In daily life, being helpful can not only bring help to others, but also in the process of helping others, you can also get your own inner satisfaction.
When facing acquaintances around us for help, we must keep our eyes open and carefully identify. If an acquaintance asks you for this help five times, you must resolutely refuse.
A few days ago, Xiaolin, a good friend who helped his mother, helped others because he did not know how to refuse, and was also complained by others, which can be said to be thankless.
Half a year ago, Kobayashi gave birth to a lovely daughter, in order to take good care of her daughter, Kobayashi quit her job and became a full-time mother at home.
Because Kobayashi's breast milk is relatively sufficient, coupled with the help of grandparents to take care of it, the child grows white and tender, which is cute.
The daughter-in-law of the neighbor's aunt, in order to go out to work, threw the child to the grandmother to take care of, and the child who did not have breast milk to drink could only drink milk powder. Although the neighbor's child is about 6 months old and Kobayashi's daughter, the weight is poor
In order to let her grandson drink breast milk, the neighbor's aunt repeatedly asked Kobayashi for help, asking Kobayashi to help feed the child. Looking at the child who was waiting to be fed, Kobayashi couldn't bear it and agreed.
Who would have thought that on this day, Kobayashi, who was coaxing his daughter to sleep, heard a knock at the door. After opening the door, the daughter-in-law of the neighbor pointed to Kobayashi and said that Kobayashi was nosy and caused his child to get sick.
It turned out that it was because the neighbor's child was sick, and the child's mother felt that Kobayashi's breast milk caused the child to get sick. When Kobayashi's husband found out, he also complained that Kobayashi was nosy and thankless.
In fact, in daily life, such a thankless phenomenon as Kobayashi occurs from time to time, such as borrowing milk, you should carefully identify, do not easily agree to others.
Why can't you easily promise someone to borrow milk?
1. The preciousness of breast milk
Breast milk, as the blood of the mother, is very precious. Mothers who choose to breastfeed their children don't just have to endure the "labor pains" before opening the milk.
And once the milk is insufficient, it will affect the child's normal eating. Therefore, if you encounter a similar situation, do not refuse because of human feelings.
2. Nutritionally balanced milk powder
With the development of the times and the progress of science and technology, the quality of milk powder is becoming more and more guaranteed. Although breast milk is precious, in the case of insufficient breast milk, milk powder can also bring sufficient nutritional protection to the child.
In daily life, when encountering a similar situation, how to refuse?
First, euphemistically refuse, pay attention to the wording
In daily life, if you want to reject others, remember not to reject them immediately, as this will make others think that you have a prejudice against him.
We can take a euphemistic way of refusing, starting from our own situation, and let the person seeking help know that it is not that you are not busy, but that you really cannot help him. In the process of rejection, the words must be polite and euphemistic.
Second, there is a substitute refusal
In the process of rejection, the rejected person will inevitably be unhappy. At this point, we can take an alternative rejection.
In other words, I can't help you with what you ask me for, but I can help you in another way.
Just like kobayashi's case, you can't borrow breast milk, but you can lend it to your neighbors. In this way, the embarrassing situation can be resolved.
What would you do if you were faced with a situation like "borrowing milk"?