A 10-year-old boy who helped his sister change a diaper cut his eyeball, and it was difficult for his vision to recover: how pitiful a child who endured the pain and didn't dare to say

Happy Dad's Diary

Hello everyone, I'm Happy Dad, what I'm going to talk about today is about the story of the child who had an accident and would rather be in pain than tell his parents, the child is in pain, and the parents are also in pain.

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[The boy scratches the eyeballs and searches on the hot search]

Recently, a news of "a 10-year-old brother helping his sister change diapers cut his eyeballs" has been on the hot search.

The story goes like this, a 10-year-old brother who helped his sister change diapers for a few months, accidentally scratched his right eye with the scissors in his hand while unpacking. Although it hurt, the little boy endured the pain and kept silent until the next day when his parents discovered the abnormality and sent him to the hospital.

Unfortunately, it was too late, the results of the examination showed that the boy's right eyeball was ruptured, although a series of surgeries were performed, it was almost impossible for his vision to return to the same as before, a little boy who was only 10 years old, and still had a lot of good life, but he could only see and live with one eye for the rest of his life, and their world would no longer be complete and would lose its luster,

I have to say that all this is really refreshing, especially for moms and dads. If, we say, what if it is our own child who is hurt, will we be able to withstand the blow of this incident?

And, why?

Why, let a 10-year-old child rather endure the pain in his eyes than tell his parents? Why, let a 10-year-old child rather swallow the pain in his stomach than ask his parents for help? Why, let a 10-year-old child rather face all the unknown fears by himself than choose to be with his parents?

What is the reason for this?

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[How pitiful are children who dare not tell their parents about the pain?]

Under this news, many netizens have analyzed the reasons, and many netizens have told their experiences.

Many times the reason why children do not tell their parents is nothing more than two, dare not and do not will.

A netizen shared that when he was playing basketball in high school, he was accidentally poked in the eye by others.

At that time, he felt very serious, his vision was blurred, his tears could not stop flowing, and he was accompanied by bursts of heart-piercing pain, so he hurriedly called his father and asked him to help him deal with this matter.

As a result, when the father came over, his face was full of anger as if he was looking at the enemy, not to the student who poked his own child, but to his own child, his first reaction was to slap the child, and scolded, "Let you play basketball again, why don't you poke the other eye blind?"

Although this netizen didn't dare to speak up because he was young, this encounter made him feel extremely frightened and helpless, yes, the father who came to him with his first reaction when he was injured was the first to beat himself and scolded himself for why he was not blind, if something happened in the future, do you dare to share it with him and ask him for help?

Coincidentally, another netizen shared an incident that happened to him.

One day in winter, this netizen didn't know whether he was frozen or infected, in short, he had a cold, accompanied by a fever and cough. Burned until his face was red, and his mouth was talking nonsense. She also instinctively asked her parents for help, wanting to get timely treatment to make herself more comfortable, but the result?

Mom and Dad came over, glanced at it coldly, and directly said that the netizen was pretending, nothing more than not wanting to go to school, not wanting to do homework, why pretending to have a fever? As a result, my mother came over to take a look and said directly, you see I said that it was pretended, why else would it be so fast?

Two stories and two kinds of parents, for children, when they were young, their parents were their heaven, and their parents' attitude towards them when they asked for help could affect their lives.

Your impatient anger will make your child feel that he has done something bad, that he does not deserve attention, and that he will never dare to speak up again; because you do not believe in cynicism, you will make your child feel that if you ask for help from your parents, not only will you not get help, but will be hit for no reason, and you will never want to talk about it again.

This kind of reluctance and reluctance is like a spike that pierces deep into the child's heart, and the resulting scar is to build a high wall between the child and his parents, separating the originally intimate parent-child relationship, and also separating the bridge between the child and his parents.

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[A family without internal friction can raise a confident child]

Something similar has happened in many families:

The child happily helped with the housework, and accidentally dropped the food on the ground, and the water was spilled on the ground. The whole family is an accusation, why are you careless, you can't do a little thing, what else can you do?

The child holds a 90-point test paper, although it is not too high but it has made a great improvement than before, I wanted to be praised, but my parents directly fell down, you see that this question is serious is not to be able to do it right, you see that the inscription is written well can not be a few points more, if you are working hard, you can get a full score?

It's obviously a harmless little mistake, but it seems to be a heinous felony to Mom and Dad, and it's obvious that I've made great progress, but Mom and Dad are always able to pick the bones in the egg and find the child's shortcomings. Children living in this kind of family are tense all the time, and when they are not relaxed for a moment, their spiritual energy is consumed little by little in this internal friction.

Actually, it doesn't matter if the bowl is broken, just change it. It's okay to sprinkle some water on the ground, just drag it with your hands. It's not a big deal if you don't get a full score on the exam, just find your shortcomings and correct them next time. But it's such a simple truth, many parents don't understand, or they know but don't want to do it.

I remember reading a hot search news before.

A little girl watched her parents busy in the store, so she tried to help do what she could. She moved a box of beer and walked forward with great difficulty, but the bottom of the box suddenly broke, and the beer inside instantly fell to the ground and was scattered all over the ground. The girl was stunned and didn't know what to do.

The mother next to her saw it, quickly put down what she was doing, went over to help the girl put the box down, and carefully looked at whether the child was injured. As for Dad, there was no superfluous action, and he directly began to clean up the messy ground.

Yes, it turns out that you don't have to be scolded if you break something, and someone will care about you if you are injured.

In fact, when a child makes a mistake or is injured, the attitude of parents will affect them for the rest of their lives.

If you are calm and put your child's safety first, your child will naturally be emotionally stable, and when something like this happens, you will be able to give feedback to your parents and ask for help. And a child who is willing to chat with his parents and share everything, what problems can trouble them in this world?

If you still don't know what to do about similar problems, or you still subconsciously blame your child, you might as well try this universal formula for dealing with the problem:

You're okay + no big deal + what are we going to do in the future.

First of all, we should pay attention to the child's situation to see if they are injured because of this, whether there will be some discomfort in the body, etc., and put the child's health and safety first;

Secondly, tell the child that this is not a big deal, many things that seem to the child to almost fall are a trivial matter in the eyes of the parents, and the parents should pass on this relaxed attitude to the children to reduce their fear;

Finally, it is to tell your child what to do and how to do it better. The bowl fell, the next time we take a little less, hold it tightly, the ground is full of water, we will take it out again next time we shake it dry in the sink, the box is broken, we will take a few bottles next time...... There are solutions to all problems, and learning how to do it is the most important education that children deserve.

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[Last]

As a father, Happy Dad is actually always reflecting, reflecting on his own attitude, and also reflecting on his own education for his children.

In many cases, the seemingly incredible behaviors of children are actually traceable, and the reasons can be found in the parents. Especially like the boy above, as parents, what we have to do is not to blame the child like others, but to be the one who calms the child's emotions and teaches the child the right way.

What do you think?

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