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"20 years old junior accidentally pregnant, the boyfriend is very good, we have a good relationship, should I leave the child?" 」
At night, before going to bed, I received a private message from a netizen, who said that she is now a junior in college, who just celebrated her 20th birthday some time ago, and recently found out that she was pregnant. After talking to my boyfriend about it, I discussed what to do? In fact, I think we are still young, afraid of not being able to take responsibility, and not wanting this child.
The boyfriend went from ignorance to surprise, saying that he would be responsible for her and begging her to keep the child. And he also told his parents about this matter, and his mother has always called her to ask to keep the child, saying that the child is fate, and when the child is born, she can help bring it, and she can continue to go to school and work with peace of mind. She's struggling now and doesn't know what to do?
After reading this netizen's private message, I thought of a college classmate. The experience of this netizen is very similar, but also in the third year of accidental pregnancy, at the request of the man to suspend the student child. The man graduated a year earlier, fell in love with a female colleague in the same department as soon as he entered the workplace, and filed a divorce with a classmate who only held a wedding and did not receive a license. Now college classmates are taking their daughters to work at the same time, and life is very difficult.
Of course, not all college marriages and children end badly. But the things of life are honestly step by step, and they are always higher than the disorderly order, and the probability of happiness is higher.
At the stage of college study, it is a huge risk to get married and have children
Campus romance is common and beautiful. But after all, the campus is still a place to learn knowledge and improve your own knowledge. The first thing is to improve their own ability and lay a good foundation for entering the society in the future. If you meet someone you like, you can talk about a campus love, live up to your youth, and it is also a good thing to add to the icing on the cake.
But blindly getting married and having a baby carries a great risk. The feelings of college are very pure, and everyone likes a person simply like this person, and they don't think too much about it. When the love is strong, the girl is pregnant, the two are immature in their young thinking, feel that there is love to get married, hurriedly enter the marriage, have a baby, and do not consider the actual situation at all.
But neither of them has experience in society, nor does they have the ability to make money, and both of them have to rely on their parents to support themselves, not to mention a small child. The two not only do not have the ability to run a small family, but also do not have the ability to raise children, and life after marriage is mostly a chicken feather. In addition, they have all entered the society, seen more, know what is suitable for themselves, what they want, and most of them will regret that they have a hasty marriage and a baby when they were in college. Once the marriage is disintegrating, the children are the biggest victims.
To avoid tragedy, the most important thing is to learn to protect yourself
Of course, it's not that you don't want to fall in love during college. On the contrary, I am very supportive of college love. Everyone in the university has simple thoughts and purer feelings, and it is a beautiful experience to meet a person they like, even if they can't get together in the end. If there is a chance to go to the end, then such feelings are even more enviable.
But college can first enjoy the beauty of love and do a good job of self-protection. Don't rush into marriage because of an unexpected pregnancy, and bury hidden dangers in the future. The two are in love, working hard at school, etc. They have graduated, worked hard together in society, experienced several years of polishing, both of them have not changed their original intentions, and they have a deeper understanding of marriage and family, and then consider the big thing of marriage and having a baby, often have a happy ending.
【Topic Discussion: Do you have a college marriage and children around you?】 How are you doing? 】
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