In the TV series "Female Psychologist", Tang Lili is a very beautiful and capable girl. But her emotional path has not been very smooth.
Because of her beauty, Tang Lili's vision is very high, and her previous love objects are all rich and handsome, but it is a pity that the good times are not long.
Unexpectedly, after experiencing 2 failed relationships, Tang Lili changed her previous love standards and began to chase after the little policeman, thinking about it, behind her "self-depreciation", she revealed how terrible the original family really was.
Tang Lili's original family
Tang Lili grew up in a single-parent family, and she and her mother were dependent on each other.
But her mother is not great, she is not Tang Lili's dependence, but a "vampire" attached to Tang Lili.
For girls like Tang Lili, reading may be the only way out, but unfortunately, Tang Lili's grades are also average. But she was good-looking, so she applied for the flight attendant major.
Tang Lili is very smart, very good at curves to save the country, and eventually became the first secretary of a company, very much valued by the boss.
Tang Lili is so capable, in addition to her own strength, but also because she has a mother who often gambles money.
For her mother, Tang Lili is her bank card, and she can withdraw money at any time.
Whether the daughter is happy or not, whether she is tired at work, etc., is completely out of her mind.
Even if Tang Lili is misunderstood and insulted by the whole network, she is still concerned about whether Tang Lili can give her alimony on time.
It is said that a child with a mother is a treasure, but Tang Lili, who has a mother, is still a grass.
She can only rely on herself, she can only desperately make money, as if only money can give her a sense of security.
Insecure Tang Lili
Based on the influence of her original family, Tang Lili's values have been distorted, she can make money herself, but she still has to find a rich backer.
Therefore, Tang Lili relies on her own conditions to find a boyfriend who is rich and handsome, such as Fang Zhongyi.
Tang Lili's mother was short of money, and secretly borrowed a loan shark from Tang Lili, and after Tang Lili and Fang Zhongyi fell in love, she not only repaid this part of the money, but also gave her mother a shop.
Tang Lili planned well, and everyone's energy was limited: her mother took care of the shop, there was no kung fu gambling money, and she cut off her mother's bad disease from the source.
In addition, Tang Lili moved out of the villa she rented and lived in the big house of Fang Zhongyi.
Every day when she wakes up, there are mountains and seafood waiting for her to taste, and in her leisure time, she can also relax by the pool and have a glass of champagne, which is comfortable and romantic.
It was as if that was the man she wanted, and this was the life she wanted to live.
Unfortunately, all this is an illusion.
The man is married, Tang Lili is gorgeously third in the small, and the sense of security she got from Fang Zhongyi has all been reduced to a bubble.
At that moment, Tang Lili may have some understanding: she is insecure, and she cannot be cured with money.
The horror of the original family: In fact, Tang Lili's love object has never changed
Another relationship collapsed, and Tang Lili finally faced up to what Horton had reminded her: what kind of love she really wanted.
But no one expected that Tang Lili's next love object was actually a small policeman.
Some people may ask: from a rich and handsome man to a small policeman, what has Tang Lili experienced, and why is her standard gap so large?
Thinking about it carefully, we will find that in fact, Tang Lili's love object has never changed, which is the most terrible place of the original family.
What Tang Lili has always lacked is a sense of security.
In the past, Tang Lili thought that money could give her a sense of security.
Therefore, she desperately tries to make money herself, even looking for a boyfriend, she is rich and handsome.
Only in this way can it seem to make up for the gap in Tang Lili's heart, so that she will have a sense of security.
But after trying 2 times, Tang Lili found that this is not the case, money cannot heal the "wounds" brought to her by her original family, and her sense of security is still lacking.
On the contrary, after several contacts with the little police, she felt down-to-earth and at ease.
The little policeman is a proper straight man, he is not rich and handsome romantic, no rich and handsome will say, but he is thinking of Tang Lili.
Teach her self-defense techniques, let her run in sandbags, send her bone soup, and the little policeman's feedback on Tang Lili's feelings is so down-to-earth that people are heart-wrenching.
The two words of the police alone made Tang Lili feel at ease; such a sense of security was something that Tang Lili had never experienced.
Perhaps, it is precisely this kind of putting herself in the shoes of Tang Lili that makes Tang Lili feel that it is also good to be with the little policeman!
Obviously, behind Tang Lili's "self-depreciation", in fact, what she is pursuing is still the lack of security.
What determines the good or bad of life is not only the family, but also oneself
The reason why Tang Lili has become an extremely insecure person is the "psychological trauma" brought to her by her original family.
Whether she is looking for a rich and handsome boyfriend or a small policeman to be a boyfriend, she is actually looking for her own way to cure.
Tang Lili is a bold person, do what she thinks, and fight when she wants.
On the surface, she seems to have lowered the criteria for mate selection, but in fact, she is reconciled with herself: she finally understands what she really wants in her heart and what she really lacks.
She recognized her truest self deep inside.
The original family is indeed terrible, and the impact it has on everyone is often a lifetime.
What can determine the good or bad of life is not only the family, but also oneself.
Only if we recognize ourselves and dare to reconcile with ourselves, our life can actually be very beautiful!