When children reach the stage of adolescence, the most headache for parents is the problem of children's rebellion, some children show that they do not love to learn, bump into their parents, and even some children may make some behavior of running away from home. Parents let their children go east, and children want to go west, which has also become a problem that many parents are very distressed in their children's puberty. So how should we guide children to avoid serious rebellion in adolescence, and today I will teach you these methods. Usually, when I educate my children, I use this set of methods, and the effect is very remarkable.
First, the root cause of children's rebellion
Why do children rebel? We must first understand what the root cause of the child's rebellion is. The child will rebel mainly related to our parents' usual educational means, the child is older, he needs an independent space to play his inner secrets, many parents will be too strict with the child or excessive control. Whether it is excessive harshness or excessive control, it will cause rebellious psychology to the child.
On the other hand, when the child is young, the parents do not let the child develop a good ability to identify right and wrong, resulting in the child's inability to identify his own behavior in the adolescent stage, the child always feels that his own approach is right, without taking into account the parents' psychological feelings.
Another aspect is that parents should respect their children, which is difficult for many parents to do, because some parents think that I, as a parent, should be on top, but as a child, he wants to be respected, especially the kind of parents who have a strong desire to control their children.
Second, how to make children stop rebelling?
1, parents should understand their children
How can we make our children less rebellious? First of all, we have to understand our own children, many parents may say, my own children how can I not understand? In fact, many parents do not understand your child at all, it is just that you think you know him, we want to enter the child's inner world, we have to understand the child's own true thoughts.
2, parents should learn to put down their bodies and be friends with their children
We as parents should let go of the posture of parents in the process of educating children, we must make friends with children, so that children feel that he has an equal right to speak, so that parents and children can establish a good communication. So as to guide the child to discern things, while the parents let go of the posture to reflect on whether their behavior is wrong? After all, parents are not necessarily right.
3. Parents respect and understand their children as an effective way to communicate
The child's rebellion is actually because the child does not get the parents' understanding of his behavior, and the child is also eager for the parents' understanding of his behavior, hoping that the parents can give him more respect. But many children face harsh parents or very controlling parents, and they can only vent their inner emotions and express their dissatisfaction with their parents' educational methods through rebellious methods.
We want our children to be less rebellious, and we have to let go of our parental posture. Learn to listen to the child's inner world, in order to truly understand why the child rebels. Really help the child. After all, the child's rebellion has a great impact on the child's academic performance, the child is dissatisfied with the parents' education methods all day long, and raises the bar for the parents all the time, then he has no way to calm down and study well. It can be seen how important it is for parents and children to respect each other, and understanding children's behavior is also a very important means for us in the educational process.
4, can not use the identity of parents to suppress children
Some of our parents either beat or scold their children in the face of disobedience, this way is because parents think that I am the parent, the child is the child, my approach is right, your approach is wrong. The consequences of this parental repression of the child can lead to a loss of confidence in the learning process and in life, and become more rebellious. Parents sometimes give their children a smile or a thumbs up, which is often more effective than using parenthood to suppress their children.
5, parents should consult with their children more, do not provoke each other
In the face of children's rebellion, we should consult with the children more, take the children to think about whether to do this thing, what kind of consequences will be done, and what will happen if they do not do it, guide the child to analyze the problem, find the problem, and think about whether his behavior is correct. Parents go with their children to discuss the problem, study the problem from multiple perspectives, and then let the child decide for himself whether he wants to do it or not.
The child is rebellious because he does not look at the problem comprehensively and considers the problem carefully. We guide the child to look at the problem from multiple angles by analyzing the problem with the child and finding a way to solve the problem. Remember not to provoke your child easily during the process, as once your child is provoked, he is likely not to continue to discuss with you.
6, when the child loses his temper, parents should be calm
When the child loses his temper, the parents must be calm, and if they want to solve the problem, they must be calm, so that we can think of the most effective way to solve the problem. Parents calm down at this time, but also from another aspect to guide children to face the problem should be calm thinking.
The above is my usual education process commonly used in the education process, my education methods are very useful for my own children, you can also try these education methods, welcome to leave their own educational concepts in the comment area.