Text / Wake up
Editor / Little Love Letter
"When I was a child, I felt that my father was like the moon, which could be seen and touched, and later I felt that my father was like the sun, still unable to touch, but always warm to me." 」
This is a true confession that Wang Ye said to his father Wang Zhifei, who would have thought that before, Wang Ye was still in conflict with Wang Zhifei on the stage and was scolded?
Wang Zhifei hoped that Wang would also be an actor, but Wang also liked to sing, so Wang even ran away from home on the eve of the college entrance examination, rebelling against his father's arrangement and forcing his father to compromise.
Later, both father and son were quite dissatisfied with each other, so why is the father-son relationship so greatly reconciled now?
01
In 1994, Wang Zhifei, who was already 28 years old, finally ushered in his first son Wang Ye, and finally realized his dream of becoming a father, and naturally liked and loved this little guy.
At that time, there was a saying that after the child was born from the hospital, the father should hold the child and go north, so that the child would be very blessed and lucky in the future.
Such a statement is somewhat superstitious, and few people believe it, but Wang Zhifei believes it.
For the sake of his son's future luck, on the day of discharge, he wrapped the newborn king in a military coat and went north until he felt that his son's luck was enough before turning around and returning home.
Some relatives say that Wang Zhifei is stupid and believes in these things, but only Wang Zhifei knows how much he hopes that his children can live a safe and smooth life as a father, Hong Fuqitian.
After returning home from the hospital, Wang Zhifei turned on the mode of good father.
Pushing off most of the work, the greatest pleasure of the day is to tease his son lying on the crib, and even watch him wave his small hands and deliberately say next to him:
"If you come and beat me, I'll be happy."
At this time, the child, who was only eight months old, could not understand what his father was saying, and would only smile at him vigorously.
Later, the child gradually grew up a little, Wang Zhifei thought to himself, this will be strict with the child in the future, and he will start to create a strict father image.
So when Wang zhifei was also mischievous, Wang Zhifei slapped his ass Bangbang with two big slaps, and Wang also cried bitterly, and returned to his mother's arms to stop crying.
Wang Zhifei thought that the child did not remember things, who knew that in the next three days, Wang did not have a "good face" for him, and when he teased him, Wang also loved to ignore him, as if he did not see him.
At that time, Wang Zhifei understood that his son was very "vengeful", and later he no longer dared to do anything to his son easily, and he also learned how to be a good father and how to get along with his children.
It's just that later work became busier and busier, and the time spent with the child became less and less, and I ignored the child a lot.
Who knows, this actually became the catalyst for the outbreak of contradictions between father and son in the future.
02
As he grew older, Wang also grew up, and when he was in elementary school, he learned that his father was an actor.
When he went to the street to hear others discussing his father's acting skills, he heard a sound of praise, and wang ye's pride in his heart sprang up.
Just after the happiness and pride, followed by loneliness, because Wang Zhifei has been acting outside for many years, his parents' club has never been, and he has not even seen him much in a year.
It is impossible to say that he does not want to miss, perhaps God knows that he misses his father, and not long after the school started, he heard the news that his father was coming to a parent-teacher conference.
When the school started on this day, the school teacher informed him that there was a parent-teacher conference, and he returned home and said to his mother as usual, but this time his mother said:
"This time your dad went, and your school told him to give an open class, and he agreed."
Wang also heard that he was very happy, and returned to the room and jumped on the bed vigorously, thinking that this parent-teacher meeting that people were looking forward to would definitely make himself faceless in front of teachers and classmates.
On the day of the parents' meeting, after Wang Zhifei brought Wang Ye into the scene, Wang Zhifei gave two full lectures in the class, and at the end of the day, all the people stood up and applauded Wang Zhifei, which shows that wang Zhifei spoke very well in this open class.
At that moment, Wang Ye's pride in his heart was also full, and he felt that his father was an actor who was simply amazing.
However, what the father and son did not expect was that the students liked Wang Zhifei's speech not because he spoke well, but because Wang Zhifei just washed away two math classes, so that they did not have to write homework, which was a cheerful applause.
But no matter what, this open class made Wang Ye a little star in the class, and everywhere he went, some people praised him for having a star father.
Wang also felt that it was really good to have an actor's father, but he did not expect that he would extremely reject such a profession in the future.
Although Wang also likes the actor's father, he never wanted to be an actor, he likes music, likes to sing, and her dream is to become a singer, not an actor like her father.
As for why I don't want to be an actor, it is probably because when I spend my winter and summer vacations, I will go to the crew where my father works for a period of time.
I am already familiar with the working environment and content of the actors, and I feel that it is not strange, and I naturally have no yearning.
Wang Zhifei is often busy with work, for these naturally do not know, he only knows that the son inherits his father's business is a kind of inheritance, hoping that Wang also took the college entrance examination to apply for the Central Academy of Drama and become an actor.
As a result, on the eve of the college entrance examination, the father and son had a disagreement about the application for the Chinese drama or the music conservatory, and they quarreled at home, and both sides were stubborn and unwilling to give in.
In order to escape the quarrel with Wang Ye, Wang Zhifei simply went out to drink and discourage, and when he packed a meal and returned home to find Wang Ye, he was dumbfounded, and Wang Ye actually ran away from home.
