【Trojan Jun】The little Trojan who has just experienced transnational relocation has won the first "award certificate" in his life.

The little Trojan finally started officially going to school in February this year, ending the life of a child who had been out of school for several months.

In the first week of school, my Trojan dad and I were very nervous.

A brand new school, unfamiliar teachers, and instruction in English that he doesn't understand, such an environment is a huge challenge for children.

In Germany, the little Trojan horse has experienced the process of entering the nursery, and has also experienced the process of promoting from the nursery to the kindergarten, which is regarded as a kindergarten "veteran".

In Germany, the adaptation period for kindergarten admission is as long as 4-8 weeks, during which parents need to be accompanied, and the child is very careful to gradually adapt to the new environment. But in the new school now, there is no such adaptation period, and the children have been living the school independently since the first week.

My Trojan father and I were once very worried, such a "hard landing" process, I don't know if the little Trojan can adapt, will it stage a tearful drama in front of the kindergarten?

Through the early visits to the school and the exchanges with the teachers, we have a lot of trust in the school and believe that they can help the children properly, which makes us decide to accept this new environmental challenge with the little Trojan.

Despite our worries, we have no choice but to observe carefully and watch as we go.

The first week of school was calm.

The little Trojan took the school bus to school by himself the next day. He hugged and kissed us in front of the school bus, then held back tears, turned around and climbed onto the bus with his small school bag on his back.

There was no crying and evasion, and there was no reluctance. He calmly and calmly got used to the fact that he took the school bus.

Watching the school bus slowly drive away, I was very sad for a while, and the four-year-old Trojan had taken the first step of independence.

Fast forward to Friday, and the little Trojan successfully passed the first week of enrollment.

When he got home, he sorted out his school bag and found that he had also brought back an award certificate that said he was the "Star of the Week."

Not only did the school take a picture of him, print it out as an A4 poster, and add a plastic seal.

Yo, it seems to be quite serious. I had some surprises with Papa Trojan.

Middle-aged people are not out of breath, even if they usually how to experience the storm, see all the vicissitudes of the world, meet the children's things, but still sincerely afraid, a little thing makes people emotional ups and downs.

Of course, this small award certificate is not so exciting for me, and I think that the award in the kindergarten has some meaning of "per capita consolation award". I am not the parent of Jackie Chan, and I have never been eager to expect him to receive any honors. What really pleased me was the reason given by the teacher.

His teacher sent us a private message, and she wrote:

Good afternoon, I am pleased to tell you that the little Trojan has been chosen as the first Weekly Star of our class.

We all felt that he deserved the title, he quickly integrated into the class life, he was kind and courteous to teachers and classmates, and he worked very hard and enthusiastically to complete each task.

We were all impressed by his language communication skills. He speaks more and more English in his class, and his Chinese vocabulary improves rapidly.

We're all happy for his super positive and smooth admissions life, and it's done awesome!

Summarizing the teacher's comments, the little Trojan not only adapted well to the new environment, but also good at communication, and the language improved rapidly.

After reading the teacher's message with my Trojan father, I was very comforted to take a look.

The past few months have also been a very turbulent process for the little Trojan.

In the process of adapting to his new life, he also had a brief period of confusion and irritability, and he had difficulty getting along with his Trojan grandmother at the beginning, and became unruly. In an unfamiliar environment, in the face of unfamiliar language, we were once very worried that he would not become anxious, timid, uneasy, and even autistic.

Now that we have finally settled down, the apartment, the school, and the rules of life have all been rearranged one by one.

After the initial period of anxiety, we helped the little Trojan with careful companionship and scientific rules of life. He soon found himself again and became peaceful and confident again.

Seeing the little Trojan is still the cheerful and happy child, the child who takes the initiative to nag with the pilot on the flight, the child who takes the initiative to ask strangers on the street for good morning, the child who is curious about everything and will explore on his own.

