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After the child reaches the age of two, his self-consciousness begins to awaken, which is manifested in the fact that the child wants to make his own decisions about everything and does not want his mother to help!
But because the child's development in all aspects is not mature, when the mother does not want to help, the child does not do a lot of things well, it will make the child easy to have frustration, and when it comes to frustration, the child has no way to control his emotions, so the two-year-old child especially likes to lose his temper.
When the child loses his temper, parents must not suppress the scolding or ignore it, when the child loses his temper, it is actually the best educational opportunity for the mother, if the mother is in the child's tantrum, every time can teach the child well, guide the child, you can let the child slowly learn to skillfully control their temper, but also let the child have higher emotional intelligence after adulthood!
When the child loses his temper, parents keep in mind the "two to three don't" to help the child improve emotional intelligence
★ Two things to:
To divert attention
The child's attention span is limited. The child is playing with blocks, not good, when the tantrum, the mother also brought a cute plush toy to tease the child to play, the child may stop crying.
When the child loses his temper, the parent can change the child to another place to play another game with the child, which can quickly divert the child's attention, and when the child's attention is diverted, his emotions at that time can also be alleviated.
Deal with it right away
Some parents pretend not to see when the child loses his temper, and after an hour the child has forgotten, what kind of temper he had at that time, he ran to the child and said, just now you lost your temper is not right, and now the mother punishes you for standing there for an hour, but for the child, an hour ago he has forgotten almost, you give him punishment, he does not know why the mother punished me, the punishment and the mistakes made before are not linked, you can not let the child know what mistakes he just made.
Therefore, when the child loses his temper for no reason, if you want to punish the child, then do it immediately, such as the child is noisily trying to buy toys, the parent's punishment is to let the child stand on the wall in the bedroom, then it must be dealt with immediately, rather than waiting for an hour to deal with it.
★ Three don't
Don't scold your child
When the child loses his temper, his whole emotion is very collapsed, there is no reason to speak of, at this time the parents beat the child and scolded the child, it can indeed make the child stop losing his temper because of fear, but let the child learn to use the method of violent suppression, and when the child grows up, he also learns to use violence.
suggestion:
When the child loses his temper, he can hold the child, comfort the child, let the child know that the mother understands himself, loves himself, and his emotions slowly stabilize.
Don't make a big deal out of it
When the child loses his temper, it is useless for you to talk to him about the big truth, because when the child loses his temper, his emotions dominate, at this time the child's entire brain is blank, it is difficult for him to think rationally, so it is futile for parents to give the child a big reason at this time.
A child who loses his temper can put the child in a relatively safe place and let him lose his temper himself.
Do not handle it in public
For example, when taking children to the playground to play, children suddenly have no fun, they lose their temper and roll on the ground, many post-90s mothers directly hold mobile phones to play next to them, regardless of the child let the child roll in public, which will actually attract a lot of curious passers-by and the audience, which will hurt the child's self-esteem, so it is recommended that when the child loses his temper, he can hold the child to a relatively private space, or take the child home to deal with it, rather than letting the child roll in public.
Children lose their temper when they are young, parents can use the above "two to three don't" principle to deal with, slowly the child will understand that tantrums are useless, tantrums to achieve the purpose of solving the problem is not helpful, he will slowly learn to rationally and rationally express their needs and wishes under the guidance of the mother, thereby improving the child's emotional intelligence.
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