What is the impact of father involvement on the child during child-rearing?
A study from Beijing Normal University showed that paternal involvement was positively correlated with children's communicative and social skills.
Children whose fathers accompany them a lot can adapt to the new environment quickly and are more generous and confident;
Mothers accompany more children and are more sensitive and introverted to new environments.
I don't remember where I saw it, go to the guest's house as a guest, wait for the door to open at the door of the guest's house, generally hiding behind the adults is the father involved in the child-rearing of the child, rushing in front of the general father is more involved in child-rearing.
In general, men as fathers are more bold than women as mothers, and when accompanying children, they use more projects that mothers cannot do due to physical reasons, such as when the children are very young, many fathers will throw their children high and lift high; in the process of growing up, if the father participates in companionship, compared with the mother, the father also accompanies the child more outdoor activities, adventures and other more adventurous and physical activities. As a result, children whose fathers are more involved in child-rearing are also affected and prefer adventure.
The degree of paternal involvement is influenced by a number of factors:
1. Mother's goalkeeper behavior.
Mothers naturally consider themselves to be more nurturing experience than fathers, and tend to stay with their mothers longer and are naturally more attached to them when their children are young. Therefore, some mothers always have a "more professional" attitude to criticize each other when their fathers participate in accompanying their children, such as being picky about the lack of water temperature for a while, and hating the posture of holding the child for a while, which will invisibly reduce the father's parenting participation.
Mothers need to reduce goalkeeper behavior and actively provide a supportive and encouraging environment for fathers to participate in child-rearing.
No one likes it is always denied, otherwise Dad is most likely to simply pick a pick - you can do it, you just do it.
Even if the mother is capable and considerate of the father's hard work, for the sake of the child's more perfect character, she must find ways to involve the father in child-rearing.
Second, children's temperament.
Thomas divides children's temperament into difficult to maintain, easy to maintain and so on. Fathers are more involved in the parenting of easy-to-adopt children than in difficult-to-maintain children.
Perhaps the father is not patient enough, can't stand the crying and "triviality" of the difficult-to-raise children, consciously or unconsciously keep a distance from them as a deserter.
Third, the mother's marital satisfaction
The more satisfied a mother is with her marriage, the easier it is for her partner to be "involved" in childcare.
Mothers who are not satisfied with marriage, with resentment and even hostility towards their fathers, will invisibly erect a barrier when their fathers participate in child-rearing, such as quarreling with their fathers, saying bad things, etc., so that fathers are not interested in participating in bringing children.
Mothers should consider their children, wear a "mask" at the right time, even if the heart is turbulent, they must also be gentle and considerate.
I really can't help but want to have an emotional outburst, it is best to walk away and digest the negative emotions first.
4. Father's income.
Studies have shown that the correlation between father's income and father's involvement in parenting is inverted U-shaped, which means:
The higher the father's income, the less time he has to spend with his children;
The lower the income, the greater the pressure to survive, and there is no time, heart, or even consciousness to accompany the child.
Middle-income fathers, on the other hand, spend more time with childcare.
A friend of mine said that he regretted not choosing a man who was a teacher as his spouse, and now he realizes that men who are teachers have more leisure time, understand and attach more importance to education, and will participate more actively in family life.
I have heard the phrase "suitable men" before, they do not have a mansion or a luxury car, but their basic life is safe and they have more time to spend with their families.
Regardless of income, as an individual father, he must actively sort out the status of his family and children in his own life, and then equip them with the necessary time. If you think that your family is more important than socializing and playing, you should give priority to spending time with your family and children, and reduce socializing and playing games.
As the old saying goes, "The son desires filial piety, but the relative is not there";
I think that it is not only the filial piety of parents who treats them, but also the company of their families and children.
Children will not wait for time to accompany them to grow up,
The wife will not wait forever for someone who does not come home for dinner,
Companionship, time is running out.
Resources:
LI Xiaowei,WEI Xiaoyu. The current situation of father's participation and its relationship with children's social ability: The mediating role of maternal parenting effectiveness[J].Journal of Beijing Normal University (Social Science Edition). 2017(5): 49-58