His own supermodel origin, her husband is young and promising, and her finances have long been free, but even so, Xi Mengyao, who has held two people for three years, also admitted that she has been deeply depressed after childbirth for a long time.
Maybe human sorrow and joy are not the same, but as mothers, especially as mothers who have to face "postpartum depression", their pain is so amazingly consistent...
To share a few true stories with you:
Anxious and constantly worried that she will not be able to play the role of mother
@Xiaoting
Xiaoting is a teacher in a public middle school, married at the age of 28, in the eighteen-line small town is considered to be late, so just got the license less than a month, Xiaoting became pregnant.
In order to spend more time with her children, Xiaoting has been insisting on working until she is close to the due date.
She was very happy when the child was born, and she would share this joy with her friends every day, but after a week, she was anxious because of insufficient breast milk...
She began to frantically try all kinds of ways, just to achieve exclusive breastfeeding, forcing herself to drink seven or eight bowls of soup a day, every time the child refused to suck, crying and wanting to drink milk powder, she also had to use the breast pump herself...
While ignoring the pain of her body, she kept trying more methods, and with her tireless efforts, she could finally let her child drink more breast milk, but she also became more tired because of anxiety.
Every novice mother who lacks breast milk has experienced such painful and difficult moments, but compared to Xiaoting's own efforts, her family has actually been relieved, and let her not have to cling to it, and the mother in another situation has to bear more pressure.
@Xiaoqing
Where Xiaoqing works, the accommodation conditions are not very good, but she has always been a hard-working type and does not mind. But that hot summer, she was pregnant, and the obstetric examination showed that the placenta was too low.
Finally, persuaded by her family, she resigned...
Resigned at home, without any income, she began to do micro-business, learned to write, was cheated during the period, also made a little money, and lived a life of trepidation, but fortunately, she insisted on drawing a stick figure every day, insisting on talking to Mr. every day, because Mr. would tell her a story.
When the child was born, everything went smoothly, from breaking the water to giving birth, it took less than five hours, the child looked particularly good, everyone said that it was an angel baby, and did not let the mother suffer a major crime.
If everything develops from this, this mother must have nothing to do with postpartum depression.
Unfortunately, her breast milk was severely inadequate, the child could not drink much every time she sucked hard, and both mother and son were exhausted.
What makes Xiaoqing even more painful is that the seven aunts and eight aunts in the countryside will first ask: Is there milk? After getting a negative answer, he began to say indignantly: It must be Xiaoqing who did not drink soup, he was so thin after giving birth to a child, he must have eaten less, these young people...
Xiao Qing, who was only one room away, listened to those words and had nowhere to argue, but could only watch the child silently wipe away tears.
In fact, why didn't she taste the pain of breastfeeding like Xiaoting?
Depression may not be so scary, but it's definitely not that simple
In addition to Xiaoqing and Xiaoting, there are many mothers who are anxious and miserable because of a serious lack of milk, and the reason why they fall into depression is because they cannot be cared for, understood, and helped.
Some pregnant women's husbands, relatives, and various elders mistakenly believe that postpartum depression is "temperament", that is, they are throwing tantrums, and in the end, not only can not give the new mother the care they deserve, but even say "it will be good after a while" and "everyone is like this", in order to advise new mothers to be patient.
In fact, postpartum depression is caused by a sharp change in postpartum hormones in the short term + a huge change in life in the short term, and has little to do with the "temper" of the mother.
To correctly understand postpartum depression, we must know these two points:
Postpartum depression is not as high as some people think (thinking it will happen whenever a child is born), and the latest data shows that its incidence is around 10%;
In the onset population, more than 80% are mild. If supplemented by positive counseling or treatment, it can often resolve on its own within 1 to 6 months, and generally does not have much impact on normal life. But if it is a serious illness, it is necessary to see a doctor in time to avoid tragedy.
Understanding the fundamentals of postpartum depression, I would like to share with you ways to alleviate postpartum depression:
Involve dad in the parenting process
On the one hand, it can free the wife from the hardships of raising children, have time to go out to party, fitness, and avoid disconnection with society; on the other hand, it reduces the pressure of the elderly to help with children and parenting conflicts, and effectively avoids the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Diet + exercise + sun therapy
In the face of a non-severe depressive episode, you can try to take vitamin B, vitamin D, or drink some hot chocolate, as well as appropriate exercise sweating, sun exposure to improve dopamine secretion.