Today's young parents are busy at work, so they will give their children to the elderly to bring.
In the eyes of many people, the elderly even care more about their children than their parents, so young parents are more at ease to hand over their children to the elderly. However, there are often many hidden drawbacks for the elderly with children.
Xuan Xuan's parents were usually busy at work and didn't have time to take Xuan Xuan, so they handed Xuan Xuan over to Xuan Xuan's grandmother to bring.
And Xuan Xuan's grandmother is also very agreeable about taking Xuan Xuan, after all, she has retired at home, usually idle is also idle, with the company of her grandson is not lonely, and life has added a lot of fun.
In this way, Xuan Xuan lived with his grandmother, and this atmosphere was very warm in the eyes of everyone, which perfectly solved everyone's problems.
When Xuan Xuan slowly grew up and was about to enter elementary school, that is, when Xuan Xuan was 6 years old, Xuan Xuan's parents' work gradually stabilized, and he usually did not have to be so busy.
So he took Xuan Xuan to his home and brought it with him, in addition, Xuan Xuan was also going to primary school, and if there were any homework problems, he could also teach Xuan Xuan.
And after Xuan Xuan's parents took Xuan Xuan home, they gradually discovered that something was wrong with Xuan Xuan, because Xuan Xuan, who was 6 years old, would only say one word a day, that is, "thank you".
Mom bought a school bag for Xuan Xuan, Xuan Xuan said "thank you", Dad loved to buy ice cream for Xuan Xuan, Xuan Xuan said "thank you", I feel, Xuan Xuan will not use other languages to express it in addition to saying thank you.
Why is this happening? In fact, this has something to do with the elderly taking children for a long time.
There are many advantages for the elderly to take children, but the disadvantages are also not negligible, especially in the case of full authority to take children, which may cause some more serious harm to children.
Giving the child full authority to the elderly may have these hazards, which are very hidden, and parents should be clear
We all know that before the child is 3 years old, there is no sense of independence, personality, habits and other aspects have not yet been formed, at this time, handed over to the elderly to take care of, can indeed reduce the burden of young people.
But after the child is 3 years old, a variety of sensitive periods begin to follow, but also the key period of personality, habit formation, at this time, if the parents will also give the child full authority to the elderly care, then the harm to the child will be greater, perhaps when the child is small, the parents have not yet noticed, but as the child grows older, the harm will become more and more obvious.
Children have been living with the elderly, and their language skills may be very poor
Xuan Xuan lived with his grandmother when he was very young, and his grandmother was an honest old man, who usually did not know a lot of languages, and would not often tease children and tell stories to children like some modern mothers, so the communication content with children was also very limited.
The infant period is the germination period of children's language ability, during this time, children are very fond of talking, but they encounter old people who like silence.
Then, the child's language ability and even language enlightenment have not been successfully completed, which leads to Xuanxuan's language foundation is very poor, the accumulation of vocabulary is worrying, and the language expression method is lacking, thus lacking the basic language expression ability to communicate with people.
Leave the child to the elderly, and the child's health index may be reduced
Saying that the old man is dirty is actually not right, because the old man's consciousness also loves to be clean. However, in real life, the elderly have health problems that even they cannot perceive.
Ruyi's grandmother is a person who loves cleanliness very much, and will be diligent in housework every day, making the house look clean and tidy. But does this really create a clean and hygienic environment? Not really.
The elderly have poor physical fitness and get sick every five times, and the sick body will produce more pollutants, such as pathogens such as viruses.
The older the older, the less sensitive their sensory organs are, although they try hard to clean up the home, but some subtle corners of the elderly's vision is not good to see, and sometimes forgetful, will forget that they have not cleaned some places, in addition to the elderly's physical energy is limited, sometimes want to clean comprehensively but have more than enough and lack of strength, resulting in dirt stuck in the living environment.
With the increase of age, the elderly themselves or will have some health problems, such as salivation, runny nose, dripping urine and other phenomena, thereby polluting the living environment.
Living in such an environment, the child's health problems can be imagined.
Allowing children to live with the elderly may lead to extreme personality
The teenager is a domineering child, and the reason why the teenager has become like this is because the teenager and his grandmother have lived for a long time.
In the process of life, grandma often regards the teenager as the "heart meat", so the child is obedient, can be satisfied, resulting in the child has a wrong concept, thinking that their intentions should be satisfied by others, if others can not be satisfied or can not be satisfied in time, the teenager will be angry.
The elderly love the child very much, but the love of the elderly will often "pass", thus becoming doting, which will lead to the child's personality becoming extreme, becoming domineering, and losing the normal concept of right and wrong and values.
The harm of the elderly with children is not obvious when they are young, because the children are underdeveloped and imperfect when they are young, and people cannot judge whether the children are growing up healthily.
But when the child reaches the age of elementary school, these problems will all be revealed. Therefore, parents should not give their children full authority to the elderly.
If parents really don't have time to bring their children, then they can do this:
● Ask the elderly to help with the baby, such as letting their mother-in-law live with themselves, when they go to work, the elderly take care of the children, and after they leave work, they take care of the children themselves.
● Ask a babysitter to take care of the child, if the economic conditions at home are better, then you can ask a professional nanny to take care of the child. However, when asking for a nanny, we must pay attention to going to a regular institution and choose a licensed, experienced, and past employer evaluation of a good nanny, so that the nanny is more professional and responsible.
● Bringing a baby at home, but this method is not recommended for normal office workers, because bringing a baby at home will affect the normal work. However, this method is very suitable for freelancers, business owners, self-employed and other groups, these groups have a free time and have the conditions to bring a baby.
epilogue
The old man with the baby for a while, has been with the baby more harmful, young parents, but pay attention to it, if not forced, or try to bring their own children, even if the child is with their own side, it is better than giving the child to the elderly to take care of, do you think I am right?
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