In the minds of girls, what kind of profession is the most exciting for boys?
According to a survey by "Boyfriend's Ideal Career", the most popular profession is doctor.
A total of 10,000 women were surveyed
Among the many professions, doctors are at the top of the list, which shows the high status of doctors in the hearts of girls.
Search on little red book: Doctor Boyfriend.
Countless girls are discussing:
How to get a doctor
How to find a doctor to be a boyfriend
My boyfriend is a doctor and I'm so happy
Image source: Blogger Fang Fang
To be honest, doctors have always been popular in the traditional dating market.
After all, doctors mean high income, high education, and will naturally be sought after.
But in the past two years, girls have sought after doctors not only because of their external conditions.
Because there are many well-paid professions, programmers earn more than doctors, but why are programmers not popular with girls?
In addition to the relatively good external economic conditions of doctors, it is also due to the special illusions of girls about doctors.
Many girls have shared their hearts for the doctor, such as a netizen who shared:
During the gastroscopy, the doctor's little brother kindly handed him water and helped her lie on the hospital bed.
When the examination form was filled in incorrectly, the doctor was not impatient, but gently helped her to fill it out.
The girl looked at the doctor's back, felt that his back was gentle but powerful, and automatically made up Liu Haoran's face.
After this gastroscopy experience, the girl vowed to find a doctor as a boyfriend.
All in all, the image of the doctor at this time is in the eyes of the girl: a gentle and delicate domineering boyfriend.
At the very least, the image of their brain patch is like this:
The picture shows the TV series: Others are hell
In various medical TV series, the image of the doctor is definitely tall and handsome and golden.
Due to the influence of the TV series, many girls are also fascinated by the doctors.
In terms of knowledge, countless girls asked: "How do you attract the attention of doctors?"
Even on foreign websites, there are many girls who cannot be loved, which shows the love and pursuit of doctors, which is common in China and the West.
However, the gap between ideals and reality is always unusually bone-chilling.
Many beautiful girls only spy on the life of doctors through TV dramas, thus coming to the conclusion of gentleness and domineering handsomeness.
In fact, most real doctors are like this:
Busy at work, dressed casually, no time to spend time with the family, white coats not washed for a long time, dealing with all kinds of excrement every day....
Tired to sleep directly in the department
The rhythm of the doctors' work means that they are in a state of disconnection for a long time, during surgery, in meetings, writing reports, inspecting patients.....
Messages sent in the morning are most likely to get a reply in the evening.
For girls in love, this is undoubtedly very unbearable and painful.
Most importantly, most of the doctors in the top three hospitals are doctorates, which means that the age is almost all over 30 years old.
Most high-quality male doctors, before they become doctors, are selected by female medical school students.
That said, if you see a male doctor in the hospital, there's a good chance he's married.
Therefore, the plot of the domineering doctor who is expected by the public to fall in love with me is too fanciful and unrealistic.
Wu Yanzu's single doctor may only exist in film and television works.
Wu Yanzu-style doctors are difficult to meet in reality
In fact, not only do women have fantasies about careers, but men have more serious fantasies about careers.
Among them, nurses and teachers are the hardest hit areas.
Almost every boy has unrealistic fantasies about women in both professions.
Teachers in boys' imaginations:
The nurse in the boy's imagination:
In their cognition, nurses and teachers are gentle and beautiful and stable in their work, which can provide good support for the family.
In fact, nurse teachers are very busy at work, and nurses have little time to take care of family members.
After all, 80% of life is spent caring for patients.
All in all, in the face of love life, the most important thing for contemporary young people to do is to let go of their fantasies.
No matter what profession you are in a relationship with, the relationship problems you face are no different from other people's.
The profession of doctor and nurse teacher may bring beautiful fantasies to human love....
But you must remember that you are in a relationship with someone, not a job or a career.
For today's young people, what kind of attitude should we adopt towards love?
First of all, be sure to let go of the in-love filter.
That is to say, you have to let rational thinking prevail over emotional thinking.
A person's emotional intelligence in love can be seen precisely from the way of thinking.
A person who likes to beautify his partner without a bottom line is bound to run into walls everywhere in his love life.
Life is not a TV series, there are not so many beautiful filters waiting for you to prove and realize.
For boys, we can intelligently beautify our partners and make intimate relationships more stable.
For example, during the pursuit, girls are fairies in the eyes of boys, and it is not too much to call a goddess.
No matter what shortcomings the girls have, what the three views are incompatible, the boys will accept them all according to the order.
I love you, so your little problems are cute in my eyes.
This kind of mentality is normal, but it does not help us improve our intimate relationships.
Because such a beautiful filter is destined to be shattered and disillusioned, the higher the illusion and expectation in the early stage, the more disappointed it is in the later stage.
In contrast, there is "wisdom beautification."
Simply put, the beautification of wisdom is not mindless or blind.
The most important thing about intelligent beautification is to make a truthful evaluation of your partner.
But at the same time, boys are needed to have a pair of eyes that are good at finding beauty.
What girls want is not blind praise, but praise based on rational thinking.
For example:
Men and women go to the mall together, the girl tries on a yellow dress and asks her boyfriend, "Do you think this dress looks good?"
The boy didn't look up and said, "Mm-hmm, good-looking...."
At this time, the girl's feeling is: the boyfriend is very perfunctory.
Girls are more willing to hear authentic evaluations than perfunctory words.
There are two comments below that you can compare for yourself:
1. The yellow skirt is very white, but the black skirt is more in line with your temperament
2. Yellow skirt is not suitable for you, look fat
Summary: To beautify a partner wisely is to see the strengths of a girl while knowing her shortcomings.
In fact, usually partners know that we are glorifying them.
In return, partners reciprocate the boys' equally kind and positive reviews.
Everyone can see the shortcomings and further deepen the intimate relationship.
In fact, partners know we're glorifying them.
In return, we will also receive the same positive evaluation, which will steadily improve the relationship between the two.
Most people's love is "first emotional and then rational", first fanatically falling in love, and then painfully withdrawing.
The difference between reality and ideals has brought a huge gap to themselves, so they give up this relationship, and then, soon, they start looking for the next "perfect partner".
After all the time, it is likely that he has spent his whole life searching for the fantasy goddess.
In fact, only by treating your partner as a complete person can it be possible to harvest a complete and stable intimate relationship.
Letting go of fantasies and getting rid of filters is perhaps the most important love proposition that contemporary young people should think about.