Seven years ago, 29-year-old Xiao He met Mr. Liu, who was serving in the army, and opened his first love. Despite the opposition of his father, who is a retired soldier, Mr. Liu married Xiao He, and Xiao He's painful life began. The wedding night, which should have been the happiest moment in her life, but at the urging of her husband, she got up in the middle of the night to count the red envelopes.
At the beginning, she had several unpleasant blind date experiences, and she was very grateful to Mr. Liu for his kindness and attached great importance to this relationship. After a year-long-distance relationship, they had plans to get married.
Xiao He offered to visit Mr. Liu's father, hoping to get the approval of his future father-in-law. Mr. Liu's father is a retired soldier, and he hopes that his future daughter-in-law will work in decent jobs such as civil servants, teachers, and doctors.
Xiao He does logistics work in the training institution and is not the ideal daughter-in-law candidate for the father-in-law. Despite his father's objections, Mr. Liu was determined to be with Xiao He, and after several twists and turns, he finally determined the marriage date.
Since then, Xiao He's life has opened the prelude to pain.
When the two sides discussed the details of the wedding, Mr. Liu believed that since equality between men and women was advocated, why did he go to the woman's home to receive relatives? For this reason, a quarrel broke out with Xiao He.
In an ordinary hotel, there was no wedding dress, no music, no one from the relatives of the man's father was present, there was no festive atmosphere on the scene, and they organized a simple wedding.
Mr. Liu tensed his face the whole time, did not have a happy expression, and was not even happy to toast to relatives and friends.
The night of the cave flower candle was originally the happiest moment in his life, but Xiao He was urged by Mr. Liu in the middle of the night to count the red envelopes and report the amount of the gift to him.
This wedding, Xiao He felt extremely wronged. However, this was only the beginning of her painful life.
She wants to integrate into her in-laws' family as soon as possible, hoping that her husband will take her to contact relatives and friends and get everyone's approval, but Mr. Liu never takes her to meet with relatives and friends.
On the Qingming Festival, Xiao He wanted to sweep the grave of his late mother-in-law, and Mr. Liu was puzzled: "In what capacity are you going?" ”
By chance, she chatted with Mr. Liu's nephew, who told her: "My grandfather said you were cheating on marriage. ”
Xiao He was deeply aggrieved and complained to her husband: "He can say that we are not right, how can he say that I cheated on marriage?" What did I lie to you about? ”
Mr. Liu said: "He has the right to express his own ideas, as a junior, how can you be disrespectful to him and talk about him behind his back?" ”
Xiao He defended: "I'm just talking to you in private, I bought him a down jacket in the autumn, and prepared a warm jacket for him in the spring, where is he not respected?" ”
Mr. Liu blamed her: "You have a set in front of your face and a set behind your back, and this kind of superficial kung fu behavior is even worse!" ”
Her husband's attitude made Xiao He almost crazy, she had bitterness and could not say, all the grievances could only be swallowed into the stomach.
Later, Mr. Liu changed careers, taught at a local university, and ended his life in a different place with his wife, and the two officially lived together. And the contradiction between them is also more acute.
Since getting married, Mr. Liu has never taken the initiative to take a penny from his family, and All of Xiao He's expenses are borne by himself. When she saw that there was not much money in her husband's wallet, she would take the initiative to put 500 or 1,000 yuan in him.
Mr. Liu said, "How can I give my salary to Ms. He?" Wouldn't she be in full control of me then? ”
He longed for freedom and could not bear any constraints. Xiao He reminded him that his clothes should be changed once a few days, and the clothes he wore should not be put in the closet, and the underwear and socks should not be placed in the washing machine.
Mr. Liu was very dissatisfied in his heart, in his opinion, except for sneakers, any clothes can be changed to the washing machine for washing.
In his extended family, the father had absolute authority, the mother worked tirelessly for more than thirty years, everyone was like ice cubes, without any temperature, and the family's chat was never heard at the dinner table.
He hoped that Xiao He could be like his mother, only talking about giving, not taking. He believes that Xiao He's appearance has broken the original balance of the family and is very angry. He couldn't stand his wife's constraints, took all the money, and left his pregnant wife to run away from home.
Xiao He insisted on working until 8 months pregnant before quitting her job, and all the costs of obstetric examinations and hospitalization for childbirth were all borne by herself.
When she only had 1500 yuan in cash left, the child had to see a doctor for a fever, and she had to buy milk powder and daily necessities for the child, which was really unable to support.
She called her father-in-law for help, hoping that he would mediate the conflict between her and her husband, and the father-in-law hung up the phone before she could finish speaking. She called Mr. Liu's sister, whose attitude was equally indifferent: "If you don't have cash, you can also swipe your card!" ”
Xiao He was desperate, if Kari had money, why did she plead with her sister?
In this cold as ice cellar marriage, she felt helpless, broken, and desperate, hoping that her husband could take the initiative to be warm and give her a little love.
Mr. Liu said: "If you don't look for trouble, I think that for your sake of taking care of me, this marriage can still be maintained." If you nag and don't let me have my own space, then you'll have to get a divorce. ”
@ Love deep and shallow a happy marriage, it does need to be the right door. However, this door-to-door pair does not refer to a narrow match in terms of academic qualifications, work, income, etc., but a peerage between personality and spirit.
Although Xiao He did not have a high income from Mr. Liu, she took care of his life, even if her father-in-law did not recognize her, she still did her duty as a daughter-in-law, bought clothes for her father-in-law, and wholeheartedly paid for the family.
In this marriage, it is not Xiao He who really climbs high, but Mr. Liu. Mr. Liu is self-centered and does not contribute to the family, and Xiao He's value in the family is much higher than that of the selfish one.
Xiao He has experienced an unpleasant blind date, has a certain inferiority complex, looks down on himself too much, and repeatedly tolerates her husband's indifference and allows herself to fall into a painful marriage.
Love and marriage are not one-person affairs, they need to go in both directions, and her unprincipled concession is an indulgence to her husband.
I hope she can be confident, realize her worth, and get real happiness.
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