old-fashioned and old-fashioned, and even mocked herself as "female morality possession, three views are not correct."
At the end of the article, the mother's remarks have also triggered many netizens to complain, many people have said that parents have no problem with sex education for their children, but if they use chastity to kidnap marriage, it is a kind of gender discrimination against women, no wonder children refuse to accept.
But some netizens believe that the mother's starting point is no problem, it is because the current social concept of chastity is too weak, which leads to many children's thoughts and behaviors being too open, and eventually hurting themselves.
@ a line of egrets: This mother's education is really jaw-dropping, is this still alive in the Qing Dynasty wrapped in small feet?
@ Good grievance: I think there is no problem with my mother's words, I also taught my daughter this way when she entered adolescence, girls must be clean and do the right things at the right time.
@ Four Seasons Flower Sea: This is obviously sexism against women, self-esteem and self-love are not limited to women, boys must also comply.
Is it appropriate for parents to introduce the concept of chastity in sex education?
In real life, in order to regulate their children's behavior, some parents will choose to introduce the concept of chastity in sex education, and associate chastity with the concept of marriage and love, trying to make children understand that having sex with the opposite sex prematurely is self-depreciating and reducing the initiative in marriage in the future.
It has to be said that the starting point of parents is good, and any parent wants their children to meet the right person at the right time and give their most precious things to the right person.
But in the eyes of many young people, this concept is undoubtedly conservative, and children who lack life experience feel that this statement is unreasonable.
Therefore, parents should emphasize self-esteem and self-love in sex education, rather than using chastity to associate marriage, and do not let children feel that this communication is a kind of gender abduction.
In addition, sex education is not exclusive to the parents of girls, and the parents of boys should also communicate with their children at the right time, in fact, as parents of boys, we have a greater responsibility to teach children to protect the opposite sex.
Xuan Dad has something to say
Virginity is the best dowry for girls, this sentence has been criticized by many people, but from the perspective of parenting, parents' education of adolescent girls is mostly based on this sentence.
In addition to the literal meaning, we should see the bitter heart of our parents, and we should not ignore that in the new era of open ideological concepts, more and more young girls are deeply involved in the emotional quagmire and have paid a heavy price with their bodies.
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