At this time, my Trojan father and I would encourage ourselves a little: it seems that our parents are not too bad.

With emotion in my heart, I can't help but summarize myself, in the face of the challenges of transnational moving, new culture and new language, what have we done right?

Probably the most important of these is that he is given a sense of security that he never lacks.

In the years of raising the little Trojan, like many parents, I paid great attention to his inner security.

Security is a very important but somewhat illusory thing.

In my opinion, it is not a matter of food and clothing for wearing one more pair of autumn pants in winter, but the attitude and volume of dad and mom when talking, and it is a family of three holding hands no matter where they go to face what situation.

I rarely delve into parenting theory books, preferring to observe and feel with my heart, and in the past few years, my Trojan dad and I have been working very hard to create a peaceful and happy family atmosphere.

We all know that three people in the family talk to each other, absolutely can not shout loudly, can not say hurtful words, who can not help but lose their temper, must immediately apologize to each other.

Many parenting theories say that children who have a sense of security in their hearts prefer to go out and explore the world because they have love in their hearts and have no fear.

The little Trojan can adapt to the new environment so quickly, open himself up, and embrace the new life, probably because he is a safe child.

There is one other small thing that I often overlook, but I think is very important, and that is to show love often.

This is a challenge for Chinese families, but I have always stubbornly believed that love should not only be spoken, but also reflected in body language.

The child observes the way his parents get along, which forms his first understanding of family and marriage.

As a child who grew up in a traditional Chinese family, when I was a child, I often felt that the atmosphere in the home was cold and that husband and wife could ignore each other. This is, of course, a misunderstanding, and perhaps they are just used to not expressing themselves, and although they care about each other, they never show themselves to others.

With the little Trojan, we don't want to be serious and indifferent because we become parents. I want the atmosphere in my home to be peaceful and loving. We would thank and hug each other in front of the little Trojans. The child is always very sharp, and the little Trojan will come up to us with a smile and a giggle every time.

The three of us often say "meaty" words to each other, and we will also thank each other very seriously.

After reading him the bedtime story at night, he always had to "confess" it in particular seriousness: Little Trojan Horse, do you know? Mom is not—often—loves you.

The little Trojan nodded confidently and replied: Mom, I love you very much, thank you for taking care of me.

At that moment, his heart was determined.

Of course, in the matter of parenting, it is not enough to rely on the mother alone.

Although mothers have worked hard, they have borne most of the burden of child-rearing. But with the little Trojan horse, I realized for the first time how important the role of dad is to children.

Although I often complain about Trojan Dad, he is sometimes willful and irritable, sometimes childish and profligate, but in the matter of parenting, he is really very competent.

Trojan father always likes to take the small wooden horse out, from a very young age, back in the baby carrier out of the door, and then push the small cart to hang out, and now the two often ride out on an electric car out for a ride.

They always have the leisure activities of father and son, while going out for a ride and chatting all the way, from cool new Lego to how to hide from their mother to buy new toys, which is the happiness of boys.

When there is a father around, the little Trojan feels that he is also a man, and he has to take care of the girls like a gentleman. Dad took him up the mountain and into the sea, and he temporarily let go of his timidity and dared to try the challenge.

Whenever the little Trojan horse goes out with his father, he always has a special pride and determination, as if he is a pony boy who follows the underworld big brother to patrol the streets, and his face is full of writing: I have a big brother covered, and I am not afraid of anything.

Looking at the character of the little Trojan horse now, I have to admit that his mother let him eat and wear warm, but his father's company made him more courageous.

Moving across borders, leaving familiar environments and friends and starting from scratch is a big challenge for young children, who may have emotional problems and even personality problems.

Seeing that the little Trojan has adapted to life in China in a very short period of time, he greeted the new school and language with a sunny and cheerful smile, which is the biggest compliment for me and my Trojan dad.

Therefore, this first award in my life is worth commemorating as a whole family.

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