My friend Hideko still has half a month to go to be a mother, and these days we call and chat every day, one is to comfort her anxiety before giving birth, and the other is to have some parenting experience and want to share it with her.
Because when I became a mother for the first time, I didn't understand it, and I asked other experienced mothers for help, so I knew how to bring a newborn.
My child is now 10 years old, we learned parenting knowledge at that time, we can only ask the mother who has given birth to a child around us, through the Internet to search to learn parenting knowledge, especially in the rural hometown of us, knowledge dissemination is still a bit closed, so in the aspect of taking the baby also stepped on a lot of pits.
For example, when the daughter was born, the "cry immunization method" was very popular in the field of parenting. And I tried it for a week, and now I want to slap myself when I think about it. Fortunately, later, he made up for his concern for his daughter and did not cause her daughter to feel insecure.
At that time, the mothers around them were exchanging their experience with their babies, such as preparing a small night light for taking care of the baby at night. But at that time, I just knew how to come easily, and I didn't know whether these experiences were correct and good for the children.
It's a lot more convenient now, and we can see it on the web. Knowledge shared by parenting teachers of various professions, as well as by doctors in pediatric hospitals.
I know that many of the previous experiences with babies are incorrect. Let's take a look at some of the mistakes that new parents are prone to make.
Turn on the night light to sleep
Before I gave birth to my daughter, I also listened to the advice of my mother around me, and prepared a small night light early and inserted it at the head of the bed at all times.
I believe that many mothers will also turn on the night light in the baby's room now, because it is really convenient for us to observe the baby and feed.
Adults are much more convenient, but turning on the night light for a long time is not good for the baby.
Although the light of the night lamp is not strong, it will affect the secretion of melatonin in the baby, affect the growth and development of the baby, and also cause the illusion of day and night to the baby, which will have a bad impact on the development of the baby's sleep law.
Although turning on the lights at night will feel troublesome, in the dark, the baby will sleep more steadily.
Change the diaper and raise the leg
Many parents even when changing the baby's diaper, in order to save trouble, directly pick up the baby's legs, and then remove the dirty diapers, and then put clean diapers on the baby.
In particular, the newborn spine is still relatively soft, which will affect the development of the baby's spine and hip joint, and many doctors do not recommend this now.
The correct way to change your baby's diaper is:
First of all, we should turn the baby to either side of the left and right sides to see their habits, that is to say, we need to keep the baby sideways, then put the clean diapers under the baby's ass, undo the used diapers, wipe the little farts with warm water, and then dry them, keep the small farts dry, and then wear the new diapers.
Thinking that breast milk is more and more accumulated
When the mother feeds the baby, when she encounters insufficient milk, she will lengthen the feeding time and think of saving it together to feed the baby, because the breast milk will be enough for the baby to drink.
In fact, it is useless to do so, if the baby does not suck for a long time, the milk will retract. Only by allowing the baby to suck more of our brains will we receive a message that there is not enough milk, so it will direct our body to secrete breast milk.
Generally, the newborn has just been born, and after the mother returns to the delivery room, the nurse will ask the baby to feed and let the baby suck to stimulate the secretion of breast milk.
Judging that the baby is hot and cold is prone to two extremes
I don't know if you have encountered such a situation, I don't know how to dress your children better?
If there are elderly people in the family, they are always afraid of the baby's cold, and they cover the baby with all kinds of covers, and in many cases they will cover up the prickly heat or eczema.
And young mothers believe, "if you want children to be safe, three points of hunger and cold", a lot of parenting knowledge also says that the baby is afraid of heat, can not cover the baby, so give the baby very little clothing, cover very little. There will be a case of the baby catching a cold, and even some babies will form pneumonia.
So how do you tell if your baby is hot or cold?
Under normal circumstances, I judge the baby's heat by touching the back of the baby's neck, and I also observe the baby's hands and feet.
If the back of your baby's neck is warm and not moist, and your hands and feet are warm and sweaty, it means that your baby is dressed correctly.
Many new parents often have these 4 aspects of the problem when taking care of newborn babies, which is also what we thought was correct before, but on the road of parenting, and through personal experience, we know that it was wrong.
Let's share together, on the road of parenting, what are the pits that we are easy to step on?
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