At that moment, Wang Zhifei panicked, hurriedly called Wang Ye's classmates and friends, and finally really anxious, looking for a friend who was a policeman to help, and finally contacted Wang Ye.
It turned out that Wang Ye at that time was very confused and couldn't decide what to do, so he thought of packing up his things and going outside to be quiet, and he and Wang Zhifei said that they would come back later.
After Wang Zhifei knew that Wang was also safe, he did not dare to say anything to him again, but only told him to pay attention to safety and call him if there was anything.
Who knew that Wang Ye calmed down until four days before the college entrance examination before returning home, Wang Zhifei saw Wang ye and asked him:
"When you come back to take the exam at this time, what will you take?"
Who knows the king didn't care to answer:
"It's okay, I ran away from home with the review materials, it's not a big problem."
Wang Zhifei saw that Wang Ye really smiled with the review of the materials, helpless and funny, and sure enough, it was my son, who ran away from home and kept his sanity and studied well.
In this way, Wang also went to the exam, and finally compromised and agreed to apply for the Central Academy of Drama, which made Wang Zhifei very happy, thinking that his son wanted to be an actor, but unfortunately he underestimated his son's dedication to music.
03
After Graduating from university, Wang Ye did not go to the group to shoot dramas, but found a music teacher to learn to sing, and every day in addition to work, he went to learn to sing and swim in the ocean of music.
After Wang Zhifei knew about it, he was furious and quarreled with Wang Again:
"You are not the material for singing, people have been cultivating singing since childhood, how can you be a half-hanger like you?"
At this time, Wang's dislike and rebellion against Wang Zhifei also reached the extreme:
"I don't need you to manage, I sing is my business, you just take care of your own little family." 」
It turned out that during Wang Ye's college years, Wang Zhifei and his wife divorced, and his son Wang Zhifei lived with him, and later Wang Zhifei married again.
Wang also always felt that his father was sorry for his mother and sorry for himself, so he was very resentful of him.
Behind this resentment is more of an incomprehension, do not understand why the father and the mother divorced, do not understand the divorce after the new joy to confirm the relationship only three days after the act of getting a license to marry.
I also don't understand why my father must ignore his own ideas to let himself go according to his wishes, but never ask himself what he wants.
But in any case, the father-son relationship that is dissolved in blood and water will certainly not be lost because of a quarrel.
It's just that both father and son are violent tempers, when recording the program, Wang Zhifei looked at Wang Ye, who was singing on the stage, and wanted to get angry for no reason, the more he listened, the more he felt that Wang was not singing material, but he did not hit the south wall and did not know how to turn back.
The father and son quarreled again, and this time in public, despite the fact that everyone was attacking each other with language, Wang Zhifei even said to Wang:
"I can't say anything but brains, I think what my friends say is right, and what my father says is wrong."
After that, it was even more shoved, causing the show to have to terminate the recording, and the two separated first to avoid continuing to fight.
After experiencing this time, many people think that father and son are enemies, but where will father and son have an overnight vendetta, the two of them just don't understand each other, not love each other.
Of course, Wang Zhifei will not ignore Wang Ye, and later Wang Zhifei also took singer Sun Nan to cheer him on.
In fact, Wang Zhifei originally meant to let Sun Nan talk to Wang Ye well and tell him that he was not suitable for being a singer and not suitable for singing, and under the negation of such a level of singer, I believe that Wang would also retreat from difficulty.
Singer Sun Nan's recognition also made Wang Zhifei believe in Wang Ye's persistence.
After a while, when Wang Zhifei participated in "Vietnam War and More Courage", Wang also wanted to go to the scene to help refuel.
Just accidentally cold and fever can not go to the scene, so specially recorded a video for his father Wang Zhifei, in the video Wang also opened his heart for the first time to Wang Zhifei said:
"Dad, you are a benchmark that I can use all my life to match, and later I can understand you more and more, here I dig my heart out and say, I feel proud to have such a perfect father as you." 」
Wang Zhifei's eyes were also red when he heard Wang say this, and he couldn't help but say to the host:
"Later I realized that he liked music, and now I am under his wing, as long as he is safe and healthy."
This two-way rush to understand the affection has touched many people, and also reminded us of the gap between us and our father and our relationship with our father.
Many parent-child relationships, especially father and son, both people think that they are a man, and they will not say anything like "Father, I love you, I miss you", which makes the father-son relationship easy to contradict and break.
When I saw That Wang Ye and Wang Zhifei explained him clearly, I couldn't help but think of a passage that Huang Bo said when he talked about his father:
"I didn't understand my father when I was a kid, and then I understood, and now I don't understand."
Father's love seems to be more awkward than all feelings, because he is not good at expressing it, but there is no doubt that the father loves us and thinks about us, but we just don't understand.
There is a saying in "To Kill a Mockingbird":
"You can never really get to know a guy unless you walk around in his shoes and think in his shoes"
This passage also applies to the relationship between father and son, whether it is a father or a child, only from the perspective of the other party to see the problem.
Just like Wang Zhifei and Wang Ye, it is possible to truly understand each other in both directions, and father and son can coexist harmoniously.