I've heard a saying that we women should pursue love sooner rather than later, because the more you get to the end, the more difficult it will be for you to meet someone who loves you wholeheartedly, someone who has no reservations about you. And men are age-restricted to women in terms of love, and no man will really like older women, which is also determined by men's physiological instincts.
It is true that the preservation period of love is very short, and with the increase of age, regardless of men and women, it can be said that the pursuit and persistence of love will eventually become weaker and weaker, especially when people reach middle age.
Of course, this does not mean that when people reach middle age, they have no need for feelings, but relatively speaking, everyone has a new understanding and standard of marriage and love, and will pay more attention to realistic things, such as: material, family situation, work and so on.
So many times, it can't be said that men choose to marry a second woman completely without feelings. It's just that compared with the calculations and purposes in men's hearts, the proportion of these feelings is really minimal.
Marry you at low cost and use you to serve him
According to the reason, it is true that in our Chinese environment, second-married women are not easy to find a partner, and they are also second-hand goods in the hearts of many men. Men who are willing to marry second-married women know this very well, but this just meets their needs, after all, divorced women are certainly not as valuable as unmarried girls, and if they want to get married, the cost of marrying each other is much lower.
Let's not talk about others, in reality, some second-married women remarry because of their past marriage history, they are a little inferior in their hearts, afraid of being drowned by similar spit stars such as "you are divorced, you are second-hand goods", and they are also afraid that their requests will scare away the other party.
Therefore, when many second-married women remarry, whether it is a bride price or a wedding, they are willing to do everything from Jane, and even some bride price can be dispensed with, and it is done directly with the man to get a license.
There are also second-married women who have their own houses and cars, which is in line with the appetite of men who have no ability and are very poor at home. A lot of men don't need love either, just want to be more comfortable through marriage. Since looking for an unmarried little girl to live the same life, looking for a second marriage of women is nothing more than living together, then they calculate in their hearts, it is better to choose the latter is more cost-effective.
This kind of man marriage has nothing to do with love, but find a woman who can support herself and make her life more comfortable, in the end, the second-married woman finds this kind of man to marry, is bought and returned to a few dollars, the man is using you to serve him.
Partners live a life, each with their own plans
There is a saying that second-married couples are thieves, although this sentence is exaggerated, but it is definitely not empty.
The second-married couple lives together, and neither spouse is so sincere to each other. One or both of them may have been injured. Because there are some shadows on marriage, it is naturally impossible to dig up as much as in the first marriage.
Second, if both have children, a bowl of water must be uneven, don't say anything about economic and emotional problems, just say that in the aspect of children, the two sides will inevitably have contradictions and calculations.
So you see that many second-married couples live under the same roof, eating and drinking Lasa do not distinguish between you and me, although the two sides still seem to be quite harmonious, as close as real family, but in fact, both sides are clearly divided into everything, and their respective responsibilities are borne by each other. Some as long as one party is in a big trouble, or lost, the other party will directly choose to leave.
Marriage originally involves too many realistic things, and the second marriage is even more so. Some women, after experiencing some failed feelings, may feel that marriage is nothing more than living a life, and it is not so important to love or not. In fact, it would be a big mistake to think that way.
If a man does not love you, then he cannot have a desire to protect you at all, and he will not have any responsibility in front of you, in life, no matter what happens, he feels that you can be alone, you are very strong, you do not need him.
Even if you make a voice for help, maybe he will only think that you are very troublesome, and even tired of you, think that you have a lot of things, you are a burden to him, and such a marriage, you women, you think you will be happy? So divorced women, especially if they have children, unless you can get something very real in the second marriage, I think it is better not to marry a man easily.