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"Before graduating from college, I got married and had a baby, and the major events in my life were confused, this is really a big gamble, can I be happy?"
"No matter what happens later, I feel that I am very happy now. It was the college that did not graduate from marriage and have a baby, I felt that I could be so happy, the original family really stayed enough, every day to find death and life, until I met my husband, I think the good luck of this life is used to find my husband. ”
When someone questioned the choice of a friend who had not yet graduated from college, she responded with the above passage.
This friend is also fed up with the suffering of her original family, and her experience is quite painful. From childhood, she was not welcomed by her parents who preferred sons to daughters, and was raised by her grandparents, if she had not worked hard and been subsidized all the way to college, she would have been asked by her parents to go out and earn money. After going to college, the living expenses are all obtained by their own work-study and scholarships, and her parents often call her to ask for money, and as soon as she returns home, her parents and parents will constantly quarrel and seek death. Before, she was like a hedgehog and wouldn't let people get close to her easily.
When I met my current husband in my junior year, I got married before I graduated in my senior year, and I really had a graduation certificate in one hand and a marriage certificate in the other, and soon the child was born. I often see her share her current life in the circle of friends, and I can feel her satisfaction and happiness. Seeing her in reality, one look is the quiet appearance of the years, which is very different from the previous her.
When she got married, she found the right person, the original family owed her, and the in-laws gave her. She was unfortunate and lucky. But many girls are not as lucky as she is.
One wrong step may be one wrong step at a time
The friend is happy now, but the future hopes that she will always be happy. But there are more people in life, who should have studied knowledge and skills in college, and then after graduation, used what they learned, worked to earn money and realize their own value.
But he ran into love, accidentally got pregnant before marriage, and then hurriedly got married and had a baby. When others are struggling in the workplace, they take their children at home and experience the chicken feathers of marriage and family prematurely. As they grow older, both become mature, and may regret the impulsiveness of the time, and then the marriage is threatened, only to suddenly find that they have taken a detour.
It is better to rely on anyone than on yourself
Those girls who get married early and have children, and who get married and have children before they are finished. Most of the original family is not happy, there is no warmth and love in the original family, they are eager to get salvation from another family, so once they meet a boy who is good to her, she wants to seize this life-saving straw, achieve redemption through marriage, and get rid of the psychological trauma brought by the original family.
But after all, it is a minority that achieves salvation through marriage, and if they do not pay attention to it, they may jump into another fire pit. It is better to rely on anyone than on yourself, and if you want to be redeemed, you should first strengthen yourself. First get rid of the confinement of the original family. Study well, improve yourself first, plan your own life path, you are strong, a good marriage is the icing on the cake, a bad marriage also has the ability to stop losses in time,
【Topic Discussion: Do you have such a girl around you?】 】
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