Almost no parent can properly handle the relationship between the second child and Dabao.
When parents ignite the idea of having a second child, they must begin to make preparations in all aspects, such as whether Dabao is willing to accept it, whether Dabao can get along well with Erbao, and even whether Dabao will hurt him.
Although some big treasures will not say much before the second treasure is born, after the little one is born, the personality and behavior become extreme. Because the life of the true second treasure is completely different from one's own imagination.
Who should the second-child family treasure sleep with?
After the birth of the second child, the focus of the whole family is bound to tilt towards the younger child, after all, his age is small, his physical fitness and behavioral experience are blank, and a little discomfort will be hurt.
However, this certainly cannot be used as a pretext for ignoring Dabao. After all, Dabao's age is not very big, they are only a few years older, can they bear the pressure that this age should not bear?
Don't forget that they are still children, need the love of their mothers and the care of their fathers, they are also selfish, and they do not want their own love to be taken away by others.
Especially when it comes to sleeping at night. Although from the age of three, the mother should gradually exercise the baby to sleep independently, but most parents still will not act this way, until the baby goes to primary school, the baby should be accompanied to sleep together.
On the one hand, they are worried that they will be inexplicably frightened at night, and on the other hand, they are worried about stepping on the quilt or falling to the ground. Having someone around to take care of them can sleep more soundly.
Therefore, who the baby sleeps with has become a difficult problem in the mind of the mother. After all, your baby's sense of security is not only needed during the day, but more important at night.
Sleeping with elders hurts a lot, and smart parents do it
Sleeping with elders, babies are prone to gain and loss
Although when the baby is about 3 years old, there will be a rebellious period, wanting to break away from the parents, and constantly showing their independent side to the parents. Even so, in their hearts, they still long for their parents to sleep with them.
After all, their social experience is not enough to support them in fighting the darkness of the night. Therefore, they must want their closest parents to be by their side.
But at this time, if the parents choose Xiao Bao and arrange to sleep next to the elders, they will plant a small seed of hatred in the little one's heart, and slowly take root over time.
They will not understand that the little brother or little sister can not live without the mother to eat night milk, but simply think that after having a second child, the mother does not like herself at all. As a result, they will also become sensitive and suspicious in their daily lives, suffering from gains and losses.
In the face of this situation, when the cheerful baby complains to the mother, the mother will also feel that he is spoiling and making trouble. If you are an introverted child, you will not even open your mouth with your mother, but just suffer in silence.
Sleeping together is the wise choice
So why can't two children sleep together? When such an idea comes to mind, Bao Mama will also pass this idea on her own, because if Erbao cries at night, will it not affect the boss's sleep?
In addition, Dabao is likely to cry together because of Erbao's crying, which will also affect the sleep of neighbors, and he really does not want to become a "sinner of eternity"!
In fact, this kind of thinking may be Bao Ma's unfounded worry. Because most children sleep very "dead", even if you want to wake them up, it takes a few minutes to do. The quality of their sleep is really enviable.
Moreover, when Erbao cries at night, the mothers can detect it for the first time, which may be the greatness of the mother. Mom immediately reassured, even Bao Dad would not notice.
In addition, even if Dabao is woken up, it doesn't matter, isn't this just a perfect opportunity to educate the little one? Let them personally feel how hard their mother is, and slowly they can understand their mother a little more.
Alpaca mom has something to say:
Although letting two babies sleep at the same time can solve the embarrassment of the baby competing for favors, it is more difficult for the mother. It is necessary to take care of Dabao's emotions, but also to appease Erbao not to cry.
But isn't that a sweet annoyance? After Erbao quit breast milk, Dabao was already more mature. The burden on my mother is much less, and I can sleep peacefully at night.
However, in order to achieve this harmonious coexistence scene, bao moms also need to do a good job of the whole family, and cannot let the elderly disrupt their plans. So as not to hurt Dabao and add trouble to Bao's mother.
Today's Topic:
How do you deal with the relationship between the Second Treasure and the Great Treasure? Do you have any better trade-offs to share with you?