Although children are addicted to the electronic environment and are comfortable with electronic operation, this does not mean that they are very suitable or adapted to this environment. The more indulgent they are, the more they show a strong incompatibility with the information age, and they have not developed the ability to balance and balance behavior for the new environment.
This kind of adaptive behavior does not refer to the proficiency of electronic technology products, but refers to the inherent control and judgment of the electronic environment, which must be slowly cultivated from childhood.
This ability is the ability to keep us free to go back and forth between different activities. It is not only embodied in the free coming and going between the game and reality, but also includes the free shuttle between life and work, the ease of maneuvering between learning and entertainment, and even the up and down between pride and frustration, there is a ability to go back and forth and integrate, while maintaining the integrity of being a person, which is called true freedom.
If man loses this ability, then his existence will be mutilated and divided. Like we said that people who only know that work will not live, he is also divided.
Many psychosomatic diseases are caused by inadaptability and dissatisfaction with the environment. The influence of the environment on people begins in the fetal period. The mother is the living environment of the fetus, if the mother is emotionally nervous for a long time during pregnancy, cortisol and cortisol are changed, it will lead to the development of the fetus in this environment after birth, the excessive secretion of serum adrenal ketone in stress conditions, anxiety behavior and ADHD conditions. Experiments also found that the spatial learning and memory ability of rats born in this case is worse than that of rats born under normal circumstances. Moreover, some gene expressions in the hippocampus region of the rat brain are also different from those of rats born under normal circumstances.
When we treat diseases, especially mental illnesses, it is more important not to focus on the patient's behavior, but on the patient's thoughts, the patient's external environment, and the internal environment of his physical health. In general, we focus on this "person", not "disease".
Illness reflects a person's incompatibility with the environment, showing inappropriate external behavior or inner pain. From the perspective of the general environment, it can be a social and cultural concept, a conflict of values, a way of interpersonal interaction, a way of emotional expression.
Repetitive behaviors such as obsessive-compulsive disorder are manifestations of excessive control over oneself and the environment, seeking certainty, and gaining a sense of security. Manic patients often have a large number of narcissistic fantasies while having long-term inferiority. Depressed patients show self-abandonment due to excessive pressure in this external environment of social competition. The high incidence of depression means that the external living environment of human beings is not friendly to human beings, and most people have a strong inner experience of the pressure of social competition. All epidemics are a collective "statement" issued by people.
Those who can go up and down and are full of elasticity are not prone to depression. Although many of the depressed patients I have come into contact with are successful people in the eyes of others, his own definition of success criteria, the pressure he has endured, the tight nerves, and the lack of emotional place are all invisible to others and only exist in his own subjective experience of the world. They pay more attention to their own inner standards than how others look at him and think of him.
The same question is placed on different people, there will be different answers and results, this is not fate, but due to the different susceptibility of individuals. For A, a few words floating in the sky are nothing; for B, he puts it in his heart, and puts unhappy things in his heart for a day, a month, a year... Slowly, unhealthy results can develop psychologically and physically.
The ancients said: "The wind comes to thin the bamboo, the wind passes and the bamboo does not leave a sound; the geese cross the cold pool, and the geese go and the pond does not leave a shadow." This is a state of mind cultivation, things are born from the heart and destroyed by the heart, which is not easy to do, so we have to "cultivate." In any environment, difficult, favorable or peaceful, everyone's experience is different, which is related to the individual's cognition, genetics and other influencing factors. All psychological problems or mental disorders are first and foremost obstacles to self-awareness.
The environment is the main factor leading to psychological abnormalities, so when treating diseases or symptoms, doctors should understand a person's diseases and symptoms at multiple levels such as society, family, work, and interpersonal relations, and put the symptoms in interpersonal relationships and social environments to understand and interpret.
Therefore, when we study people under the development of new science and technology today, it is not enough to emphasize the personality psychological characteristics or psychological cognition of individuals, which ignores the progress of electronic technology, the popularization of mobile Internet, the application of mobile payment, the development of e-commerce, the discussion of the sharing economy, the reform of new media, the progress of artificial intelligence, the development of virtual reality and other changes in the social environment. To explore individual problems apart from these environments is one-sided, without depth, and without soil.
The environment we are in now is a world of the Internet and display screens, the world on the Internet seems endless, but in fact it is a closed space.
Twenty years ago, computers were still only available for scientific research and office use, people used to read thick paper books, and almost all of the western purchases were traded in cash. Today, we use e-readers to browse group books, use e-banking to shop online or pay bills... Modern people have fully entered the era of electronic survival. In today's rapid development of science and technology, human beings have withdrawn from the "public space" and gathered in a new information world.
Mobile phones have become an indispensable part of people's lives. The mobile phone breaks the limitation of the computer as a terminal device, is easy to carry around, makes the information spread more rapidly, and gradually becomes the most convenient media in social life. More and more children and teenagers around the world spend a lot of time playing games, surfing the Internet, chatting, listening to songs, and the relationship between screens and people is difficult to describe.
In the past, in the era when there was no Internet, there were also some teenagers who had nothing to do, sneaked into the hidden video hall to watch the video, or always sat in the back row of the classroom and worked against the teacher. They express loneliness with some out-of-the-ordinary behavior, and they desperately want to be seen and noticed, but they take the sword to the side. Growing up, no matter in which era, it is difficult for everyone to sing in unison and move towards a bright future, and some youth is cruel, intentionally or unintentionally stumbling, which is regrettable.
In the electronic information age, if children do not want to become a group of sacrifices, they must grasp the subject power and discourse power of the online world - this is a compulsory growth topic for the new generation. Although I have seen the pain of many families because of child addiction, through this pain, I see more of the urgency behind the need for reintegration behind this family, and this family needs to inject fresh nutrients.
On the other hand, many reports hype up the greatness and omnipotence of electronic technology, which is also a kind of self-intoxication of electronic technology madmen, or the "hypnotic law" of business operations.
I think both attitudes are biased. Objectively speaking, the extensive network has become a new frontier for our living environment, and our living environment has been changing from ancient times to the present. Originally, humans invented language, then agriculture, then cities, then trade, government, and the Internet, all of which sustained human cooperation and life on a larger, more complex scale. Humanity has been adapting to the environment and moving in the direction of striving to improve its survivability.
This is still the case today, we need to define our existence and value in an unprecedented online world, to meet the psychological changes and life changes brought about by the new environment.
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