A second-married couple who have been married for 18 years, their ending, let me feel that the key point of the contradiction between the second-married couple in many cases falls on the issue of "how to treat each other's children", in fact, in the second-married family, both men and women, in the face of parents and stepsons, the most taboo "bowl of water" is uneven.
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Zhu Hui can't figure out how to think about why her husband, who has been married for 18 years and has always loved herself, suddenly divorced herself, she feels particularly sad and troubled, this is her second marriage, she cherishes it, and she doesn't want to repeat the same mistakes.
Zhu Hui met her husband through the introduction of friends, at that time they appreciated each other, although her husband's career was not very good, but mature and stable, gentle and considerate, Zhu Hui had her own career, and did not do well, so she did not have any requirements for her husband's economic ability.
At that time, Zhu Hui had been divorced for three years, the son followed her ex-husband, lived alone, met the current husband, although he brought a son, but he was really considerate of Zhu Hui, let her feel his deep love and righteousness, she felt that he was the person she could entrust in the second half of her life. In the process of getting along, their feelings became better and better, and later, they naturally got a marriage license and became a family.
Zhu Hui's happy life began, not long after marriage, in order to better take care of her, as well as his own children, he resigned, willing to be a full-time "cook" at home, Zhu Hui was busy outside for a day, back home, her husband's care and care made her feel warm. They were like this, the female protagonist was outside, the male protagonist was safe and sound, and they lived happily for 15 years.
I thought I could live happily ever after, but the peaceful life was shattered with the arrival of Zhu Hui's son. Zhu Hui's son came, and the original family of three became a family of four, and contradictions of all sizes occurred from time to time.
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After remarrying, Zhu Hui has always treated her husband's son as if he were her own child, because her son is not around, and she has poured almost all her maternal love into this stepson who lives together. She has always felt indebted to her son, so after his son returned to live with him, she inadvertently gave more love to her son. Her growing behavior has caused resentment among her husband and stepson.
As a parent, it is natural to have a natural love for their children, and everyone loves their children, which cannot be changed. Therefore, as long as the two children have contradictions and conflicts, the results shown by Zhu Hui and his wife are very obvious. They all blamed each other openly and secretly for not treating their children as if they were their own children, especially Zhu Hui's husband, because he had no economic income and his position in the family had always been in a weak position, and he always felt that his contribution to Zhu Hui's mother and son was greater than his wife's contribution to their father and son. As the days passed, his resentment towards Zhu Hui grew deeper and deeper.
Finally, because Zhu Hui refused to buy a car for her stepson, her husband broke out, saying that his wife's "bowl of water" was always uneven, his son wanted to buy a car, and he bought it without saying a word, and it was his son's turn, obviously promised in advance, and finally he couldn't think about it, and wasted so many years of hard work on their mother and son. He clamored for a divorce and proposed to divide the family property equally.
Zhu Hui realized that she had done nothing wrong, when she bought a car for her son, it was because of business needs, and it was explained that the two sons used together, afraid that her husband and stepson would think more, she even proposed to put the car under the name of her stepson, but the stepson refused. At that time, she promised that her stepson would need to buy him again, but she did not expect that the business would be difficult to do, and there was a shortage of money on hand, so she could not cash in. And now her husband is making a big fuss, and the practice of dividing the family property equally by divorce is really unacceptable to her.
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In real life, there are many second-married couples who have a bad life, or can't go on, because of children, and children are indeed very important for marriage. If the remarried couple had common children, the marriage would have become stronger; if two people had only children of their own, the outcome would have been completely different.
In fact, Zhu Hui has always been good to her stepson, but because her energy is in business and life is borne by her husband, so Zhu Hui's goodness to her stepson is also reflected in the economy, basically what the stepson wants, she tries her best to satisfy. After her son came, she also tried to achieve "a bowl of water" to be flat, but she did not expect that her husband and stepson had a misunderstanding. Zhu Hui realized what it means to be sad for a remarried couple, and it was even more difficult for her stepmother to do it.
For Zhu Hui's husband, he feels that he is flattering to his wife and stepson, and he bears the burden of humiliation, which is nothing more than to let his wife be good to his son. As a result, Zhu Hui made him feel that she had treated her two children unfairly, and for a while she could not bear it, completely disregarding the actual situation and the economic pressure she faced, blindly blaming her, and even more feeling that he had paid wrong for so many years.
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The biggest difference between the second-married couple and the original couple may be in terms of children, the original couple has a bad relationship, but they have a common child, and sometimes even if there is a quarrel, it will be seen for the sake of the child, and each of them is humble.
But for the second-married couple, it is not at all like this, the second-married couple has their own different children, they have a little selfishness in their hearts, after all, everyone loves their own children the most. In the face of two children, even if the other party usually does a good job, as long as there is a little bit of deviation, there will be a deep estrangement.
Once there is selfishness between husband and wife, it is difficult to harmonize feelings, and two people will naturally live in the same bed and dream for a long time, and such a result will lead to the breakdown of marriage, and most of the second-married couples are not living well for this reason.
Therefore, remarried couples, facing children who are not related to themselves, must face up to the problem of a bowl of water, otherwise, the couple with the best feelings will also have a rift, and finally make a two-shot and two-part ending.
In the past, when watching "Family with Children", I especially lamented that a second-married family, a remarried couple, and three brothers and sisters who were not related by blood could get along so harmoniously and happily. I think that is probably only the bridge section of the film and television drama, in reality, it is really too rare, or can not be seen at all. However, no matter what, I still wish that the second-married families in the world can live a happy and happy life like "Family with Children"!