Nowadays, when it comes to the issue of bride price, many people will think of the news of "sky-high bride price", in recent years, although the society has developed, but some people's thoughts still can't keep up, behind these sky-high bride price gifts are mostly the problems of the woman's parents' thoughts.
These parents raise the bride price and mark their daughters like gifts for two reasons: some parents want to leave their daughters' bride price money for their sons to buy a house because of their preference for sons and daughters; or some parents really want to come up with this number to test the man. In any case, it is unreasonable to set the dowry too high, and there is also a clearly said bride price, and suddenly the price increase and disguised calculation are not enough, and the average person cannot accept it.
The issue of the bride price, considering the integrity, if there is a problem with their own integrity, the bride price is not good whether it is lowered or raised, but relatively speaking, the bride price is temporarily increased, there are reasons for the rise, there are also reasons for the fall, the reason why the bride price is lowered, the most likely reason is that some of the conditions of the woman have been caught by the man.
Ke Xin is 34 years old this year, also a senior leftover girl, around her, some girls of her age have had a second child, and she is still single, although the colleagues around her do not laugh at her on the surface, but she knows that she is the most hot topic behind them after dinner.
Ke Xin did not want to fall in love, because he had a boyfriend at the time of graduation, the two people talked for more than two years, and finally because the man split his legs, the two people separated. Since then, Ke Xin has been somewhat resistant to the problem of feelings, and later her career development is very good, she put her mind on her career, did not pay attention to her life's events, this delay has reached the present.
Ke Xin's conditions are really good, because she is an only child, the first two years with the help of her parents, Ke Xin has paid a down payment in the city, bought a two-bedroom apartment for herself, although it is in the suburbs, but also a woman with a house, but it is precisely because of her conditions that many men are looking forward to her, and she has several relationships that have not been successful.
Nowadays, Ke Xin is the project director of the company, there are even fewer men who can accompany him around, in November last year, under the introduction of colleagues, Ke Xin met a boy who was three years younger than himself, his ability is not bad, the salary is also good, but the family is not very good, although he graduated from a famous school, but because of the family lineage, he has not bought a house in the city, he wants to buy with the woman after marriage.
Because Ke Xin's personal conditions are good, through these six months of getting along, her relationship with Jin Ming is also good, and the most important thing is that Ke Xin does not care about Jin Ming's personal conditions, she has bread, and what she wants is love.
Later, Ke Xin took Jin Ming to see his parents, when his parents inspected Jin Ming, they also found that he was indeed a very honest man, very diligent, and considerate enough for his daughter, watching him mature and stable and good tempered, they could also marry their daughters out with confidence, as for the matter of buying a house, after all, it was related to the happiness of their daughters for a lifetime, and their mother's family had the ability to help them some more.
Later, Jin Ming took Ke Xin to see his parents, both parents have no opinion, they are satisfied before they began to plan the engagement, the original engagement said that it was 100,000 yuan, but because the man's family conditions were not good, suddenly the 100,000 dowry was reduced to 60,000, and said: "You see now, we are both old, you are also 34 years old, we are married to have children immediately, even if these money is given, your mother will return to you, since sooner or later are ours, there is no need for so much." ”
Ke Xin felt that what Jin Ming said was also reasonable, and did not bother anymore, so he really lowered the bride price to sixty thousand, but later Jin Ming said that it cost a lot of money to do a wedding, and wanted to reduce the bride price to thirty thousand, but Although Xin was a little unhappy, Jin Ming comforted her: "You see, we take less dowry, your parents don't have to take so much dowry, this is actually for the sake of your parents." Since we are in love, there is no need to worry about money, you see? Moreover, don't hide from you, my parents think that you are still a little older, you still have so much bride price, they must be unbalanced in their hearts, so if you lower it a little, your parents will be financially relaxed, and they can also let my parents see the sincerity of you want to marry me, how good. ”
Ke Xin didn't say anything, she was also in a hurry to get married, and she agreed, but her approach was opposed by her father, who told her: "Whether it is because of your age or really thinking about us that the bride price has been lowered." Have you ever wondered what his actual family situation would be like when he was 28 years old and couldn't buy a house with the help of his family? And his appearance is not bad, until now he has not married, I am afraid it is because of taking advantage, right? A man who is almost 30 years old and still has no faith, if he can't even get out of 100,000 yuan, how can we rest assured that you will marry him? ”
Ke Xin's parents do not value money, but what is angry is that now Jin Mingming obviously has the ability to pay this hundred thousand yuan, and has repeatedly compressed the bride price, compressing the bride price to thirty thousand, which is obviously for other reasons, giving people a sense of calculation, so the parents' deliberate reminder, Ke Xin is not in a hurry to marry.
In fact, the current elderly leftover women really do not need to panic too much, there is a saying that "high-quality single is much better than low-quality married life", there is really no need to be wronged because of the eyes of outsiders, let yourself be imprisoned, you are not for others to live, you should consider your own situation.
There is a passage in the movie "The Winner is King" that says: "She should not marry her parents, she should not hear any gossip outside, she wants to get married after listening to more, and she should think of marrying the person she likes." ”
Girls, love is unattainable, do not choose flash marriage because of their age, the results of flash marriage will most likely have problems, can not see the character of the other party to marry, and finally must suffer losses, and eat losses that are too late. Therefore, I would like to advise the elderly leftover women, even if they have met their own true destiny, they should also carefully consider how marriage can be a big deal, and do not rush to marry someone because of the gossip outside.
Marriage is a big thing, not only the love of two people, but also the personality of two family members, as well as the economic basis, these things must be considered clearly. A man always breaks his promise before marriage, which is the embodiment of his irresponsibility for your marriage, which also lays the groundwork for your unhappy marriage.
Just like the matter of Ke Xin, if it is said that the dowry is proposed at a sky-high price, then the man cannot bear it because the amount is too much, and it is not a matter of reducing it under negotiation, it is originally the man's loss, and he also has to stipulate his own dowry according to the woman's age, is this not a very obvious calculation? I got married with a calculator, and the final result can be imagined.
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