Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
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A friend told me that he found a particularly interesting thing, since the sister-brother relationship has become a trend, many older men have jumped out to oppose it.
Their remarks are usually fixed, going back and forth with those few words.
"Women get older than men, and after a few years they walk together like mother and son."
"The sister-brother relationship will not last long, and in a few years men will change their hearts, and women are doomed to be abandoned."
"Young men like to eat soft rice, so they find a woman who is older than themselves."
These statements are naturally nonsense.
About women getting older faster than men.
In the old days when men were superior to women, women may be older than men due to physical and psychological oppression.
But for today's age of equality between men and women, women definitely look younger than men of the same age.
One is born to love beauty and pays attention to maintenance, one never maintains and smokes, drinks and stays up late. In the end, who is more likely to age, the answer is clear at a glance.
Not only are women younger than men of the same age in the general population, but female stars are also younger than male stars of the same age among celebrities.
A fact that many men don't want to admit: contemporary men are getting older than women.
This is also the main reason why there is a sister-brother relationship.
Not only do men age faster than women, but they also live shorter, and in this respect, it is wise for women to choose men younger than themselves.
After all, marriage symbolizes the happiness of the second half of life, who does not want to grow old with the other half?
About "sister-brother love" will not last long.
This is just alarmist words, you can pay attention to the divorce rate in our country, the vast majority of couples in the divorced population are men and women.
It can be seen that whether a marriage is long-lasting and whether it is a sister-brother relationship is not necessarily related, and what really plays a decisive role is the mode of getting along between the two people and family factors.
As long as the age difference is not large, the results will not be much different.
About eating soft rice.
In most of the "sister-brother love", men play the role of providing for the family.
They have taken on the responsibilities of a man, and even many "younger brothers" have particularly hurt their wives, but those older men are macho, never do housework, and do not know how to hurt their wives.
Whether a man eats soft rice or not has nothing to do with age, it has to do with personality, character and thoughts.
Some women, although married to men older than her, have been living a hard life, having to work to earn money and take care of the housework, and the man who is older than them has never thought of sharing for his wife.
In summary, the older man's argument is simply nonsense.
And there are many questions worth thinking about in this matter.
Why do older men attack "sister-brother love"?
Logically, this matter has nothing to do with them from beginning to end.
"Sister-brother love" is the choice of others, women and young men have not said anything, why are they so angry with outsiders?
How can an outsider act more concerned than the person? There is only one answer, they are not outsiders at all.
Any change in the mode of marriage and love will affect the interests of another part of the people, "sister-brother love" has become a trend, and it will be more difficult for older men to get off the list.
Regarding this causal relationship, it can be shown from two aspects.
On the one hand, older women are not limited to considering older men
Marriages used to be often large and small, and a woman over the age of 30 usually had to find a man over the age of 30, but in recent years it has changed.
Women in 30 can find men within 5 years younger than themselves, and this age difference doesn't have much of an impact on marriage.
As a result, older men lose a large percentage of women they can match.
Young women, on the other hand, rarely consider older men
Imagine why sister-brother love has become more and more popular, and the main reason is that women's nature to like young men has been revealed.
Older women like young men, not to mention young women, after all, small fresh meat is the aesthetic of women at present.
At a time when women are leaning toward younger men, the age disadvantage of older men will be more pronounced, and they will have a harder time stepping into the marriage hall.
It's not so much that they're bashing sister-brother love, it's better to say that this is a manifestation of anger after being annoyed and angry.
The emergence of "sister-brother love" is an inevitable trend in social development
This is not a simple marriage and love problem, but a social problem, with the development and progress of society, the emergence of "sister-brother love" is an inevitable result.
01 The state of marriage and love has gradually changed from male to female to female male
In feudal society, men are inferior to women, and women usually have no choice.
In a patriarchal society, men dominate, and they will naturally choose the other half they prefer, so the marriage model of men and women is thus formed.
Liking the young opposite sex is the commonality of people, men are like this, women are like this, but women in the past did not have the right to choose.
Contemporary women are different, contemporary women enjoy the same rights as men, so they can also choose the opposite sex they want.
Men can choose women who are smaller than themselves, women can also choose men who are smaller than themselves, and whoever has the ability can succeed.
It all depends on ability, not gender.
02 Independent women have more initiative in marriage
Why many women now choose men younger than themselves, one of the most fundamental reasons is that they occupy the initiative in marriage and love.
For independent women, money can be earned by themselves, houses can be bought by themselves, anyway, do not have to be attached to men, why not find a young one?
Both patrilineal and matrilineal societies have their drawbacks, and only contemporary societies of equality between men and women are truly reasonable.
No one has a gender advantage, and everything depends on the ability to eat.
This can stimulate the competitiveness of all mankind, and the stronger the competitiveness, the better the social development.
Survival of the fittest, elimination of the fittest, may sound cruel, but this is the most reasonable development.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
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