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When we were young, our biggest concern was: When will we grow up?
When I grow up, I still have troubles: how can I get rid of my loneliness?
The questions I asked when I was a child were answered when I grew up. However, the problem of growing up has become an unsolvable problem.
Because, in this fast-paced society, we are eager to socialize while we are afraid to communicate with people.
In this way, our circle becomes so small that we can only fantasize about certain good things.
For example: love.
Mu Xin once said, "Once upon a time the sun became slow, and the cars, horses, and mail were slow." There is only enough to love one person in a lifetime. ”
However, when we stay in our comfort zone, it is difficult to recognize the right and wrong in love. Only when you lose will you feel powerless.
1, the picture is good, don't just picture each other is good
There is a saying: "Reduce expectations for everything, and everything you encounter is a surprise." ”
Deeply believed, and the same is true in the relationship, don't expect too much from each other. Because, when you ask the other party with your own standards, you will find out later: your expectations will be shattered, and the other party is not as good as you think.
There will always be such a phenomenon: when men and women interact, both sides will establish a perfect image of themselves, and only after the two have a deep understanding will they show their true side.
I've seen a story about a couple who get married in less than 8 days of knowing each other and then divorce in less than 10 months.
The man's name is Liu Baoshan, a driving school instructor, and the woman's name is Deng Mengxin, a pig farm owner.
To outsiders, both have their own jobs, but their disguises are unexpected. Liu Baoshan said that his hometown was to be demolished, it was a demolition household, Deng Mengxin said that he had several storefronts, cars and houses.
Therefore, Liu Baoshan thinks that women are "strong women" and very good, while Deng Mengxin thinks that men are "demolition households" and very rich.
The two married each other with their own purposes, but after the marriage, they found that the truth was not so, and then they could only divorce under various economic disputes and family conflicts.
It can be seen that not all love can stay together for life. Because, the other party you think is very good and excellent, maybe it is just your own imagination, or it is a kind of "deception" of the other party.
Trust between people is fragile, don't try to bet on your own happiness to pursue unrealistic love.
Thinking twice about everything is the right thing to do, and so is love.
2, well said, not as good as done
Men are in love with their eyes, and women are in love with their ears.
Between the two, it seems that they are using their understanding of love to choose their own partners. Especially as a woman, this is an insecure practice.
Someone said, "Spotless things are not, we are all sucking in dust, but it does not prevent us from doing a better job." ”
Admittedly, only by doing things yourself and making the other person fall in love with you is true love. Similarly, you shouldn't be overwhelmed by the other person because they say a few nice things, which is really stupid.
Just like Tang Lili in "Female Psychologist", her childhood lacked paternal love and no superior living environment.
Therefore, she will choose to find a rich man to fall in love, which she thinks is love.
However, when she met Fang Zong, it seemed that the result was not satisfactory. The other party bought her an apartment, set up a shop for her mother, and in the end, she did not think that the other party's wife would come to the door and beat and scold her.
It is precisely because of her ignorance of love that she passively became a "little three" but did not know it.
In fact, Fang Zong had never given Tang Lili any promises about the future, and she should have sensed that something was wrong.
I have to say that when a person takes the love words he hears as evidence that the other party loves you, he must be prepared to retreat.
Because, well said, it is never as good as doing well.
3, the person who is good to you is worthy of the rest of his life
Some people say: "People who remember the past are always easy to get hurt, and like to wait for the rest of their lives to say that they are not harmed, but if you read your old, how long can he wait for you." ”
Also, each of us likes to reminisce, inexplicably remembered, but with inexplicable sadness.
We want a happy and beautiful future, but it is difficult to meet good people.
What is true love?
Different people will have different answers to this question. However, I would like to say that true love is that after two people are together, they will make each other more excellent,
In short, love is fulfillment, not bondage.
For the rest of your life, what kind of person you want to be with, then, you yourself should first become that kind of person. Because, evenly matched talents have more possibilities.
To demand oneself according to the standards of the object is also responsible for oneself and also to respect others.
We always say that we want each other to be good to ourselves, but are you good to yourself?
Nowadays, young people always do not know how to care about their own health, thinking that they are young, they stay up late to chase dramas and play games.
As everyone knows, when you are overdrawing your body, you are also consuming your future.
Therefore, when you have not yet met the right person, remember to try to improve yourself, you will eventually meet at the highest place in life.
Xiaoyuan's message: People who are good to you are worthy of your love.
Life is not long, we should leave some time and space for ourselves to achieve self-worth.
Love, will eventually meet, all the moments of solitude, is the foreshadowing of true love. For the rest of your life, may you shine in your own world and meet the person you love most at the top. Share!
Topic: What kind of person do you think you're going to be with?
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